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- What song do you never want to hear again?: Push the little daisies
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Married in MA is Watching the storm blow by.
Apr 25
Married in MA commented on Savage Love.
@73 vennominion:
My wife to be made it to graduate school a virgin. We had been sleeping together for over 7 months (and been going out for about a year) before she decided she was ready for intercourse. In that period we both went through terrible events in both our families, and were pretty emotionally battered. Coming through to normalcy, still together, and then going on to a full sexual relationship when we weren't under pressure just worked. One of my favorite memories (during our time) together was when she woke me for the first time with a "are you awake yet?". That was my first awesome sex experience with her (though certainly not the last. As for the first time, like most events that cause my wife pain, I prefer not to think about it).
As for my daughter, sleepovers are OK with females, but only in a group. The only exception being my daughter's BFF. That being said, she hasn't "brought anyone home" yet.
As for my eldest, he's in college now...
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My wife to be made it to graduate school a virgin. We had been sleeping together for over 7 months (and been going out for about a year) before she decided she was ready for intercourse. In that period we both went through terrible events in both our families, and were pretty emotionally battered. Coming through to normalcy, still together, and then going on to a full sexual relationship when we weren't under pressure just worked. One of my favorite memories (during our time) together was when she woke me for the first time with a "are you awake yet?". That was my first awesome sex experience with her (though certainly not the last. As for the first time, like most events that cause my wife pain, I prefer not to think about it).
As for my daughter, sleepovers are OK with females, but only in a group. The only exception being my daughter's BFF. That being said, she hasn't "brought anyone home" yet.
As for my eldest, he's in college now...
Peace
Apr 25
Married in MA commented on Savage Love.
@65 migrationist:
Well, if cuddling on the couch, walking hand in hand, and the occasional lip locking clinch won't do it, my glazy eyed Sat. afternoons should do the trick. All anyone has to do is see someone sporting that looked of "well fucked freshness" a few hundred times to get the idea that something is going right in geezertown.
Peace
Well, if cuddling on the couch, walking hand in hand, and the occasional lip locking clinch won't do it, my glazy eyed Sat. afternoons should do the trick. All anyone has to do is see someone sporting that looked of "well fucked freshness" a few hundred times to get the idea that something is going right in geezertown.
Peace
Apr 25
Married in MA commented on Savage Love.
Sometimes Parenting is projecting what you wish your childhood could've been like. I had sex when I was 17; I wish I'd waited till I was mature enough to deal with the person I was having it with (like my very sensible wife chose in waiting till she did). While for some people having sex before being emotionally mature isn't a problem, I'm not sure it isn't for many.
My daughter has said she's Bi, and I very clearly stated I'm fine with that. BUT, I'd like her to wait until after she graduates from high school before she becomes sexually active. That doesn't mean she won't, or hasn't done it already, it simply is MY preference as her father. If I someday accidentally surprise her, I'm sure I'll be upset but I won't be quasi-homicidal like my parents generation and that's as good as it's going to get at least until her emotional maturity catches up with her body.
No matter what, I shall be my children's parent, not their buddy, not their enabler. My role is to protect them till they're mature enough to stand on their own, and then get the fuck out of their way. Meanwhile, I get to show them that even when they're geezers they can still look forward to an active sex life. And, in my wife's case, waiting doesn't mean you won't get into the game with a vengeance.
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My daughter has said she's Bi, and I very clearly stated I'm fine with that. BUT, I'd like her to wait until after she graduates from high school before she becomes sexually active. That doesn't mean she won't, or hasn't done it already, it simply is MY preference as her father. If I someday accidentally surprise her, I'm sure I'll be upset but I won't be quasi-homicidal like my parents generation and that's as good as it's going to get at least until her emotional maturity catches up with her body.
No matter what, I shall be my children's parent, not their buddy, not their enabler. My role is to protect them till they're mature enough to stand on their own, and then get the fuck out of their way. Meanwhile, I get to show them that even when they're geezers they can still look forward to an active sex life. And, in my wife's case, waiting doesn't mean you won't get into the game with a vengeance.
Peace
Apr 19
Married in MA commented on Second Marathon Bombing Suspect in Custody.
I'm glad suspect 2 is still alive if for no other reason than enough people have died during this tragedy.
Thanks very, very much to all the people that helped save the wounded from the bombings.
