Apr 26
Tim Horton commented on SL Letter of the Day: Wrong To Completion.
Tim Horton commented on SL Letter of the Day: Wrong To Completion.
@44 - I am with 48. I would be thrilled to spend my day going down on women, even if no reciprocity. While I do believe I am a special snowflake (just ask my mom), I don't think my fondness for pussy is unique.
Apr 25
Tim Horton commented on SL Letter of the Day: Wrong To Completion.
Tim Horton commented on SL Letter of the Day: Wrong To Completion.
@10 is right. Blowjobs are a simple combination of hands, pressure and enthusiasm. You can teach the first two, the last is harder to come by, pun intended.
In the abstract, I totally get where the LW is coming from. While there are plenty of women who will give a BJ, it's the rare gem (and fucking hot) when you find a girl who get's off on the dick sucking. Gay men have it good.
In the abstract, I totally get where the LW is coming from. While there are plenty of women who will give a BJ, it's the rare gem (and fucking hot) when you find a girl who get's off on the dick sucking. Gay men have it good.
Apr 10
Tim Horton commented on Savage Love.
Tim Horton commented on Savage Love.
Four comments for BIB:
1. Passion fades, especially four years into a relationship. That is partly (mostly) why people your age break up with their high-school or college boyfriends. Also a big reason why married-with-children types, who can't easliy leave relationships, cheat. Welcome to Normaltown.
2. You used "The One" in quotes, so I assume you recognize there are lot's of "the one" out there. Especially at age 22. While there is no guarantee of finding another "one" there is some certainty you are about to grow more and more restless and potentially resentful about this "one." Call it off for a while? At a minimum, if he is the "one" you may appreciate him once you date around and realize the grass isn't greener. If you never give yourself the chance to date around, you will never know how good (or bad) you have it with your current. Once you experience the fading of passion with several relationships, you tend to become more realistic about what a long term relationship feels like.
3. Dan is on to something about selfish lovers being good in bed but I don't think its for the obvious reason. Great sexual experiences happen when your partner, in the throws of ecstasy, use you for their pleasure. As long as it isn't one-sided, people want to have a sex partner who is there because they are immensely enjoying themselves rather than merely trying to get you off. Which brings me to.....
4. You have an equal duty in the relationship to get things hot. You don't get to complain about passion and offer no solutions. I call B.S. that you don't have non-vanilla fantasies. It may be that you just don't want to or feel comfortable exploring them with your BF.
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1. Passion fades, especially four years into a relationship. That is partly (mostly) why people your age break up with their high-school or college boyfriends. Also a big reason why married-with-children types, who can't easliy leave relationships, cheat. Welcome to Normaltown.
2. You used "The One" in quotes, so I assume you recognize there are lot's of "the one" out there. Especially at age 22. While there is no guarantee of finding another "one" there is some certainty you are about to grow more and more restless and potentially resentful about this "one." Call it off for a while? At a minimum, if he is the "one" you may appreciate him once you date around and realize the grass isn't greener. If you never give yourself the chance to date around, you will never know how good (or bad) you have it with your current. Once you experience the fading of passion with several relationships, you tend to become more realistic about what a long term relationship feels like.
3. Dan is on to something about selfish lovers being good in bed but I don't think its for the obvious reason. Great sexual experiences happen when your partner, in the throws of ecstasy, use you for their pleasure. As long as it isn't one-sided, people want to have a sex partner who is there because they are immensely enjoying themselves rather than merely trying to get you off. Which brings me to.....
4. You have an equal duty in the relationship to get things hot. You don't get to complain about passion and offer no solutions. I call B.S. that you don't have non-vanilla fantasies. It may be that you just don't want to or feel comfortable exploring them with your BF.
Apr 2
Tim Horton commented on Savage Love.
Tim Horton commented on Savage Love.
Dan, I think your lack of experience dating and being married to women leads you to render unrealistic advice, like this gem: "In a year or maybe two, after your sex life has kicked back into gear, your wife might be willing to either explore your fantasies through role-play games or give you a pass to get with a woman with a dick"
Sure, and your wife might also be completely down with you sleeping with her friends, quitting your job and selling your suits for the latest Ed Hardy collection. But I wouldn't count on any of this, you know, actually happening.
Sure, and your wife might also be completely down with you sleeping with her friends, quitting your job and selling your suits for the latest Ed Hardy collection. But I wouldn't count on any of this, you know, actually happening.
Mar 15
Tim Horton commented on Child Rape, Inc..
Tim Horton commented on Child Rape, Inc..
@7 - Priests rape children because the requirements to become a priest attract pedophiles. How many sane, sexually normal males in their 20s are going to sacrafice their sexual lives for the church? Catholic arbitrary rules on celibacy are only attractive to conflicted closet cases or sexual deviants trying to hide their perversions behind a glass wall of celibacy.
Mar 12
Tim Horton commented on SL Letter of the Day: The Missing Condom.
Tim Horton commented on SL Letter of the Day: The Missing Condom.
@68 - all good points. I am not bashing the necessity of condoms. After my high school girlfriend's pregnancy scare at age 16, I wore them religiously during casual encounters. Much like the hockey visor, the state of Iowa and those LiveJasmin pop-up ads on my free porn websites, condoms are a necessary evil.
Mar 12
Tim Horton commented on SL Letter of the Day: The Missing Condom.
Tim Horton commented on SL Letter of the Day: The Missing Condom.
@62 - Last time I was lamenting my married status with my single friend who has a small concubine of beautiful women, his one word reply made me feel better: condoms. His analogy - like going to a five star restaurant with cling wrap on your tongue and taste buds.
I generally find anal to be looser than vaginal sex, at least past the initial penetration and sphincter muscles. My sample size is single digits so your mileage/tension may vary.
TMI, I know. Feel free to throw me back out of your club.
I generally find anal to be looser than vaginal sex, at least past the initial penetration and sphincter muscles. My sample size is single digits so your mileage/tension may vary.
TMI, I know. Feel free to throw me back out of your club.
Mar 12
Tim Horton commented on SL Letter of the Day: The Missing Condom.
Tim Horton commented on SL Letter of the Day: The Missing Condom.
@56 - Mrs. Horton and I are firmly in your club. Not sure if that makes your club more or less appealing.
Mar 10
Tim Horton commented on SL Letter of the Day: Double Bi Standard.
Tim Horton commented on SL Letter of the Day: Double Bi Standard.
@31 - 20 pack of timbits coming your way!
As I tell my wife, you always have time for Tim Horton!
As I tell my wife, you always have time for Tim Horton!
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