commented on SL Letter of the Day: Time to Expunge
The LW and his GF were a hopeless mismatch.
Having a deeper conversation would never bridge the gap between his rather extreme fantasies and her rather extreme leap to pathology, sickness, and judgment.
DTMFA was the right call.
@20 Please speak for yourself. It is presumptuous to speak for billions of other people who have not consented to your nomination of yourself as their spokesperson.
commented on Woody Allen on Trial
I don't believe Dylan Farrow is willfully lying, but I also don't believe that anything criminal happened that day in the attic of Mia Farrow's Connecticut home. Memories are ephemeral things, and just because Dylan believes what she is saying does not mean that what she is saying is true.
To my way of thinking, it all comes down to what happened between Soon-Yi and Woody. Mia's fury regarding that relationship was so profound and deep that I do not find her credible. I find it plausible to believe that Mia felt justified in taking ANY action to keep Woody Allen away from her children, including coaching Dylan to make false allegations.
Significant investigations were conducted at the time, and criminal charges were never filed. The statute of limitations is long past. Woody merits the presumption of innocence in my view, but everyone is entitled to draw their own conclusions.
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Devoteeeze
To those pissed at the rerunning of a fake letter: in the past, Dan has talked about outsourcing selecting the letters to rerun to a staffer or intern. That applies especially when Dan is away for an extended time, like when he's got a deadline for a book, but it wouldn't surprise me if it is just the standard practice around the office.
So, Dan's staffer or intern committed an oopsy-daisy. Or that's my bet. Tut tut to said staffer or intern, but...human beings aren't perfect. This is the sort of mistake it would be easy to make, since it is a rare thing indeed for Dan to make a big point of a letter being a fake, and the staffer or intern didn't check subsequent columns for a retraction.
So, dear brother and sister readers shouldn't get TOO upset, even though a bit of umbrage is called for, and the staffer or intern ought to be blushing at least a little bit.
commented on Savage Love
I don't think advising a depressed 24-year old to bide his time with sex workers until he's in his 40's is going to cheer him up.
For one thing, if being "functional" is a significant step, I doubt he's earning enough to be able to afford sex workers at all, let alone well-tipped ones.
For another, the prospect of his squandering what's left of his youth--his 20's and 30's--without real romantic and emotional connections sounds terribly depressing.
Furthermore, I'm doubtful that someone without romantic relationship experience, even one whose gained some competency on the physical mechanics of sex with well-tipped professionals, is really going to be poised for romantic success in middle age. If anything, he'll be so acclimated to being alone by his 40's that it will be even harder for him.
As to his "poor" sex life (and "non-existent" romantic life)--to me that sounds like he's able to masturbate to orgasm--not like he's having serial hook-ups or one-night things. So those assuming he's having sex with other people are probably being optimistic: with major depression, even being interested in sex enough to jerk off can amount to progress.
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Seeking Stinky Feet
@ 12, 22. We all hopefully have our no-goes, but to *HATE* having your feet touched is a little weird. A harmless aversion, but one that's a bit of a head-scratcher.
I mean, most folks like back-rubs, and I bet almost as many like foot-rubs.
And I think there are sound physiological/anatomical reasons for liking our back and feet rubbed/massaged: for all the advantages of bipedalism (freeing up the hands for carrying stuff and tool-use; a better view, especially in grasslands, of predators and prey; etc.), walking on two legs does exact a bit of a toll on human backs and feet.
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Tacky Texting
A fury that could not be contained?
First world problems.
Besides, the work thing might have been something she'd forgotten and needed to get to, and didn't want to forget again.
I'd give her credit for conscientiousness to her job, and even more credit for putting up with her miss unnecessary drama pants of a girlfriend.
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Dimpure
Easy call, but given her youth and the fact that she didn't include 'dump his ass' among her available options, I'm more concerned than usual that she will reject this advice out of hand.
Please, letter writer, put some thought--and even prayer--into what Dan wrote before you decide whether or not he is correct.
Also be wary of falling into the old trap of thinking "I can CHANGE him! Because love and Jesus and me so awesome!"
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Fucking the Boss, Take 2
You'll be doing your employer a favor if you do everything in your power to get this asshole fired.
So, as others have noted: document everything; immediately begin looking for another job; be friendly, helpful and gracious to everybody else in the company; get a lawyer; as soon as you have another job, notify HR through your attorney that you are giving notice of your resignation, and that the reason you are resigning is because you experienced a hostile work environment, sexual harassment, and retaliation for refusing the sexual advances of your superior; do not under any circumstances fuck this guy.
Hopefully, your boss ends up unemployed, divorced, humiliated, broken, and a ruined shell of a man. He deserves all of it.
commented on Frank Rich to Liberals: Ignore Fox News
The Daily Show and Colbert mine too much good material to ignore Fox News.
I personally never watch (and I don't bother with any other cable news outlets either). The Stranger could, and perhaps should, significantly cut back on their coverage of the manufactured outrage and bullshit spewed on Fox News.
They just want attention, like any troll. They are sad and absurd, and it is best not to feed them.