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- What's worse: Gay marriage or black people being allowed to listen to R&B?: Gays
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- Dan Savage or Charles Mudede
- What's your favorite Charles Mudede post?: The sexist one with the boobs
Nov 28, 2011
Steeeeverino commented on Savage Love.
My life is the mismatched libido game. I've spent a lonely, misunderstood evening collecting the all-too-frequent questions to Dan on the topic. Besides the empathy, I'm going to ask my wife if she wants to talk about these columns. We have the argument 3X a week, anyway, and this might focus it.
@19 - I found next week's column first ... this makes a lot more sense now.
@19 - I found next week's column first ... this makes a lot more sense now.
Sep 2, 2011
Steeeeverino answered a bunch of weird questions about himself or herself.
Aug 31, 2011
Steeeeverino commented on Savage Love.
@@ 71&81 - if condoms aren't 100% preventative, using then more often will still increase the protection, even if it's not 100%. Statistics and shit.
If I tell her, she walks. What I want, in the best possible world, is for her to enjoy fucking me. (yes, talked about it, yes, counseling, yes, listened). If I stop now, I can learn from this, though trust in the marriage is compromised. But I'm not sure I can.
If I tell her, she walks. What I want, in the best possible world, is for her to enjoy fucking me. (yes, talked about it, yes, counseling, yes, listened). If I stop now, I can learn from this, though trust in the marriage is compromised. But I'm not sure I can.
Aug 31, 2011
Steeeeverino commented on Savage Love.
LAH's letter makes me realize that I've been a CPOS since I started fucking another woman a couple of months ago. My wife just has never been interested in sex (especially with me, I fear) and even when she remembers to try it's never momentous. Still, seeing LAH lay this out, I realize I'm wrong, even if she doesn't suspect a thIng. And she doesn't, because she doesn't notice that I think about sex until I tell her.
But goddamn I'm happier than I've been in years. People notice--even she noticed that I was happy when she took a business trip a few weeks ago. And it's translated well into my so-called sex life with her, too. Using protection with the other woman. I love being sexually desirable and powerful again. It's been so very long.
I have some thinking to do; a small child is involved. But I love feeling this druglike euphoria, and I. don't know if I can stop, even though it's wrong.
But goddamn I'm happier than I've been in years. People notice--even she noticed that I was happy when she took a business trip a few weeks ago. And it's translated well into my so-called sex life with her, too. Using protection with the other woman. I love being sexually desirable and powerful again. It's been so very long.
I have some thinking to do; a small child is involved. But I love feeling this druglike euphoria, and I. don't know if I can stop, even though it's wrong.
Aug 13, 2011
Steeeeverino updated his or her bio.
Mar 26, 2011
Steeeeverino commented on Savage Love.
@170 Suzy, for me sex is more than just sex. Sex is acceptance, validation, sharing with a person I want to be with. Denial of sex is a rejection of all that (@23 is still my story, and I'm standing by it) and at some point I am going to be a better person ( and parent ) if I'm not feeling like shit about myself wondering why my wife has no interesting in fucking me. At some point it doesn't matter whether whe doesn't like fucking at all. She's content with herself, doesn't want to want more, and will dutifully take one for the team.
Mar 22, 2011
Steeeeverino commented on Savage Love.
DRY - end this relationship now or face years of having the same discussion and why you don't like fucking your boyfriend. We're 15 years and counting, and even though I said I understood and would live with it, I was wrong. I wasn't lying--I really thought I could. But when it comes down to it, I'm still hurts every single day that my wife doesn't want to fuck me. Intellectually, I understand. Emotionally, I'm still hurt.
There could be something organic, but she doesn't mind her libido. I don't want sex outside the relationship: I want her to want me. She hasn't masturbated in over 5 years. Full disclosure, arms length, and still we talk about it, still my journals are dominated by just how much sex I'm not getting from her and how much I resent it.
So I have issues. Spare yourself. Run.
There could be something organic, but she doesn't mind her libido. I don't want sex outside the relationship: I want her to want me. She hasn't masturbated in over 5 years. Full disclosure, arms length, and still we talk about it, still my journals are dominated by just how much sex I'm not getting from her and how much I resent it.
So I have issues. Spare yourself. Run.
Mar 11, 2011
Steeeeverino joined My Stranger Face
Mar 10, 2011
Steeeeverino commented on Savage Love Episode 229.
@16 agree, and was surprised when I listened that Dan didn't catch onto the anti-depressant factor there. Goes to show that even when you're perfect, sometimes you're not.
A thought to consider for the girl who can't give a blowjob away: maybe your game isn't all that. My wife said she never had complaints about her head game, but it just not all there. We've tried, but between her lazy technique and reluctance to swallow, it's a lot of work for me to come. Be sure you've got your head together before you try to figure out what's going on in his.
A thought to consider for the girl who can't give a blowjob away: maybe your game isn't all that. My wife said she never had complaints about her head game, but it just not all there. We've tried, but between her lazy technique and reluctance to swallow, it's a lot of work for me to come. Be sure you've got your head together before you try to figure out what's going on in his.
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Good to hand-hold madonna/whore dude, but I've never understood that dichotomy.