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Jan 4 Gamebird commented on Savage Love.
Re: testosterone for women.

I am 44, very fit and active. Over the last two years, I'd noticed a substantial decrease in my sex drive. I brought it up to my doctor, who prescribed the usual estrogen (birth control pills) in August. I hadn't been on birth control pills since my early 20s. They were horrific. I lost interest in working out, my running time increased 10%, my weight increased several pounds despite me immediately restricting calorie intake, it was tough to get out of bed in the morning, and I was so moody I nearly broke up with both my gym/martial arts studio and my boyfriend of two years. When my period came around, I had cramps so bad I had to use heating pads at night and I still had to miss a day of work.

Was I horny? Well, twice. Once while I was at work (which was unhelpful) and once several days after a mood swing that just wouldn't quit had led me to not want to be so much as in the same room with my boyfriend. So, also, no help.

I discontinued use and did some research on what else might work. Testosterone. So I asked the doctor about that. She said it wasn't legal to prescribe to women in the US, but she could tell me the dosage I'd need to take. I acquired that from Mexico (where it is sold over the counter as a gel) and began using it in October. OMG. It's the real deal. My moods have evened out, my sex drive has increased, my motivation and enthusiasm for life is up, my focus is better. Working out is a joy. I can lift more than I used to.

The only negative side effects I've noticed is increased acne. It's not awful, but at 44, I'd pretty much waved acne good-bye forever. Now I usually have one or two small zits. I'll happily take that trade-off.

It's been tested and prescribed for women in Australia and some other places. I don't see any reason why it's not an on-label application, except that 'quality of life', especially for women, is such a vague diagnosis. I understand that placebo effect is a big deal, but I went into the estrogen therapy with the full expectation that it would work. It didn't, in several measurable ways (weight, run time, physical performance - even if you discount all the self-reported emotional/soft issues). I went into testosterone therapy with a lot of trepidation, thinking it might be the same as the estrogen. I felt better and more revved up within a week.

I don't think it's a placebo. I think this stuff really works. The older woman might have been prescribed the stuff for bone density or other issues. But I'm sure she's listing it not because she's saying 'my hormones are out of whack' or 'I'm transitioning', but instead that 'Hey, I'm full of life and vigor and want to get laid again for the first time in 20 years!' It's *THAT* much of a game-changer for a woman. Enough of a game-changer that yes, it can redefine your whole approach to life.
Jan 2 Gamebird commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Newly Engageed Woman Debates Confessing Bullshit "Infidelity" Or Keeping Mouth Shut.
This is so trivial I almost wish Dan had advised her to confess everything just so 1) it was off her chest and 2) so if the dude (and family/friends) were such assholes that they'd make a big fuss about this, then she's better off using this as an excuse to break all contact (and engagements) with them.
Dec 28, 2016 Gamebird commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Dispatched To (And a Dispatch From) the So-Called "Friend Zone".
I've never had trouble setting boundaries with my friends about what's an allowable topic of conversation. Even if it sometimes comes off as rude ("I don't believe in spiritualism and I don't want you discussing it with me or my kids.") It seems to me that he might reconsider his tactics in setting boundaries for sexual conversations with Kathy.
Dec 24, 2016 Gamebird commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Toy Story.
There are few things that compare to high quality garden tools.
Dec 10, 2016 Gamebird commented on Intelligence Agencies: Russia Was Trying To Help Trump Win Election.
Wouldn't this be treason on Trump's part?
Dec 7, 2016 Gamebird commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: The Current BF and the Ex-Intern.
I suggest LW trust her instincts and get out. She brought up her concerns and he acted like they were ridiculous. Also, the number of times she deprecated her jealousy or 'owned it' in her letter was weird. She keeps saying the jealousy is irrational, then she describes perfectly good reasons to feel insecure and jealous.
Dec 7, 2016 Gamebird commented on Savage Love.
I'm with DonnyKlicious - Anon seems super invested in making excuses for this guy. Do you really want to spend your time with a guy you have to make excuses for?
Dec 1, 2016 Gamebird commented on Jesus Saves....
That's kind of like how Jesus hates people who get amputations or have incurable conditions. He 'saves' plenty of people who come down with diseases that are often misdiagnosed or have a potential for remission, but folks unlucky enough to lose a leg will never see any divine grace restoring their ability to walk.
Nov 29, 2016 Gamebird commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Live In Nope.
It's definitely not a man-splaining thing, because here he is trying to tell Dan that Dan didn't provide a thorough enough answer for his liking.

Does this guy not realize how much of a pain in the ass he is? I'm tired of him already and I don't even know him!
Nov 29, 2016 Gamebird commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: She Done Dumped Me Wrong.
@17 and 18 - You rock. That's everything I wanted to say, but better.