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Nov 7, 2016 vennominon commented on Savage Love.
Actually I decided to go out on a charitable note, acting on the presumption that I shall soon be giving this place up. It seems to have become clear lately that I am no longer able to claim the position of the Loyal Opposition representing Team Homo. I have enjoyed that role greatly, and hope I have not posted entirely in vain. But the aura here has shifted too far. I'm out (or the position is extinct), and I have better things to do than stay on as a troll.
Nov 6, 2016 vennominon commented on Savage Love.
The Endeavour Award is for Ms Fan's claim of using British spelling, which reminded me of the Morse case Ghost in the Machine, in which Morse spots the flaw in a suicide note, that an Oxford professor would have used a zed.

The Orlando Award did not originally refer to Mrs Woolf, but I do thank Ms Lava for reminding me of rivers. I'll have to see if I can collect any sufficiently heavy stones.
Nov 5, 2016 vennominon commented on Savage Love.
Ms Lava - Ah, yes; poor Mrs Woolf. Do you subscribe to the theory that Mr Woolf and Mrs Bell were complicit in pushing her into suicide?
Nov 4, 2016 vennominon commented on Savage Love Letters of the Day: Screwing Trump Supporters.
In fairness to Mr Savage, he just took the line that Trump supporters don't deserve to love or be loved, and the calls for divorce came from the commentariat. I am going to ding him, though, for his framing of the Financial Excuse for not leaving as if, for one thing, he's trying to jockey LW into that position, and for another, he's setting up a model of one partner's (presumably a woman) stringing the other partner along until she can leave while extracting the maximum quantity of resources and leaving the other partner financially decimated. It's similar to his position on cheating, where he claims not to be giving cheaters hall passes while simultaneously laying out the blueprint for cheaters to say all the right things to get the pass.
Nov 4, 2016 vennominon commented on Savage Love.
M< Woof - The honourific is a tribute to Mr Crisp. I had the great honour of telephoning him about three weeks before he died with a message from a friend we had in common. But this custom one should suit you, and I even have a decent chance of remembering it.
An Endeavour Award for Ms Fan.
An Orlando Award for Ms Lava.
Nov 2, 2016 vennominon commented on Savage Love.
Mx Wanna - I cannot conceive of any angel's deigning to save me, except perhaps the spirit of Miss Austen if she approves of me, which she likely doesn't.


M? Woof - Then you've seen why there would be so much appeal in an S/Y debate. Perhaps Mr Savage was a classical liberal at one time, but he's done nothing but hurl abuse for almost the last six months now, and he's not helping. Yelling laundry lists of leftist complaints against Mr Trump will just make Trump supporters all the prouder, because they have come to wear the abuse as a badge of honour. Monday evening I said the exact converse to a Trump suppoerter who was ranting that Mrs C has to spend the rest of her life in prison, that rightist abuse of her just makes hardcore Clinton voters all the more convinced that they're fighting the good fight against rampant misogyny. And neither side is moving more than one or two people in the middle. If people have turned the other cheek 490 times, #491 won't be too much for that many.
Nov 2, 2016 vennominon commented on Savage Love.
No, Mr Savage - C*** is the new F***** (as it's very dodgy whether the F word is an insult any more; straight people are bonding with it - LMB). You almost always overplay your insults, as if you sincerely think that's a path to ensure one-party Democratic rule in perpetuity. It's backfiring, darling. Empathizing with the Values Voters instead would have helped those who want to peel away from the Trump Train to follow their consciences and vote third party instead of making them instantly defensive, which is when they default to instinctive opposition of you.


It is disappointing to hear otherwise scholarly people resort to the C word, which does seem to be having a bad effect on their characters. I had thought that I would never use the word myself, but can imagine one scenario in which I might. As the scenario should amuse more than half of the assembled company, I relate it:

Imagine a scenario in which I am thrown off a building. (I shall wait for the raucous applause from the assembled company to die down; I have no objection to anybody's entirely approving of such an occurrence.) Now, given his recent form, it seems conceivable that, as I am being tossed over the edge (more applause, unless that would be an excess of vanity), Mr Savage might apologize to my executioners (whoever they may be, as I suspect there could well be multiple aspirants to the office) for my many sins against them. I'm not sure that I'd entirely blame him for doing so; after all, he has many calls upon his purse (like Roger Ackroyd). But, while falling, I must admit I'd be tempted to resort to the C word.
Nov 2, 2016 vennominon commented on Savage Love.
Ms Oid - Probably some version of D*** Daddy.
Oct 28, 2016 vennominon commented on SL Letter of the Day: Let Me Be a Part of Your Pissing Experience!.
I wonder if there's any way to match this LW up with LW1 from the weekly column...
Oct 27, 2016 vennominon commented on Savage Love.
Ms Grizelda - Can I get you and perhaps Ms Fan to join me in advancing that it would be unwise, while coping with LW1 as Entitled Male, to avoid the element of Entitled Parent? The number of people who whine when it turns out that their life choices bring them some negatives still has the capacity to astound me. They should have learned to play chess at age two, if not before.

I suppose it's far too obvious to say that couples might hold off on children until they only want sex once a week if they can't bear the sacrifice. I just get a strong sense that C1 (or at least LW1) didn't really consider and weigh the consequences carefully before making the choice (or just letting events dictate). But I am prepared retroactively to raise my estimation of W1 if we discover that she had already reached the down-to-once-a-week point herself and either jiggled him into agreeing about children or took the decision unilaterally. (I might not approve, but it would show her to be a skilled and future-considering tactician.)