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      <![CDATA[thank you from texas only if they could do this here dreaming can be a reality. Thank you WA to make everything OK!
        
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      <![CDATA[A long time ago a lesbian friend of mine asked me to be seat filler sitting under a "Gay alumni" banner at a football game for my old high school.  I was pretty nervous about doing it but it gave me a better appreciation for what gay people have to go through just being themselves.<br>
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It's kind of embarrassing to be a straight white male sometimes.  What's up with us anyway? All voting for Romney and crap, what's that about?
        
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      <![CDATA[I get to come up from California (and seriously California what the hell is wrong with us) and help my gay friends get married. That's all the thanks I need. (I don't live there but I donated funds)
        
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      <![CDATA[As a straight ally, you're welcome. It's no skin off my back if you get married. One point I'd like to make: it's almost as joyful seeing backwards NOM-types wailing in sorrow as it is seeing LGBT celebrating their rights. So, I hope you keep winning so I can experience more joy of seeing them crying. I hope this doesn't make me a bad person ;-)
        
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      <![CDATA[Dan I agree completely.<br>
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I did 3 phone banks and was blown away by how many straight allies took their time to make these calls. And they were able to engage in great conversations and get more persuasions than some of us. I got a little choked up at times listening to them talk about why it was important to them, how it is fair and usually a personal story about a friend, coworker or relative that is LGBT and how much it would mean.  <br>
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Huge huge thank you to our straight allies. They gave time, money and likely converted many of their family and friends into a yes vote.  <br>
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Party? Sure. sincere thank you?  Daily.
        
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      <![CDATA[There IS no "us" and "them." I think that is what this vote is showing. Straight or queer, we are all related in some way. We are all family. I may be straight, but my mom is queer, my sister is queer, my cousin is queer. Celebrities are. Leaders are. And we are all the same. We all love, we all cry, and we all want the best for one another. Finally.
        
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      <![CDATA[think of me when you need a wedding officiant. vows tailored to your taste, no wedding too big or too small. singing, ten bucks an hour, not singing, twenty bucks an hour.
        
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      <![CDATA[You're welcome.  But the real thanks, at least for my support, goes to Mayor Gavin Newsom.  I was originally skeptical of the need for the legalization of gay marriage.  Then Newsom legalized gay marriage.  Suddenly the newspapers were filled with pictures of dozens of happy gay and lesbian couples tying the knot at San Francisco City Hall -- where, incidentally, my own parents were married five decades ago.  I realized that gays and lesbians were just as entitled to the right to marry as my parents were, as well as me and my wife.  <br>
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So I proudly voted for gay marriage in Maryland on Tuesday.  Best vote I ever cast.
        
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      <![CDATA[Dan,<br>
I don't want a party. I supported marriage equality because it is part of a long march toward total equality. <br>
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In that spirit, you know what I would LOVE in return? Take all of the energy, wit, and in-your-face intolerance of bullshit that you put towards Rick Santorum and bullying of gay kids, and direct it towards Daniel Tosh, Tucker Max, and others sexist neanderthals. Hompobia and sexism are two sides of the same coin, and we've got a lot more to do before equality is realized for everyone. <br>
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One good turn deserves another. You couldn't do it without us and we can't do it without you. Show your gratitide by getting angry at the fuckwads that hold women down.
        
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      <![CDATA[What about, maybe, on a Sunday in June?  Have a parade and invite str8 folks to come, and really focus the parade this year on gratitude for the help they've given - lobbying, voting, donating, phone-banking, canvasing, maybe even occasionally intimidating - to get this thing done.  Actually change the message of the parade from the slightly tired and self-indulgent "Pride" to "Thanks!"  The theme song could be, "I get by with a little help from my friends."
        
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      <![CDATA[Thank you, Governor Jay Inslee, for this post in Huffington Post, January 2012. You made the case to the hearts of married straight couples: <br>
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My wife Trudi and I have been married for 39 years. We started dating in high school, married after college, and raised our three boys in a 100-year-old farmhouse in a small rural town in eastern Washington.<br>
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We opened a checking account together. We bought our house together. We never had to think twice about which box to check on forms asking for our marital status. We never had to think about how we introduce one another to others. We never had to deal with questioning glances when joining our children for school field trips, parent-teacher conferences, dental appointments, and the occasional emergency room visit (known to happen when you raise three boys on a farm).<br>
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We have had the privilege of being able to say the powerful yet simple statement that "we are married" and receiving all the rights, responsibilities, and recognition that come with being married.<br>
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We never lived in fear that our relationship would cause loved ones to shun us, strangers to glare at us, or, as happens too often, predators to bully, harm, or even kill us.<br>
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No one deserves that.<br>
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Here in Washington state, we are standing on the edge of history. A marriage equality bill is poised for passage in our state legislature that would legalize civil marriage. <br>
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    <author><![CDATA[PanWhale]]></author>
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      <![CDATA[This is going to sound marginalizing and perhaps even hateful but I don't want it to be as such. At all. <br />
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I am so happy that this passed, I voted for it, and the homosexual community deserves to feel equals and I want them to be and I hope they do. In all and every way. <br />
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But why does a vote matter. It just affirms that 52% of people have no issue with your lifestyle but 48% apparently have a big one. Why is this a big deal? Sorry if this seems offensive to you. Seems sad to me. More people voted to legalize pot.
        
