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      <title>Comments On: SL Letter of the Day: Crossing Over
    
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      <![CDATA["Is it possible this could be just a one-time thing that brings us closer as friends, or is it more likely to ruin our friendship?"<br />
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Yes, and yes. It is possible that it could bring you closer as friends. It is also more likely that it will ruin -- or at least change -- your friendship.
        
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      <![CDATA[The gay guy should just lean back and say, "Sure, you can suck my dick if you want." That's what we might call cutting to the chase.
        
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      <![CDATA[This strikes me as a bad idea. If he felt so strongly that he had to take time off, sex is just prob going to reignite that. It wasn't just a casual "gee my friend is kinda hot".
        
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      <![CDATA[@7, only if you can hold REALLY firm boundaries. A couple rolls in the hay, if you're up front about it, okay. But if she's having feelings for you, do not *date* her, or there will be Drama.
        
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      <![CDATA[The concluding sentence to the second paragraph requires a citation. Privilege dulls, darling, and absolute privilege dulls absolutely.<br />
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But (and I'm sure Ms Cute will appreciate this), nobody thinks more highly of the understanding of straight men than I do. In my opinion, Nature has given them so much that they never find it necessary to use more than half.
        
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      <![CDATA[What if this was women? I had the same scenario with a good lesbian friend who confessed having feelings for me. I've played with girls before, so I wouldn't mind a fling or even a short term relationship, but I'm not really interested in a life long relationship. The other detail is that I think she is pretty young and hasn't been out for long (like she's 22-ish and I'm a dozen years older and more experienced) and I don't think she's had a full on relationship yet. <br>
        
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      <![CDATA[Good point oskomena, judging by all the hateful misogynistic rants and threats made against women on the internet ,or any country for that matter, I would feel the same way.<br />
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Maybe when I'm 21 maybe I can go to a gay bar and sit around like a useless stump and someone will automatically ask me out/ home without me having to do anything if gay hookups are really that easy. Judging by all the complaints on realjock about the lack of gay meat this doesn't seem to be the case.
        
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      <![CDATA[I'd love to know how this worked out.
        
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      <![CDATA[@2 As a woman, I find it tough to just go for any guy without assessing the risks - not necessarily of falling in love, but of being raped, killed, etc.
        
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      <![CDATA[I always wonder how archived Dan's advice worked out.
        
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    <author><![CDATA[The fag]]></author>
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      <![CDATA[A few of my long-time straight guy friends have felt the same way as this letter writer.  I think breeders are just curious about the other side of fence.  One of my friends (a real "ladies man") has expressed his frustration with how easy it can be for gay guys to hook up at a bar and move on without big emotional hoops to jump through.  He recently told me he tells people about the time I picked up a guy at a bar with just one sentence, "Wanna f*ck?".  <br />
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I kinda feel sorry for straight guys.  Sorry bro's; you get easier access to civil rights, we get easier access to ass.
        
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      <![CDATA[I'm guessing that if he did ask his buddy if he wanted "to have a sexual experience" with him, they at least ended up laughing themselves to tears in a bro-hug.
        
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          Posted by <a href="http://www.thestranger.com/seattle/Profile?oid=1503138">rob!</a>]]>
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