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Apr 22
shurenka commented on SL Letter of the Day: Mate Or Mat?.
shurenka commented on SL Letter of the Day: Mate Or Mat?.
@19 yep, some people talk a good game and maybe that's what's strung him along. one assumes if it's real there has to be *something* to have kept him along, and that he just omitted it because he wrote this letter clearly in a state of rage/anguish.
Apr 22
shurenka commented on SL Letter of the Day: Mate Or Mat?.
shurenka commented on SL Letter of the Day: Mate Or Mat?.
Also FWIW, TED, you've been a schmuck, and wasted most of your life out of what? principle? ill-advised hope? DTMFA and take advantage of your swingin', libertine profession, whatever it is.
Apr 22
shurenka commented on SL Letter of the Day: Mate Or Mat?.
shurenka commented on SL Letter of the Day: Mate Or Mat?.
I honestly wonder *how* do these people get married. Or did she suck her teeth and roll her eyes when he proposed too?
Apr 20
shurenka commented on SL Letter of the Day: Mystery Bulk.
shurenka commented on SL Letter of the Day: Mystery Bulk.
@28 Whoa, your reaction is way overblown. Projecting much maybe? Seriously, it's impossible *not* to casually notice a coworker's possibly strange fluctuations in pant sizes. It doesn't require a lot of thought or obsessive watching to wonder "what the hell is going on there".
Whether or not it is his or her business is irrelevant, since she's not asking the coworker directly (which I agree would be inappropriate at work), she's posing the question to a sex columnist.
Whether or not it is his or her business is irrelevant, since she's not asking the coworker directly (which I agree would be inappropriate at work), she's posing the question to a sex columnist.
Apr 20
shurenka commented on SL Letter of the Day: Big Time.
shurenka commented on SL Letter of the Day: Big Time.
@67, you're projecting, not everyone here (certainly not myself) would judge a friend for having a fat girlfriend.
Also, thank you for trying to mansplain what I meant in @68! But no, the point is that there is no mutual exclusivity between traits like "trashy", "fat", "intellectual", etc except in the LW's mind. It's true it's not in the letter itself directly, but it's heavily implied in the sub rosa text.
Also, thank you for trying to mansplain what I meant in @68! But no, the point is that there is no mutual exclusivity between traits like "trashy", "fat", "intellectual", etc except in the LW's mind. It's true it's not in the letter itself directly, but it's heavily implied in the sub rosa text.
Apr 17
shurenka commented on SL Letter of the Day: Big Time.
shurenka commented on SL Letter of the Day: Big Time.
@41 "And by "phobic", I mean that you're simply turned off by fatness as a physical attribute."
But that's not the definition of fatphobia, as others have pointed out. I will acknowledge that if you did implicit association tests, everybody would show some degree of fat bias (and racism, and heightism, and sexism). But, that does not make irrelevant a person's conscious efforts to combat this.
Also, the LW writes: However, since high school I've been turned on by thick, big-butt, big-tit, ugly, trashy girls. In my 20s, I would secretly go to bars in the suburbs to pick up these thick, ugly girls. But I've only ever been in relationships with fit, attractive, intellectual girls.
While most people would realize that fat != trashy/stupid, the LW is setting up a comparison between girls he is attracted to (ugly, trashy, fat) and girls he will date (attractive, intellectual, fit) *implying* that those groups are mutually exclusive. Yes, you have to do a bit of reading in the subtext, but it is there.
But that's not the definition of fatphobia, as others have pointed out. I will acknowledge that if you did implicit association tests, everybody would show some degree of fat bias (and racism, and heightism, and sexism). But, that does not make irrelevant a person's conscious efforts to combat this.
Also, the LW writes: However, since high school I've been turned on by thick, big-butt, big-tit, ugly, trashy girls. In my 20s, I would secretly go to bars in the suburbs to pick up these thick, ugly girls. But I've only ever been in relationships with fit, attractive, intellectual girls.
While most people would realize that fat != trashy/stupid, the LW is setting up a comparison between girls he is attracted to (ugly, trashy, fat) and girls he will date (attractive, intellectual, fit) *implying* that those groups are mutually exclusive. Yes, you have to do a bit of reading in the subtext, but it is there.
Apr 16
shurenka commented on SL Letter of the Day: Big Time.
shurenka commented on SL Letter of the Day: Big Time.
@23 is exactly right.
@19, how is it hypocritical to decry fatphobia? Whether or not having a thick/full/overweight/fat partner is your cup of tea (probably like most people, it's not mine), it should be obvious that the casual implications between being overweight and trashy or dumb that the LW draws are extremely problematic. Also, your description of women in a bar as "all of them are ready to go" sounds, for lack of better words, predatory and objectifying.
@19, how is it hypocritical to decry fatphobia? Whether or not having a thick/full/overweight/fat partner is your cup of tea (probably like most people, it's not mine), it should be obvious that the casual implications between being overweight and trashy or dumb that the LW draws are extremely problematic. Also, your description of women in a bar as "all of them are ready to go" sounds, for lack of better words, predatory and objectifying.
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