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      <![CDATA[Ok, so I'm a 49 yr old straight woman in Alabama... but I would have TOTALLY been there with you.  I can honestly say that for decades some of my best friends are GLBTQ folks and they've been there for me on so many issues and legislative fights. <br>
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As Progressives, we all have many of the same forces working in opposition to us.  It's just common sense - not to mention common decency and compassion - that binds us together.<br>
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We had really sucky results in Alabama with TEA Party crazies nabbing many seats, but the wonderful results from other states and the presidential election itself continues to give me hope for the future.<br>
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MAZEL TOV, y'all!!!!<br>
        
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      <![CDATA[Why, some of my best friends are straight.
        
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      <![CDATA[If we allowed you to be mistreated, we would all be diminished, so we were fighting for all of us.  No "Thank You Party" is needed... but if everyone decided it was a good idea anyway, might there be cupcakes?
        
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      <![CDATA[The "us" and "them" here isn't "gay" and "straight" - it's "right" and "wrong".  Happy that we are all on the right team, even if we play for different ones!
        
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      <![CDATA[For me it was simple- how could I ever have any moral authority to tell my kids what to do if I didn't work for the most fundamental moral issue of our time?  After someone stole my "Vote No" sign (I'm from MN), it suddenly occurred to me how horrible and dehumanizing it must feel to realize that people were going to vote on whether you get your basic rights.  Thank YOU to the GLBT community for being patient while we got our heads out of our asses.
        
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      <![CDATA[Ooh, I LOVE the idea of having a "Gay Wingman Night."
        
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      <![CDATA[You're welcome. But really, it is easy for us. Gay rights are a no-brainer issue for anyone of sense, and straight people speaking about it catch comparatively little flak. (Most of) you folks did the bravest and most important thing for your own cause--you came out.
        
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      <![CDATA[It never occurred to me that we straight people were fighting for a cause that wasn't ours. Justice is for everyone.
        
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      <![CDATA[Hey, FWIW, I've been throwing my body into serving the gay agenda since I used to do actions with ACT-UP and QUEER NATION back in the day.  FWIW, it's only partially for you.  I believe that gay rights are human rights not recognizing them diminishes us all.  But I also wholeheartedly support gay marriage for the very selfish reason that I HATE the patriarchy with all my heart and I know marriage has been its handmaiden for lo these many millennium. And I have faith, or at least hope, that extending marriage to same sex couples is gonna be a serious blow to that heritage continuing.  That really crystalized to me once upon a time, in the Washington State Supreme Court courtroom, listening to the pro-DOMA lawyers blithely defending straight marriage as the only marriage.  And somehow, a good thing, despite its brutal heritage.  So.  I’d love a party, but I didn’t give blood and treasure just for you.  I did it because I want the future to be better for us girls.
        
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    <author><![CDATA[Terry Graham]]></author>
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      <![CDATA[Our straight daughter had to provide their wedding certificate to prove she was next of kin when her husband was at deaths door - he fought back. Two months later she was told to say goodby to her husband before his airlift to Seattle as he was not expected to live. Again, thankfully, he fought back. Our daughter had control over her loved one's medical care; she could say "goodbye!" There are lots of reasons for equality of marriage - being with and able to support your loved one during a crisis is just one poignant reason.<br>
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Married 40 years, our blessing should be available to all couples.
        
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    <author><![CDATA[Marone]]></author>
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      <![CDATA[Dan, I'll go to any party you throw, but it's absolutely not necessary. As a hetero woman passionate about equal rights, seeing R-74 pass was reward enough!
        
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    <pubDate>Thu, 08 Nov 2012 15:52:51 -0800</pubDate>
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      <![CDATA[Thank you Dan, for being willing to fight for all of us, and for all of the difficulty,  heartache, and pure guts you have shown in helping young gay youth everywhere   Living in a red state (although it was blue in 2008) makes your efforts and work more important to us than to many who live in a more accepting society.   THanks to efforts by you and the rest of the gay stormtroopers, gay people everywhere live a little better.<br />
Craig Fox
        
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    <pubDate>Thu, 08 Nov 2012 15:41:25 -0800</pubDate>
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      <![CDATA[Thank you for this, Dan. I am in MN and I'm proud of our step in the right direction. As I posted on FB, no gay person has ever rejected or excluded me on the basis of being straight. In fact, the gay community has always given me the warmest of welcomes and accepted my whole flawed self. Gay rights are human rights and this election made us ALL a bit more human.
        
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