Thanks very, very much to the police and public that helped resolve how we respond to this terrorist attack. All things considered, it is shocking how quickly the terrorists were identified and dealt with.
Again, very well done.
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Thanks very, very much to all the people that helped save the wounded from the bombings.
Thanks very, very much to the police and public that helped resolve how we respond to this terrorist attack. All things considered, it is shocking how quickly the terrorists were identified and dealt with.
Again, very well done.
Peace
Mar 11
Married in MA commented on SL Letter of the Day: The Missing Condom.
I have no poly experience, whatsoever. So I will put it in a different context:
A few years ago my wife got into a nasty, but non injurious car accident. She *was* at fault, but the layout of the intersection was dangerous, and the other vehicle most likely was speeding.
When my wife walked in reeking of blown airbag and shaking in fright my response wasn't "Bad Girl!". It was all about comfort and protection (and getting her out of stinky clothes). I would hope the LW's husband responds in kind.
Sure, I was upset that our insurance was going up (again), and drove to the site to scope it out myself (residue of having to contest a single vehicle accident of my own), but that was a byproduct of my FEAR for my wife. The primary outcome was a loud "don't do that again" on my part and lots of internal thanks it wasn't much, much, worse.
To the LW: remember, you're not alone. Get checked out and get whatever help you need to get right again. And don't let it happen again...
Peace.
A few years ago my wife got into a nasty, but non injurious car accident. She *was* at fault, but the layout of the intersection was dangerous, and the other vehicle most likely was speeding.
When my wife walked in reeking of blown airbag and shaking in fright my response wasn't "Bad Girl!". It was all about comfort and protection (and getting her out of stinky clothes). I would hope the LW's husband responds in kind.
Sure, I was upset that our insurance was going up (again), and drove to the site to scope it out myself (residue of having to contest a single vehicle accident of my own), but that was a byproduct of my FEAR for my wife. The primary outcome was a loud "don't do that again" on my part and lots of internal thanks it wasn't much, much, worse.
To the LW: remember, you're not alone. Get checked out and get whatever help you need to get right again. And don't let it happen again...
Peace.
May 8, 2012
Married in MA commented on What Is the Obama Campaign Thinking on Gay Marriage?.
If the President were ever presented with a bill that passed both Houses of Congress, legalizing marriage equality, do you seriously believe he wouldn't sign it?!
I believe marriage equality is going to be acceptable to the US in the near future. That being said, if equality and choice activists aren't doing everything possible to remove the Teabagger infestation from Congress, then you're getting what you pay for.
Peace.
I believe marriage equality is going to be acceptable to the US in the near future. That being said, if equality and choice activists aren't doing everything possible to remove the Teabagger infestation from Congress, then you're getting what you pay for.
Peace.
May 5, 2012
Married in MA commented on SL Letter of the Day: STFU, BTFO.
KTM tell your friend NOT to get pregnant while her partner status is in doubt, without mentioning where the sperm may come from. Who she is with is her choice, but dragging her family-to-be into it is a completely overwhelming circumstance.
OTOH revenge won't resolve years of problems to come, ending things will.
Peace
OTOH revenge won't resolve years of problems to come, ending things will.
Peace
May 4, 2012
Married in MA commented on NOM's Brian Brown Challenges Dan Savage to a Bible Debate!.
He should debate him, but in the original Aramaic, so that the mistranslations are corrected.
#13 has it right. No matter what, Dan won't be able to win the "other" side over. It's like the birthers, if you asked them what would convince them Obama is legit, they'd answer "nothing"*.
Peace.
PS: *This way, the US won't have had a true black President...
#13 has it right. No matter what, Dan won't be able to win the "other" side over. It's like the birthers, if you asked them what would convince them Obama is legit, they'd answer "nothing"*.
Peace.
PS: *This way, the US won't have had a true black President...
May 1, 2012
Married in MA commented on SL Letter of the Day: Coming to Blows (Update!).
Something tells me both of them got more from that weekend than sex. Maturity is difficult to define at times, but to call it a "trend towards living in harmony" in this case would fit. Change the genders and it still comes up as a nice story of gaining understanding and togetherness.
Peace.
Peace.
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Being stuck in the current economy doesn't help. Being in a (presumably) finically stable situation makes wanting, and getting, a change that much more difficult to justify. Getting therapy, even from more than one source, is probably cheaper than making a mutually uninformed decision.
Peace