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Sep 8, 2014 Gamebird commented on Working Mom Going to Prison for Getting Her Teen Daughter an Abortion.
Given a choice between having an unwanted grandchild or spending 18 months in prison and becoming a felon, I would gladly sign up for the prison term.

However, that's not a choice the government should be forcing me or any other mother to make.
Sep 5, 2014 Gamebird commented on SL Letter of the Day: BDSMC.
Aug 20, 2014 Gamebird commented on SL Letters of the Day: Who Am I Cuckolding Here?.
He's being Nice Guy because he figured out she was about to leave him. As soon as he can figure out a way to sink some emotional hooks into her that isolates her and makes her more dependent on him, he'll turn up the heat again. This is classic manipulative asshole behavior.

Having her fuck complete strangers is not only a control thing for him, but it also prevents her from cultivating male friends who might lend her emotional support when he starts applying the thumbscrews.

Get out now.
Aug 13, 2014 Gamebird commented on Savage Love.
Pate - If I were in her situation and a guy I'd been sexting with for a few months told me he was moving close and wanted to move the relationship to a new level, I would be very much like, 'Go away!' and 'Please no!', because I'd think that he'd want more of what he'd already been getting, and in person it's harder to turn off the computer when the baby cries, or establish firm boundaries on work hours and the like. You're threatening her with having to navigate a minefield of relationship issues in the middle of two other very stressful things. It might work if you made it very clear to her what you expect, and if you showed up (if she agrees you showing up is okay) and helped only. That means no expectation of fun, eating out, sex, partying, having a good time. Well, actually, you'd be saying that 'having a good time' for you would be the opportunity to help her during this time by being child care and covering for domestic duties while she settled into her new job. If you aren't interested in that, then yeah, you should probably consider yourself dumped, because her income and her child are both going to trump romantic interests, as well they should if she's smart. The only man she should be dating is one who will help her with those two things. It's up to you to decide if you're that man.
Jul 15, 2014 Gamebird commented on Savage Love.
About the dog - Yes, he loves the dog more than you. There's nothing wrong with that. Move on. Find someone else. He's not going to be emotionally available until the dog has passed away, and hanging around wishing the animal's demise is awful. Many people are MUCH more emotionally engaged with a pet than they ever will be with people, and to my observation, once they are in love with a pet, they will NOT engage with people in the same way. The pet may be more important to them than money, friends, children, socializing, or romantic partners. That's just how it is. Don't hang around being jealous. Just move on and let him enjoy his relationship. It's probably very fulfilling to him. You can NOT compete with a pet. Don't even try.
Jul 9, 2014 Gamebird commented on Loose Box of Smallpox Virus Found in NIH Storeroom.
I got vaccinated for varicela about three weeks ago. Health department charged $110 for it, which I thought was kind of steep. If there's an outbreak, we *have* a vaccine for it.
Jun 30, 2014 Gamebird commented on SL Letter of the Day: Queens of the Retail Stage.
I think Dan's right on the money about internalized misogyny at work. I used to loathe femininity in all its forms - pink, princesses, giggling, girliness, dolls, dresses, makeup, ear piercings, timidity, daintiness, etc. I gave birth to a daughter who is as strong-willed and opinionated as I am, and as the fates would have it, is determinedly feminine. I don't know where she got that gene, but she's got it and I've learned ... if not to love it, then to love her, and to stand up for the right of all to be as feminine as they wish.
May 3, 2014 Gamebird commented on SL Letter of the Day: He's Single, Ladies.
Women are not attracted to being mistreated or abused. They might be attracted to a person who mistreats or abuses them, but it is not the mistreatment or abuse the woman wants or enjoys.
Feb 12, 2014 Gamebird commented on Savage Love.
More physical activity for UGLY would be a good idea. It would get him fit and feeling better about himself, both of which are attractive to women. Also, if it doesn't change his love life, then it will at least get him healthy and increase his chances of making it into his 40s and beyond.

Once he has basic fitness down, he can join or look for co-ed sports, where again, even if it doesn't click with anyone special, it increases his interaction.

Lack of physical activity has a HUGE impact on depression.
Dec 31, 2013 Gamebird commented on Happy New Year, Dominic!.
Poor spiders. Trying to have an orgy or a group cuddle or whatever in peace, and some fleshy giant has to come stick an appendage in the middle of it!