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Sep 21 vennominon commented on Savage Love.
Ms Rand - "Control-hungry" would have been perhaps more accurate phrasing. I've seen a handful of articles in such papers as the Guardian or perhaps the Telegraph; perhaps this is more widely known in the UK. But there are women who present as some sort of feminist or other who are willing to be cited in print claiming that men couldn't be trusted to take birth control properly, or even that men would outright lie about being on it.

There is perhaps a case to be made that it might not be confined to radfems; there is the famous clip of Wendy Williams telling an audience member whose husband, after having originally agreed to X number of children, had changed his mind and decided to stop at X-1, "I won't tell you to lie to your husband, but look into my eyes. No man has the right to tell any woman how many children she can have," or something with that meaning. But, as I do not define all feminists as automatically full-on SJWs in the flip side of the way that some people define all MRAs (even the Sanders supporters) as Hard Right, I left room for denial among those feminists whose spirit of equality accepts that men have as much right (though the stake is lower) to block themselves from their role in conception as women. It seemed only fair, as I was doing largely the same for the other side in confining the desire to make BC the responsibility of women only to the tradcons. Non-tradcon MRAs are all for the male pill, though I will allow that some of its support may be theoretical. But at worst, even if deciding against it personally, they'd be glad for men to have the option.

A number of issues have popped up lately on which tradcons and radfems seem to be making the issue circular by coming to essentially the same conclusions or solutions despite being completely opposed to all of each other's reasons.

Fun Fact - The Mexican doctor and master bridge player George Rosenkranz made a significant contribution to the development of the Pill while at Syntex, where he was CEO until 1982. While I know nothing of his social-issue positions, I have a grievance against him. In the late 1970's, I learned all the relay sequences for a bridge convention he invented, the Mexican Two Diamonds, an integral part of his Romex bidding system. But he completely revamped the convention before I ever had a chance to play it. Sigh.
Sep 21 vennominon commented on Savage Love.
1 - I'm having a hard time drumming up much sympathy, as my cosmic vibrations are suggesting that LW was just fine with the system when it didn't work to his disadvantage. I'd not be surprised if the code included points about orientation that could have come directly from the late Mrs Schlafly. It's a bit 7%-y, but, as LW provides no reason for being chained to that particular system, it doesn't seem too unreasonable to suggest that he consider finding a more lenient one; or is it really that much of a buyer's market for HS teachers these days?

2 - A reasonable ask, an interesting delay, ultimately not her call. LW omits an even more sinister possibility. She might as well go all out and worry that a woman with another partner Husband doesn't know about will pass off a pregnancy as Husband's and might not be made of sufficiently stern stuff to require the appropriate battery of tests.

3 - I wonder if monogamish couple like the existence of faded-into-platonic couples the way that people on the second tier of a social system enjoy that there is a third tier, even if they try to associate up - maybe just a little? In murder mysteries, the platonic spouse tends to be either murdered or the killer, though otherwise I can't think of anything against such an arrangement if it suits the participants.

4 - Mr Savage is in mandarin mode, decreeing certain lies as harmless and that anyone who disagrees with him qualifies for the scarlet MF. On the other hand, if he practises what he preaches, Mr Miller must have a charming life, able to pull off basically anything.

5 - Though many do need ending, NO marriage NEEDS saving. As for LW, what's wrong with accepting oneself as a bad person? I did decades ago. It makes it much easier to do good things when I believe such to be required, because one can do them without the attitude that good people have when doing the same deeds.

6 - LW cannot say "other" gay men until he has passed the SEE (Stiff Entrance Exam). I'll assume he has done so, as he has the punctuation of a teenager. I am grateful to Mr Savage for being more 7%-y than I was earlier, though I suppose being 64 and able to afford PrEP is a virtue in and of itself, of a rather Austenian nature.
Sep 21 vennominon commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Daddy Issues.
LW - My PLB overcame a Mormon upbringing that was surely at least the equal of yours. You are entirely free to admit that it's too much for you to overcome; just please avoid generalizing.
Sep 21 vennominon commented on Savage Love.
The male pill is a casualty of a horseshoe conspiracy between tradcon misogynists and controlling radfems, who, for reasons about 360 degrees apart, think that birth control should be solely in the hands of women.
Sep 20 vennominon commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: She Wants To Want Her Husband Again.
Ms Fan - Perhaps Catholics don't call the pass (when it's clearly the last play of the game and the only hope to win is to throw the ball to the end zone or as close as possible and pray that a teammate catches it) a Hail Mary, the much more common term. I have seen very little US football, but recall hearing of a famous such pass made by Doug Flutie for Boston College.
Sep 20 vennominon commented on Savage Love.
Mr Ricardo - Oh, I acknowledge the presence of Daddies, but Grannies are a different generation. I was thinking of Shirley Valentine complaining that Malandra thought she was going to Greece on what Shirley called "a grab-a-granny fortnight". As Malandra fled the house, Shirley ran to the upstairs window and called out that she was going to Greece for the sex - "Sex for breakfast, sex for dinner, sex for tea and sex for supper." When a passing tradesman chimed in, "Sounds like a marvelous diet, love." Shirley didn't miss a beat, "It is; have you never heard of it? It's called the F plan."
Sep 19 vennominon commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: She Wants To Want Her Husband Again.
Oh, Mr Savage, no; way too invested in the idea of people ignorantly blissful.
Sep 19 vennominon commented on Savage Love.
Mr Ricardo - Only for women, dear.
Sep 19 vennominon commented on Savage Love.
Perhaps we should turn the election over to the Emmy voters, as Dame Maggie scores for the octogenarians. I hope this inspires Ms Grizelda.
Sep 19 vennominon commented on Savage Love.
Ms Lava - Oh, dear, poor cat! Australia must be as dangerous as many Australians say.