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Apr 10 Hunter78 commented on Savage Love.
SOS,

Let me guess: When you were young, you two were fucking like rabbits. As time went by, her interest in sex diminished, yours didn't. My "guess" is based on probability-- that's how libidos most typically drift in LTRs.

However, you've been rather paternalistic in dealing with this. Your loss of sex is a serious grievance, you didn't sign up for this. Not negotiating with her was paternalistic; you acted without her input. You should have stated the problem. You should have asked why. Are you part of the problem? Not giving her attention? Not helping out around the house? Etc.

Assuming she's just no longer interested in sex; you still have to find a solution. Sex remains a powerful glue in relationships. You should negotiate a fixed sex schedule at a low enough frequency that she buys into it. This will still not satisfy your desires. You need the right to look outside for sex. A very reasonable demand on her part would be to keep any activity down low. You can't fuck her friends.

You should be able to fuck pros, but you shouldn't have treated her as an irrelevant idiot.
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Apr 7 Hunter78 commented on Savage Love.
Of course PIV was Marcus's dream goal, and he hoped it'd be by NCA. He wasn't lying about that. He didn't tell her it'd take time, and she might be squicked out. 3 months and time to tell. NCA doesn't feel violated. The dickless sex was good.

But she isn't attracted anymore. She wants to know she's not a bigot. Maybe she can talk to an online community in lieu of her possibly violent friends.
Apr 6 Hunter78 commented on Savage Love.
In the Isreali rape by deception case, didn't she fuck him within 10 minutes of meeting? How important were her standards? Or is that slut-shaming?
Apr 4 Hunter78 commented on Savage Love.
Ven,

Actually, I was expecting/hoping for you to comment on Horstman's post [153]:

You're just plain wrong about sexual orientation being hard-coded. I'm not even sure I buy that it's partly biological, as we have any number of cases of people CHANGING orientations.
Apr 4 Hunter78 commented on Savage Love.
In the news...

Mozilla (Firefox) CEO Brendan Eich resigns because of anti-gay contributions.

I have been a faithful user of the Firefox browser since the days when it was Netscape 1.0, always finding it an excellent browser and a bit edgy because it wasn't owned by MS or other giants.

Last week, Eich, originally a programmer, was promoted to CEO of Mozilla. A mini firestorm broke out when OKcupid and other sources reported that he had contributed $1000 in 2008 to oppose Ca Prop 8, the anti-gay marriage referendum. I was going to switch to another browser (maybe Chrome or Opera) in quiet protest.

Eich fought the matter at first, but yesterday he resigned because of the controversy.

As said, I was ready to switch, but not without 2nd thoughts. This was his private political stance (not to be confused with a "wide stance"), and it wasn't explicitly anti-gay. He bought the "defense of marriage" rhetoric. Conservatives are far superior in controlling the political vocabulary (job creators, death taxes, right to life, etc, etc).

My concern is leaders shying away from controversial decisions because of fear of backlash. Just a decade ago there might have been a backlash against someone promoting gay rights.
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Apr 3 Hunter78 commented on Savage Love.
Lil Scrapper,

I agree with most of what you said, but she's not obligated to maintain contact with transpeople.
Apr 2 Hunter78 commented on Savage Love.
The transperson has a right to hide.

The other has a right to decline (and without being called a bigot).
Apr 2 Hunter78 commented on Savage Love.
Myd,

You are so full of yourself. You have obviously never noticed the many msgs I have posted in response to the letters and other posters, because, obviously, they weren't about you. I have avoided responding to your inanities for a long time, but your recent missives have been so stupid (eg, uncut men are antisemitic, foreskins are like cue card-sized labia), they merited comment. Stop looking in the mirror.
Apr 2 Hunter78 commented on Savage Love.
Myd,

So you're under the impression that foreskins are size of cue cards...
Apr 1 Hunter78 commented on Savage Love.
You heard it here first, being uncut is antisemitic.
 
 

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