Nov 3, 2015
commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: The Invisible Man
Welcome to the gay world. Everyone (almost?) trying to date or fuck somebody out of their league. I don't know how people get through it without their confidence absolutely shredded. Even the buff, good-looking guys struggle because anyone who is on par with them seems to be looking for someone even better and the whole commitment problem comes up.
As somebody who is neither good-looking nor was buff, I still remember the open sneers if I even looked at somebody in a club, not even approaching them. The merciless rejections, the online blocking (90s technology) once they had seen your picture. Scarring.
Still, I have had the last laugh. I shacked up with someone who is younger, good looking and highly intelligent, and weirdly, fancies me rotten even though objectively I cannot understand why. 15+ years later and still going strong although I am just done yelling at him and feel both guilty and angry about a relatively minor thing.
Advice? I don't know how this relationship thing works. I think people know what doesn't work. One thing I know for sure, having "standards" and a long, long list of exclusions will make you single for sure. Ask my 53yo spinster friend who hasn't had a relationship since she was 26, but doesn't see the need to trim her list much - although finding somebody who wasn't divorced and wanted children has been dropped due entirely to biology.
Oct 26, 2015
commented on SL Letter of the Day: the Flared-Base Talk
Then again, you can't cure stupid. We made some new gay friends and it transpired that we had a mutual acquaintance. Said acquaintance was a housemate in a rental until he got put on the kerb with his belongings.
While they were out, he got drunk (on their vodka) and stoned. Lit candles, burnt the carpet and curtains and inserted their (from their cupboard) dildo so far up that it disappeared. They come home, three hours of persuasion to get him to the ER. They didn't think that such a long dildo could go that far up.......
Oct 19, 2015
commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: The Problem With My Gay Brother Isn't That He's Gay
a) I wouldn't give a shit about what the relatives think. They'll find out in time.
b) I too have me this arsehole before. Behaves badly, spends all his money on drugs and alcohol, picks fights with colleagues and bosses, gets fired and then screams homophobia. Fast forward 25 years, homeless and blaming everyone else for his unfortunate situation.
Oct 7, 2015
commented on The World Will End Today
As the world is a globe and I live in GMT +11, it's already the 8th October and a beautiful day.
If the religious don't want to be mocked, they should stop talking shit.
Aug 31, 2015
commented on The Rentboy Raid Burned Up the Internet All Weekend
Another completely stupid law from a backward country. Particularly stupid when websites connect clients directly with workers and exclude pimps and gangsters. I am starting to smell a rat.
Incidentally, I know a few former sex workers who worked 35+ years ago. They have all done very well. One did it to pay her way through law school and she is now very senior. Others did it for the easy money and are now very comfortable. One in particular is quite rich. I can assure you that they do not seem to be in the least fazed about their former employment.
NO, it wasn't me. I am male and not purty enough - not even 35 years ago.