Jan 21, 2014 dchari commented on SL Letter of the Day: The Sub's Paradox.
@7: Thanks for the first laugh of the day. What a unique perspective on sexuality.
Jan 21, 2014 dchari commented on SL Letter of the Day: The Sub's Paradox.
Give it to us straight, Dan: is there ever going to be a new SLLOTD again?
Jan 17, 2014 dchari commented on SL Letter of the Day: Mistakes Were Made.
Whaaaat the fuck on all of this coercive weirdness and redefinition of GGG. No, he should not have the threesome if he does not want the threesome. He didn't say, "Nah, I'm not really into that, but try to convince me and see what happens!" He said no. Fucking drop it.
Jan 16, 2014 dchari commented on SL Letter of the Day: To Be Trans, Kinky, and Bi.
@11: "Asked for it"? Yeah, I'm sure he was begging for the opportunity to undergo an expensive and emotionally draining transition and come out to a hostile world
Jan 14, 2014 dchari commented on SL Letter of the Day: Access Denied.
Sorry, that was a bit harsh. I'm just surprised - premature ejaculation generally becomes a problem when a guy does it every time, not once after holding out. If you want him to masturbate before sex, make him masturbate while staring at you.
Jan 14, 2014 dchari commented on SL Letter of the Day: Access Denied.
@9, you're expecting to get there and have one round of vaginal sex and leave? What is your sex life like? Bring the guy to orgasm with your mouth or hand and then fuck him. Or fuck him twice, and he'll last longer the second time. How is this an issue?
Jan 2, 2014 dchari commented on SL Letter of the Day: An Easy One to Get the New Year Started.
Frankly, the kind of guy who would email a sex-advice columnist with a one-sided rant about his partner's flaws, with nary a word about his own, doesn't sound like a Relationship God either.
Dec 6, 2013 dchari commented on SLLOTD: Judgment Day.
@3, did you read Dan's response? It's not that the guy answered the question honestly. That's fine. It's his phrasing and the amount of information he's willing to reveal so early on that send up a red flag. Just because someone asks you a question, doesn't mean they want to hear the starkest, most personal version of the answer. Several other answers exist that convey basically the same information but without the offputting phrases. Dan came up with one (it's stilted and awkward, like most of the "dialogue" Dan thinks up, but it works).

Social interaction is about subtlety, especially in the early stages of flirtation. That's not just because people get their rocks off on coyness. It's because, as Dan stated eloquently, a reasonable level of discretion is a clear indication that you have common sense and good judgment, which are characteristics one wants to display to potential sex partners.
Dec 3, 2013 dchari commented on Savage Love.
Of course NIPPLES should tell the BF. Not because he's likely to find out, but because it's likely to happen again. If not with this woman, then with someone else. If he's fine with that, it'll be a load off her mind to know she can do it in future. If he's not fine with that, that's something she needs to learn now.
Dec 3, 2013 dchari commented on SL Letter of the Day: Partners Still.
I mean, do you notice how not one thing he says implicates himself in ANY wrongdoing whatsoever? SHE'S depressed, SHE has a problem with totally legal and above-board pot, she brought up her objections to the vasectomy AFTER it was performed..... There's no possible way LW could be at fault, the way he presents himself! I call so, so, SO much bullshit. People are selfish lying assholes.