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Nov 18, 2016 Corylea commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Help! I'm Being Sext-Shamed By My Asexual Ex!.
SSRI's have sexual side effects for large numbers of people, but they aren't the only anti-depressants out there. Welbutrin rarely has sexual side effects, and in fact it sometimes manages to counteract the sexual side effects of other anti-depressants.

So please talk to your doctor about the side effects you're experiencing and ask him or her to work with you to find a drug -- or combination of drugs -- that improves your depression without taking away your sex drive.
Nov 17, 2016 Corylea commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: The Loneliest Flip-Flopper In Seattle.
Did San Francisco fall into the Pacific ocean when I wasn't looking?
Nov 15, 2016 Corylea commented on Savage Love.
"Freedom and decency need to lawyer the fuck up."

Well said, Dan! Please keep the light of your sassy humor burning, now more than ever.
Oct 19, 2016 Corylea commented on What If Donald Trump Were Gay?.
One of the best commentaries I've seen on the election was John Scalzi's. He's a professional science fiction author, but he's also a thoughtful guy, and given that he's a professional writer, he expresses himself quite well.
Oct 4, 2016 Corylea commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: A Counterpoint to Last Week's Tweet Storm of Advice for Straight Men.
I'm a bisexual woman. While my primary sexual attraction is to women, on the rare occasions when I'm attracted to men, I'm attracted to the kind of man who's usually described as "sweet." I find assholes of both sexes completely unappealing.

Women like me exist, too. :-)
Sep 20, 2016 Corylea commented on Savage Love.
SSRI's often make it difficult for people to have orgasms, but there are other anti-depressants. Sometimes Wellbutrin will counteract the no-orgasm effect of SSRI's if you take the SSRI and Wellbutrin together, and sometimes Wellbutrin is an effective antidepressant all by itself, with no need for an SSRI.

That's just one example, to say that you need to talk to your doctor. If your antidepressant is giving you unpleasant side effects, another antidepressant might work better for you. It's okay to ask your doc to work with you to minimize side effects.
Sep 2, 2016 Corylea commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Bi & Bi.
I'm a bisexual-leaning-towards-lesbian woman. Only one of my male lovers identified as bisexual, and that always disappointed me. Not only did I find it fun and interesting when my boyfriend was also bi, but in my (admittedly limited) experience, a man who knows what it's like to BE fucked is also better at fucking. ;-)

All of which is to say that while SOME bi women may dump bi male lovers, others of us prefer it when a guy is bi.
Aug 30, 2016 Corylea commented on Shut Up About Trigger Warnings....
Trigger warnings aren't always about wanting to AVOID a subject; often they're about wanting to BE PREPARED before dealing with a topic one knows is triggering. They're so people can put their emotional armor on, rather than being blindsided.
Jun 15, 2016 Corylea commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Get Out There and Fight.
So well said, Dan!

I agree with #1 -- this should be reprinted everywhere.
Jun 1, 2016 Corylea commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Do All Gay Men Have Anal Sex?.
Back in the early 80's, I was a member of a mixed-gender support group for gay people. One of the gay men had just tried anal sex for the first time and didn't like it, and he was angsting about What This Meant to the group.

One of the other gay men in the group -- one who'd been in a committed relationship for a long time and who was looked up to as a REAL gay man by most of the others, said, "What made you decide to have anal sex? You don't have to, you know. You can be just as gay without it." I remember being impressed at the insight and sensitivity of his question, back when we were all in our early 20's and were mostly clueless. :-)