Feb 18, 2015
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Eat and Run
nocutename, I think the mentorship idea isn't a bad one, especially if the LW is bored enough that he doesn't want even a FWB arrangement anymore.
However, I don't think there is any harm in the gentle honesty Dan recommended. I wouldn't suggest calling the kid "boring"; honest or not that's just cruel. However, "I like the blowjobs, but I need us to became the "friends" part of this friends with benefits arrangement if we want to continue" is gentle, friendly, and honest.
If the 18-year-old wants to say something horrible after that, I think the LW will be able to handle it.
Feb 10, 2015
commented on How I Discovered Cat Crack: Friskies Surfin' & Turfin' Favorites
I had a similar experience. While unemployed, I ran out of money and switched away from my pretty good cat food to the cheapest Friskies kind.
End result was that despite controlled feedings at set times one of my cats gained 3-4 lbs (a lot on a 13 lb cat!) and the other somehow became perpetually, uncomfortably, disturbingly horny. Despite being fixed, he was going after everything: pillows, slippers, the dog, the other cat.
At that point I realized there was something wrong with the food, downgraded my ramen, and went back to the pricy stuff for the cats. The horny cat chilled out after a few days, thankfully. The fat cat remained fat (it took years to get off him!) but at least his appetite went back to normal and he stopped gaining weight.
Jan 28, 2015
commented on Who Knew Tom Petty Could Be So Litigious?!
Eh, I heard "Won't back Down" the moment I first heard "Stay With Me."
I don't know that I'm quite ready to cry PLAGIARISM!!! though. I mean, that's a pretty simple chord progression and rhythm combination. The rest of the elements seem distinct enough to make them decidedly different songs.
Still, if Smith didn't intentionally steal, he probably subconsciously did... maybe tweaked until the chorus just sounded right, not recognizing that the reason it does is simply that a classic Petty song already did it.
Jan 28, 2015
commented on SL Letter of the Day: She Had Her First Threesome And...
Yes, Dan Savage and his columns have generally had a positive influence on my life and sex life.
In fact, he helped me DTMFA when my last relationship was spiraling downhill... not because he answered the letter, but because I wrote it, read it, and knew there was only one possible answer.
Nov 27, 2014
commented on Home For Thanksgiving and Not Interested in the Game, Your Cousins, or More Pie?
So, I confess. when I got to the part in which it started asking me about my partner after I told it I was single, I backed off a month or so and used the unhappy relationship I finally got myself out of. I mean, had they asked me anytime in the past year (possibly longer), that's how I would have answered, so doesn't skew anything statistically.
Sad how clear things become when laid out on a survey like that.
Nov 15, 2014
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Give Up Already
There is so much denial and lack of communication in that letter I have a really hard time believing the cheating is the only problem.
I guess that if it is the only problem, and they somehow communicate openly about their kids, future plans, daily life, etc then an open marriage might work. I do hae a hard time believing it.