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Mar 11 clashfan commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: When Should She Tell Her Date She Wants to Bang?.
@53: Yay, glad it worked out well for you both!
Mar 7 clashfan commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Should I Warn My Mom's New Girlfriend About My Mom?.
You don't even have to be direct about it. Do a little ex-name-dropping. "When did you go to Hawaii, Mom? Was that with Barb or with Jean?"
"Remember how Susan hated tomatoes? Huh--oh, she was 3-4 exes ago, I guess."
Mar 7 clashfan commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: When Should She Tell Her Date She Wants to Bang?.
Awkward can be appealing. If 'adorkable' wasn't a thing, I wouldn't get any play at all.

I hang in some kinky circles, in which talking about consent and what is and isn't on the table is considered sexy. Bringing it up and talking about it *is* being confident--it's knowing that you might be shot down but still taking the chance. You can do this in a shy, awkward kinda way, or you can do it in a hot, sexy way, but it can be done.
Mar 6 clashfan commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: When Should She Tell Her Date She Wants to Bang?.
"Hey, I'm a little nervous bringing this up, but I'm kinda into you, and I'm wondering where you're at." OR (sideways look) "I was just wondering how it would go for me if I tried to kiss you right now." OR "I'm gonna awkward this up for a minute--I like you, and I'm attracted to you, but I have no idea if you feel the same way. Where's this at for you?"
Feb 8 clashfan commented on Jill Stein Is a Right-Wing Tool.
I saw a response to this Stein tweet: "Shut up, Tofu Palin."
Feb 8 clashfan commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Engaged to a Beard.
My best friend has one of those Grizzly Adams beards, a total mountain man look. His wife loves it, and wants him to never shave it off.
Jan 31 clashfan commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Abhorrence and the Machine.
A decent guy doesn't fuck his partner in a way that hurts her and leaves her crying after having multiple discussions about it. DTMFA.
Jan 5 clashfan commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Trump Supporters Want Invite To Their Gay Wedding.
I was legally married in Multnomah County, Oregon, in 2004. Then a ballot measure passed that fall, and my marriage was invalidated. We got our license fee back, and contributed the money to Basic Rights Oregon.
Dec 23, 2016 clashfan commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: New To America & Ready To Get Laid.
I have had great luck with variations on, "How would it go for me if I asked to kiss you?" in my best charming and flirtatious manner.
Dec 20, 2016 clashfan commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Open & Free (But What About Money?).
@5: No idea whether the letter is fake, but--someone working in the tech industry could easily have socked away some cash, and then gotten a buyout of stock options when let go.