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Nov 4 vennominon commented on Savage Love.
M< Woof - The honourific is a tribute to Mr Crisp. I had the great honour of telephoning him about three weeks before he died with a message from a friend we had in common. But this custom one should suit you, and I even have a decent chance of remembering it.
An Endeavour Award for Ms Fan.
An Orlando Award for Ms Lava.
Nov 2 vennominon commented on Savage Love.
Mx Wanna - I cannot conceive of any angel's deigning to save me, except perhaps the spirit of Miss Austen if she approves of me, which she likely doesn't.


M? Woof - Then you've seen why there would be so much appeal in an S/Y debate. Perhaps Mr Savage was a classical liberal at one time, but he's done nothing but hurl abuse for almost the last six months now, and he's not helping. Yelling laundry lists of leftist complaints against Mr Trump will just make Trump supporters all the prouder, because they have come to wear the abuse as a badge of honour. Monday evening I said the exact converse to a Trump suppoerter who was ranting that Mrs C has to spend the rest of her life in prison, that rightist abuse of her just makes hardcore Clinton voters all the more convinced that they're fighting the good fight against rampant misogyny. And neither side is moving more than one or two people in the middle. If people have turned the other cheek 490 times, #491 won't be too much for that many.
Nov 2 vennominon commented on Savage Love.
No, Mr Savage - C*** is the new F***** (as it's very dodgy whether the F word is an insult any more; straight people are bonding with it - LMB). You almost always overplay your insults, as if you sincerely think that's a path to ensure one-party Democratic rule in perpetuity. It's backfiring, darling. Empathizing with the Values Voters instead would have helped those who want to peel away from the Trump Train to follow their consciences and vote third party instead of making them instantly defensive, which is when they default to instinctive opposition of you.


It is disappointing to hear otherwise scholarly people resort to the C word, which does seem to be having a bad effect on their characters. I had thought that I would never use the word myself, but can imagine one scenario in which I might. As the scenario should amuse more than half of the assembled company, I relate it:

Imagine a scenario in which I am thrown off a building. (I shall wait for the raucous applause from the assembled company to die down; I have no objection to anybody's entirely approving of such an occurrence.) Now, given his recent form, it seems conceivable that, as I am being tossed over the edge (more applause, unless that would be an excess of vanity), Mr Savage might apologize to my executioners (whoever they may be, as I suspect there could well be multiple aspirants to the office) for my many sins against them. I'm not sure that I'd entirely blame him for doing so; after all, he has many calls upon his purse (like Roger Ackroyd). But, while falling, I must admit I'd be tempted to resort to the C word.
Nov 2 vennominon commented on Savage Love.
Ms Oid - Probably some version of D*** Daddy.
Oct 28 vennominon commented on SL Letter of the Day: Let Me Be a Part of Your Pissing Experience!.
I wonder if there's any way to match this LW up with LW1 from the weekly column...
Oct 27 vennominon commented on Savage Love.
Ms Grizelda - Can I get you and perhaps Ms Fan to join me in advancing that it would be unwise, while coping with LW1 as Entitled Male, to avoid the element of Entitled Parent? The number of people who whine when it turns out that their life choices bring them some negatives still has the capacity to astound me. They should have learned to play chess at age two, if not before.

I suppose it's far too obvious to say that couples might hold off on children until they only want sex once a week if they can't bear the sacrifice. I just get a strong sense that C1 (or at least LW1) didn't really consider and weigh the consequences carefully before making the choice (or just letting events dictate). But I am prepared retroactively to raise my estimation of W1 if we discover that she had already reached the down-to-once-a-week point herself and either jiggled him into agreeing about children or took the decision unilaterally. (I might not approve, but it would show her to be a skilled and future-considering tactician.)
Oct 26 vennominon commented on Savage Love.
LW1 - In your next life, marry a female robot who never requires sleep. I omit assorted pejoratives from the Gendre Wars.

Ls 2/3 - Well played by Mr Savage; the last paragraph in response to L3 is some rather delicate tightrope-walking.
Oct 26 vennominon commented on Donald Trump and His Campaign Manager Occupy Separate Realities.
What interests me is whether Mr Trump will outperform his polling by as much as, more than, or less than Homophobia, many of whose supporters were too embarrassed to admit to that support until safely in the voting booth. I wonder how Mr Silver's simulator covers that phenomenon.
Oct 25 vennominon commented on Savage Love.
Ms Cute @116 - You gave me the idea for a little skit in which there were a large party at which Ms Marcel felt creeped out after she noticed Dr Sean staring at her. Now Ms Erica or you yourself would likely be capable of leaving it there, and might be restored to good humour by going to watch Messrs Rhone and Ophian making out in the corner or a Henry Tilney Impersonation Competition or the relatively low investment of continued company until the possibility of threat had dissipated. So far, so good. But Ms Marcel would likely escalate, sending Mr Horton to beat Dr Sean up or throw him out, and demanding that others rally to her cause and that everybody saw the offence; should Messrs Rhone and Ophian claim to have been too busy making out in the corner to see anything, she'd label them Rape Apologists and try to get them kicked out as well.
Oct 25 vennominon commented on Savage Love.
Ms Fan - [The "false accusations of rape" rate is estimated to be about 8%, with estimates varying from 1.5% to 10%. Funny how that is higher than the conviction rate, given that 92% of allegations are true. I wonder why this is?]

There are two lines of response that occur to me. The easy one is that all criminal justice comes with a decided lean. The other is that it would be really interesting to see what would happen if rape could be a civil charge rather than a criminal one. Presumably, if we follow the line of the Simpson murder, there would be a good many more convictions if the standard were preponderance of the evidence rather than beyond a reasonable doubt. How would societal attitudes change then?

I'm closing now before this gets too murky.