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Jan 23, 2014 RTam commented on I, Anonymous.
Sometimes speaking up and publicly shaming a parent like that will only make it worse for the kid when they're alone. It's not an easy call to make, no matter how simple it seems from a distance.
Jan 13, 2014 RTam commented on SL Letter of the Day: Need to Know.
Why did I pick today to click on the unregistered comments? *sigh*
Jan 2, 2014 RTam commented on SL Letter of the Day: An Easy One to Get the New Year Started.
When Terry is in his 60's he'll still be hot. Maybe he'll only be slightly above average in his late 70's?
Dec 7, 2013 RTam commented on SLLOTD: Judgment Day.
I agree with Dan and those saying that she should trust her gut on this one. In my own experience, I've figured out that while honesty is #1 priority, the first few dates are when it's best to ease into ANY delicate information.

There are tons of jokes about people on first dates that start off with "I want to be married in 6 months, have 2 kids, and be a stay at home parent" or "I despise Republicans and think that it's a character flaw to vote conservative" - yeah, maybe that's true, but since first dates are when most of us put on our best face and expect a little sugar coating, hearing that makes me think that it IS being sugar coated and the whole truth is even worse.

So I'd do what the LW did and feel like that level of disclosure was probably the low end of the spectrum. And then run.
Nov 19, 2013 RTam commented on SL Letters of the Day: More On Gym Oglers.
It appears it is in the genes and nature of Human Beings to react differently to the same situations. Some people enjoy being ogled, some don't. Neither is wrong, but the act of leering at a person one does not know is usually considered, by decent and respectful human beings, offensive and inappropriate. The few that enjoy it do not outweigh the many that feel objectified and uncomfortable by it.

tl:dr - don't be an ass. Treat people with respect.
Oct 31, 2013 RTam commented on SL Letter of the Day: Take a Pass On This Pastor.
Dan didn't say gay men were or were not promiscuous, he said that they (shockingly) won't fuck anyone, anytime, anywhere. You can have standards and still screw around. But the religious closet cases are not usually even remotely attractive by anyone's standards and even if LW was gay, he likely wouldn't want his dick on/in/around the guy.
Oct 3, 2013 RTam commented on SLLOTD: Fully-Clothed Fantasy.
@26 - some of my enjoyment of gay porn might be that I'm not picking up on the "faking," but the clips that my (mostly straight) girlfriends and I share amongst ourselves are the ones where there is real affection as well as enjoyment being shown. I have never, ever seen a straight porno where both participants were attractive AND seemed affectionate towards each other AND were enjoying themselves while fucking. I don't even thing I've seen one with 2 of the 3. Plus gay porn actors are exponentially better looking than the straight porn actors. Call me shallow, but hot guy(s) fucking and having a good time is awesome to watch no matter who is on the other end of the dick. (which, now that I think about it, may explain the pretty women and ugly guys in straight porn)
Sep 24, 2013 RTam commented on "My Husband and Son Both Masturbate—But Not Together—Are They Sex Addicts?".
@17 - My friend had some mall Glamour shots that she was referring to, not exactly jerk off material for most guys. I suspect that the letter writer would even balk at those.
Sep 24, 2013 RTam commented on "My Husband and Son Both Masturbate—But Not Together—Are They Sex Addicts?".
I had a friend like that years ago, she was a very devout Catholic and was so upset that her husband would jack off in the bathroom occasionally with ordinary porn magazines. She thought he should, at the VERY least, use photos of her! It was all I could do not to laugh at the time.
Sep 20, 2013 RTam commented on SLLOTD: The Anti-Choice Boyfriend.
Agree with @33. He made his position clear, I respect that. I think she should have agreed to no penetrative sex if she wanted to stay with him.

Lying to get laid is WRONG! No matter what side of the fence you're on.

Of course, I think she should dump him for being a pro-life dumbass, but like previous posters have said, when you're in lurve it's not that simple.