Jan 15, 2014
commented on Wedding Don'ts
@13, weddings are neither luxury items nor super-expensive. They can be done for next to nothing if you have a friend who will officiate for you and you just serve sandwiches and ice cream to a few guests.
Of course, most people want to do more than that. But you can have a lovely wedding with great food and a pretty location and live music and nice clothes for well under $10,000.
Dec 26, 2013
commented on Savage Love
What happens when you lean up against a washing machine on spin cycle? Does that bother your clit, or does it feel good? I ask because that is a deeper kind of vibration than a tickly vibrator.
Also, yeah, I get that twitch in my vulva or clitoris. Kind of like it's contracting or recoiling in a weird way.
If I were you, I would do exactly what you are doing. Concentrate on what does give you pleasure. Orgasms are very nice, but I didn't have one until I was 34, courtesy of a Magic Wand, which I had to apply through layers of fabric in order for it not to feel painful. But I look back on all the sex I had before that, and it was all wonderful sex. Sex didn't get better for me when I started having orgasms.
I know what you mean by "sexual pleasure" but I think sexual enjoyment, which is what you have, is much more important.
Here's a question for you: What, if anything, makes you juicy? Are there any events or scenes that make your vulva get all puffy and your underwear all wet? In short, do you experience arousal?
Nov 27, 2013
commented on "Yes, a Bird Is an Animal"
I'm depressed to think that there are people who don't know that birds are animals.
Oh, technically, they're fungi. I mean bacteria. Or is it plants?
Nov 20, 2013
commented on SL Letters of the Day: More On Gym Oglers
To what the 2nd LW said, "Try being female," I would like to add, Try being female and 13 or 14 years old. That's when it started for me.
I don't agree with @29. I grew up in a hippie community where there was a whole lot of nudity. There still was a whole lot of ogling, too. Mostly while my clothes were on.
Now that I'm older, and the ogling has pretty much disappeared -- god, it's wonderful. I don't miss a thing.
Nov 13, 2013
commented on Savage Love
Seadr, as to why more female performers don't do male drag, I think it might have something to do with how male is perceived as "neutral" and female is perceived as "augmented." Like, the difference between a male frog and a female frog is that female frogs have big, red lips and false eyelashes. (And along those lines, almost every person I've ever met refers to animals of indeterminate sex as "he," sometimes "it," NEVER "she.") A few accessories, and all of a sudden you are feminine. To go in the other direction is probably a lot trickier, because you would have to get rid of your feminine markers, instead of just putting on a few masculine ones.
Aug 24, 2013
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Assorted Qs
God, I remember my first pelvic exam; I had a raging, horrible yeast infection and at the time you couldn't get that medication over the counter. I had never had anything in my vagina aside from a finger or two--well, I had tried tampons and found them painful and awful. And the nurses were totally unsympathetic, never asked me beforehand what my vaginal history was, despite my age (18), and only kept telling me to relax. Relax! Relax! Gee whiz, stupid nurses, I'll stick a speculum up your nose and see if you can relax.
(Just had to get that off my chest. It's been 25 years and I'm still affronted by it.)
It wasn't about a hymen, either. My vagina was always just really uptight and painfully sensitive until I had had PIV sex for maybe the 7th time.