http://www.thestranger.com/SavageLovePodcast/archives/2012/11/13/savage-love-episode-316 Comments On: Savage Love Episode 316 by Dan Savage en-us Copyright 2013 The Stranger. All rights reserved. This RSS file is offered to individuals, The Stranger readers, and non-commercial organizations only. Any commercial websites wishing to use this RSS file, please contact The Stranger. webmaster@thestranger.com (The Stranger Webmaster) Sun, 19 May 2013 00:00:01 -0700 Sun, 19 May 2013 23:15:00 -0700 Foundation http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Posted by Janine1979]]> Fri, 21 Dec 2012 05:21:08 -0800 The Stranger Posted by magicdoyle]]> Mon, 03 Dec 2012 12:43:42 -0800 The Stranger Posted by jaquie]]> Sun, 25 Nov 2012 19:26:04 -0800 The Stranger Posted by threewaygirlisselfish]]> Sat, 24 Nov 2012 15:36:08 -0800 The Stranger Posted by chooriyah]]> Sat, 24 Nov 2012 06:02:50 -0800 The Stranger
That said, he might be a lot cooler with her fooling around with other girls if she fooled around with one he didn't dislike. I think that can rub anyone the wrong way...
Posted by alguna_rubia]]> Tue, 20 Nov 2012 19:27:33 -0800 The Stranger Posted by shurenka]]> Mon, 19 Nov 2012 13:23:30 -0800 The Stranger Posted by MarcMtl911]]> Mon, 19 Nov 2012 12:08:47 -0800 The Stranger Posted by CharlesF]]> Sun, 18 Nov 2012 15:33:52 -0800 The Stranger Posted by yhz13]]> Sun, 18 Nov 2012 00:59:46 -0800 The Stranger Posted by Spindles]]> Fri, 16 Nov 2012 16:53:24 -0800 The Stranger Posted by marmer]]> Thu, 15 Nov 2012 11:32:29 -0800 The Stranger Posted by seeker6079]]> Thu, 15 Nov 2012 11:00:47 -0800 The Stranger Posted by Buffy]]> Thu, 15 Nov 2012 10:30:37 -0800 The Stranger Posted by agony]]> Thu, 15 Nov 2012 09:12:01 -0800 The Stranger
Honestly, though, a hot bi girl shouldn't bother being with a completely monogamous person if she doesn't want that. There are so many great people out there who are willing to let such a person sleep with whatever gender they're not.

To the grope-y guy: you can text her an apology, but don't text anything but that. I thought I heard you say that you're NOT likely to be in contact ever again, so leave it there.
Posted by alguna_rubia]]> Thu, 15 Nov 2012 08:39:02 -0800 The Stranger
Seriously, Dan, WTFF? For christ's sake, could that advice be any douchier? I've met a few people whose cancer led them to better things in their lives but they don't want the cancer back.
Posted by seeker6079]]> Thu, 15 Nov 2012 07:44:13 -0800 The Stranger One of the things which has drawn you so many of your fans is that you're, well, savage. You're about the only advice person out there that doesn't run like a deer from calling women out on bullshit when they do it, (most of 'em want to condemn men and therapy-speak women for exactly the same conduct) and isn't afraid to be a brute to people who are acting like shit to others.

Please, please, please don't turn yourself into Prudie or others like her. Please? The threesome caller was an oblivious, selfish monster and you gave her a therapy session about seeing it through gender role. Put the fucking boot in, for God's sake. That is one of things that people love about you.
Posted by seeker6079]]> Thu, 15 Nov 2012 07:35:27 -0800 The Stranger
There is one other thing, too: did anybody else notice that the boyfriend is clear that he doesn't even like this other woman? The gf said something like "he admits she has a hot body, but he hates her personality". Leaving aside the fact that he's being asked to like somebody that fucked his girlfriend (which is a shocking level of arrogant cruelty on the gf's part) he's also being pressured into sex with someone he has made clear he dislikes.

Look, stupid caller: most guys love the idea of a threesome. The fact that your guy is doing everything but putting up a billboard outside your door that says NOT WITH THAT WOMAN! NO! should tell you something. Not that I think you'd notice such a billboard (you haven't so far) or that you'd give a fuck about anyways.
Posted by seeker6079]]> Thu, 15 Nov 2012 07:29:44 -0800 The Stranger Posted by anonymous 30something woman]]> Wed, 14 Nov 2012 16:11:13 -0800 The Stranger So far I'm reading his behavior as one who values sexual fidelity much higher than his current girlfriend.
Posted by Buffy]]> Wed, 14 Nov 2012 13:40:08 -0800 The Stranger
Whenever a segment of society gains equality, we all benefit. And nobody gains equality without a lot of us sticking together. Dan, thanks for sticking up for women's rights even though you will never need to worry about female health issues, or an unplanned pregnancy.

Congrats to you and Terry, and every other same sex couple who will be getting hitched in a matter of days.
Posted by SeattleKim]]> Wed, 14 Nov 2012 13:39:32 -0800 The Stranger Posted by aud21]]> Wed, 14 Nov 2012 11:07:35 -0800 The Stranger
One thing that no one has mentioned about the threesome couple: boyfriend seems to have a hard, bright line about girlfriend being with other girls. I know Dan is very understanding about the primary partners and their comfort levels and groundrules. But boyfriend is dating a bi girl, and the chances of pregnancy are nil, and STI's lower, if she sleeps with a girl. His objection seems irrational at best, and, (admittedly, consider the source) perhaps a little unreasonable. If he has some kind of squickiness about same-sex stuff, I don't think that deserves as much "respect" or sympathy as it seems to be getting. I think there's probably a little (or a lot) more interest in non-monogamy on her part than on his and that's going to be a deal-breaker long term.
Posted by marmer]]> Wed, 14 Nov 2012 10:29:04 -0800 The Stranger It was actually great sexually and we still do it sometimes, but it would be a lie to say I haven't detached from the relationship a bit as a result.
Posted by dreamcity]]> Wed, 14 Nov 2012 01:27:21 -0800 The Stranger