commented on SL Letter of the Day: Gay Husband Single On Grindr
Basically, CAB's husband has embraced dishonesty as a lifestyle choice. I wouldn't trust him as far as I could throw him. This guy is all about himself, not about his primary partner (his husband!) or the men he hooks up with (who deserve to know that he is in a committed relationship). CAB, be very careful as you move forward with this guy. I have a feeling that he's going to tell you exactly what you want to hear, and then do exactly as he pleases.
commented on SL Letter of the Day: The Gateway Toy
Um, I dunno. I realize one has to work at marriage, but she sounds just awful. One routine? No reciprocity?
I suspect if the LW looked at his marriage as a whole, he would see other examples of rigidity and selfishness.
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Barely Legal
I dunno, this letter just freaks me out. I think of what I was like at 16 and can't imagine being with a 21-year-old. My younger cousin was dating a guy who was 19 when she was 16, and my whole family was freaking out. If her boyfriend had been 21, the cops would probably have been fishing pieces of him out of the river.
The LW could be a perfectly nice person, but... this all reeks to me of a controlling person grooming a 16-year-old kid to the point that the older person becomes that kid's whole world. And just when the younger person in the relationship is on the verge of achieving the kind of independence that would allow her to become a fully functional adult, whaddya know? The older person suddenly loses interest.
I don't think some modest financial support would have been out of line at all, but the LW should otherwise have had the grace to completely exit her partner's life.
commented on Savage Love
Ashy knees? What are those? I'm not really up on the language of racism.
commented on Fate Makes a Family
Oh hell. The workman fixing my bathroom is going to get back from his lunch break in like 3 minutes, and I'm bawling like an idiot.