commented on SL Letter of the Day: You're Doing Everything Right
I'm a woman in the dating world and if I saw a profile of an amputee, I'd read the rest of it to see what common ground we had. If I thought it was a good match otherwise, and I could deal with giving up whatever physical activities his amputation seemed to preclude, then I'd contact him. But if I showed up to a first date with a guy to find out he had a serious amputation and **he hadn't told me**, I might dump him right there and I certainly wouldn't go out with him again. For one thing, I would wonder what other important aspects of his self that he wasn't intending to disclose to me until I stumbled over it - maybe he's an addict, or a convicted child molester, or HIV positive, or married, or whatever - all things he thinks is fine not to tell me until I'm emotionally invested, compromised, and unable to make an impartial, informed decision to protect my best interests.
It's a dick move and utterly selfish. Dump the mother-fucker immediately.
commented on Savage Love
Condoms are great, but as a woman, I'd get an IUD or long-term shot as a backup prevention for the most commonly sexually transmitted complication there is: pregnancy.
commented on Youth Pastor Watch
@12 Let's say guy #1 takes pictures of my kid. Several days later in a completely unrelated incident, guy #2 punches my kid in the face and gut, shoves them down and stomps on my kid's arm, breaking it. Both guys are caught, confess, and are convicted. Guy #1 gets 30 years plus lifetime supervision. Guy #2 gets a maximum of five years for felony assault and battery (or aggravated assault), no supervision when he gets out.
I wouldn't be happy about the pictures, but I'd be way more unhappy about the person who actually hurt my kid.