http://slog.thestranger.com/slog/archives/2012/10/29/sl-letter-of-the-day-60-year-old-virgin Comments On: SL Letter of the Day: 60-Year-Old Virgin by Dan Savage en-us Copyright 2013 The Stranger. All rights reserved. This RSS file is offered to individuals, The Stranger readers, and non-commercial organizations only. Any commercial websites wishing to use this RSS file, please contact The Stranger. webmaster@thestranger.com (The Stranger Webmaster) Wed, 22 May 2013 00:00:01 -0700 Wed, 22 May 2013 23:00:00 -0700 Foundation http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Posted by MJJ]]> Sat, 03 Nov 2012 08:29:58 -0700 The Stranger Posted by getting out more]]> Tue, 30 Oct 2012 15:27:10 -0700 The Stranger
Posted by Helenka (also a Canuck)]]> Tue, 30 Oct 2012 10:10:58 -0700 The Stranger have been touched intimately by another human being, that happened late, did not last very long and is now almost twenty years ago.

I do pay for sex as a substitute, though. If I did not I would probably go crazy.
Posted by Registered European]]> Mon, 29 Oct 2012 21:59:31 -0700 The Stranger
I know; I was headed that way for a number of years. I remember being shocked into a change of behavior after hearing a radio interview with a man in his eighties. It was long enough ago that his orientation wasn't discussed, but he said that he was trim and active and in good health, got along well with people and others seemed to enjoy his company, but he had "never been touched intimately by another human being" and despaired of ever having that experience. He said, "I never intended it that way. It just happened."

That's kind of an extreme case of a "How'd That Happen?!" scenario, but I can see it. With every milestone that passes—30's, 40's, 50's—it just seems more and more unbelievable and ridiculous. Broadcast standards being what they were at the time, I guess, there was no mention of counseling or sexual surrogacy, and the story just kind of ground to a halt with the unspoken implication that his goose was cooked.

If you think you'd be embarrassed opening up to somebody else now, just imagine admitting in your eighties to yourself, if no one else, that you were too afraid to risk rejection.

Worst-case scenario, however mortified you may be, you'll live to be smitten by another person on another day.

Also: never gossip about someone like this who takes a chance on you. There are few higher compliments than being asked.
Posted by rob!]]> Mon, 29 Oct 2012 18:37:43 -0700 The Stranger I'm gay and not a virgin but haven't had sex in 8 years and never had a boyfriend.

It's just that you cease to bother with it and it becomes a normal mode of functioning. You forget how to talk to people let alone how to talk to people in an effort to become intimate.

This is far more banal and often than the occurrence of autism or any specific pathology.
Posted by Falcor]]> Mon, 29 Oct 2012 18:34:54 -0700 The Stranger Posted by tkc]]> Mon, 29 Oct 2012 16:51:34 -0700 The Stranger Posted by I Got Nuthin']]> Mon, 29 Oct 2012 16:38:10 -0700 The Stranger

Posted by Max Solomon]]> Mon, 29 Oct 2012 16:26:20 -0700 The Stranger