KateRose
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Jul 18, 2013 KateRose commented on Savage Love.
@20 I see what you did there. Cute. :)

But to answer your question: Yes, ageism IS a thing. To dismiss someone's feelings because they haven't had the benefit of experience is unfair. Yes, I know more at 30 than I did at 20. And I'm sure I'll know more at 40 than I do now. But, that doesn't mean that my feelings are invalid and I should be told to "grow up". Or worse, when people say, "You'll be laughing at how silly you're being over this in a few years."
Several years ago, one of my best friends at the time had a daughter that was around 7 (give or take a year). We were all camping together, and I was getting over a breakup that hurt a lot. The little girl was trying to commiserate by telling me about the boy she loved, and got very sad because they couldn't be together. Because she was also asking me questions about "the birds and the bees" I asked her mother how she wanted me to handle it, or if she wanted me to send her to her parents for those questions. After telling me I could answer any questions I was comfortable with, the only thing she asked of me was that I not dismiss her daughters feelings. While it might not be the "love" that we've experienced as adults, it is the realest thing she had experienced to date, and that made it valid.
While I had no intention of dismissing how she felt, that request stuck with me. To tell someone they still have growing to do (which is true for anyone at any age as long as they aren't dying today) is invalidating how they feel now and is exceptionally unfair.
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Jul 15, 2013 KateRose commented on SL Letter of the Day: His Anglican Organ.
@81, my favorite one for that was "dickmatized".
Jul 11, 2013 KateRose commented on SL Letter of the Day: His Anglican Organ.
@58 Thank you. I almost snarfed my drink up my nose.
Jul 11, 2013 KateRose commented on SL Letter of the Day: His Anglican Organ.
If you decide that using race-based, or gender-based insults is wrong, you don't get to pick and choose how wrong they are.
Jul 11, 2013 KateRose commented on SL Letter of the Day: His Anglican Organ.
Not particularly. It just struck me as hypocritical.
Jul 11, 2013 KateRose commented on SL Letter of the Day: His Anglican Organ.
Of course I should have put quotes around all the inflammatory words... good thing today is my friday... sheesh.
Jul 11, 2013 KateRose commented on SL Letter of the Day: His Anglican Organ.
@47 So it's ok to tell people that use the words "cunt" and pussywhipped that they're being dicks?
Jul 11, 2013 KateRose commented on SL Letter of the Day: His Anglican Organ.
@ 28 "And what kind of happy life are you leading if there's so much that you look down upon and take offense to?"
This one sentence makes such a huge point.
I care much more if a person acts in such a way that shows they are misogynistic than if they say a word that could possibly be taken that way. Words are words. They only have the power you attribute to them. I think a person should be able to call someone a "pussy" or a "dick" without having to discuss why they felt the need to use that particular gender connotation. That's why I surround myself with people who believe in equality, but also don't talk about it like they have a stick up their ass.
Jul 2, 2013 KateRose commented on Savage Love.
@103, Actually, when I originally read your comments I read them the same way as Eirene and migrationist. I just didn't say anything because, from reading here a ton, I assumed you didn't mean it the way it sounded (looked, I suppose, technically). I don't think anyone is trying to attack you, though.
Jun 28, 2013 KateRose commented on Savage Love.
Regarding talking to your doctor about questions of this nature... Most likely I would start with internet research, if for no other reason than to have a jumping off point when talking to my physician about it. If I could find a suitable answer online, I may never bother bringing it up with my doctor.
But, I can say for sure that, unless I was having actual physical issues that I thought may be able to be attributed to whatever I had questions about, I would not make an appointment just to get that answered. Not only would that seem like a waste of time, but I'd have a co-pay for that! More likely, it would just be something I'd bring up during an appointment that I had for another reason.

(I am not quite awake yet, so if I talked in circles and made no sense, I'll apologize now. If I wait, I'll forget what I wanted to say, and I can always translate later!)