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Jan 30, 2015 alguna_rubia commented on This Morning's Best Long Read: Jonathan Chait On the Return of Political Correctness and the Online Swarm of Illiberal Liberals.
It's interesting to me that no one has linked J. Bryan Lowder's response yet, because I actually thought that his POV was the most interesting, because he really separated the wheat from the chaff in Chait's argument. The "take-downs" are often good reads, but they're much better at dismantling the arguments than actually trying to find any true points in the article.

Here's Lowder's: http://www.slate.com/blogs/outward/2015/…
Jan 18, 2015 alguna_rubia commented on SL Letter of the Day: Violating New Rules.
@50: Yeah, that is certainly what it reads like, isn't it?

I think there have been a lot of good points in this comment thread. I'm with the crowd who thinks that she actually thought she was following the rules by calling to ask before actually sleeping with the guy. Also, I think her horny brain probably said "call before the guy eats me out, call after... is there really that big of a difference?" and decided "No" because it was more convenient.

And honestly, the amount he is flipping out seems out-of-proportion to the offense. I think he's either flipping out because he didn't think it would actually happen and didn't really think his permission through, or there are other problems in the relationship that are causing him to give this more weight. I honestly think it's probably the former, but I understand why some people think it's the latter.
Jan 11, 2015 alguna_rubia commented on Russia Bans Trans People, Fetishists from Driving.
I'm glad I wasn't the only one who realized that Russia probably does have too many traffic accidents, and they have nothing to do with mental health unless we classify drunk driving as alcoholism.
Jan 8, 2015 alguna_rubia commented on Gentrifying While Black.
@25: Honestly? Yes, if we're talking about good jobs. It might not be directly from one of those people, but generally, the jobs you get are the ones where you or someone you know already knows someone who works at the company. The way most private sector companies fill their positions goes something like this:

1) Open position up to current employees.
2) Tell employees to pass along resumes of people they know and can vouch for.
3) Open position up to limited public lists (university recruitment sites, for example)
4) Open position up to general public.

These steps stop as soon as the company finds someone they like. If they like a current employee for the position, the chain stops there. If their employees vouch for someone they like, the job never gets beyond the current employees' range of connections. This is the entire reason why some universities have frats that produce a disproportionate number of rich and powerful people, by the way. The old members, who've gotten to be rich and powerful, tend to want to hire someone from their old frat, and so those people become rich and powerful, etc. It's really only the low-end private sector and normal government jobs that are not gotten through at least the friends of one's friends and family.
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Jan 6, 2015 alguna_rubia commented on I, Anonymous.
Ugh, why does anyone think that this woman was "just trying to make small talk"? She basically said "I think your boyfriend is taking too long to propose to you." Even if the relationship were going really well, that's super awkward. It's even worse when they're not engaged for very good reasons.

@18: The article you cite mentions a perfectly good way to get a conflict-free diamond: get one that's man-made, not mined. A lot of ethical people are fine with vintage stones, as diamonds don't really change much and if people were exploited while they were mined, it was a very long time ago and there's not much you can do about it now.
Dec 3, 2014 alguna_rubia commented on SL Letter of the Day: Zoning Violation.
@38: While I agree with you, I at least hope you acknowledge that some of us can't help but "dress sexy" because clothes that are demure on normal people look "sexy" on large-breasted women. Also, if you're staring overlong, I hope you're embarrassed when the woman brings it to your attention. Not traumatized for life, but suitably embarrassed.
Dec 3, 2014 alguna_rubia commented on Savage Love.
@17: Wow, those are incredible. I don't think I ever understood how anyone could think it looks like a flower until seeing a couple of these.

As for MiM: I had the same feelings when I was 17- I wouldn't even take my pants off for my high school boyfriend because I was so paranoid about what he'd think. I didn't know what the vulva was "supposed" to look like, so I didn't know if mine would be good enough or not. Having put my face in several other vulvas since then, I've learned this: vulvas do not need to be visually appealing. Some people love the way they look, and that's great for them, but I stick my face in pussy because I like having my face there. I like the way it smells, tastes, and feels. I don't need pussy to look good. I'm betting that's what your boyfriend thinks, too.
Dec 2, 2014 alguna_rubia commented on UK Bans Production of Porn Featuring Female Ejaculation.
The only one on this list that I agree with banning is strangulation, because I think that there's a legitimate interest in not giving people a financial incentive for doing something that can't be done safely. The rest of this list is just anti-kink and anti-women for no reason.
Dec 1, 2014 alguna_rubia commented on Home for Thanksgiving and Not Interested in the Game, Your Cousins, or More Pie?.
Yeah, this survey was really badly designed. When they asked "kissing more often" I thought... more often than what?
Nov 22, 2014 alguna_rubia commented on SL Letter of the Day: Profile & Courage.
@59: You should keep trying to meet up with people, but if I were you, I wouldn't devote too much time to it. Right now, I think you're devoting too much time and energy to it, and your lack of returns on that investment is really getting you down. Don't message more than 3-5 women on OKCupid a week. The stuff about finding other poly people is probably the best advice, because there are relatively few single women out there who are really down for being someone's secondary. You might want to try doing some other kinds of activities.



As for your wife, you don't necessarily need to cut down on her extracurricular activities right this instant, but you do need to put her on notice that you'll need her to do so at some point. If you've only been doing it for a couple months, she may be going through a "slutty phase" where she's just marveling at the sheer bounty of booty. She'll probably tire of it of her own accord, but she'll cut down sooner if you let her know that you're lonely when she's out most nights in the week.