http://slog.thestranger.com/slog/archives/2012/12/18/sl-letter-of-the-day-love-is Comments On: SL Letter of the Day: Love Is... by Dan Savage en-us Copyright 2013 The Stranger. All rights reserved. This RSS file is offered to individuals, The Stranger readers, and non-commercial organizations only. Any commercial websites wishing to use this RSS file, please contact The Stranger. webmaster@thestranger.com (The Stranger Webmaster) Tue, 21 May 2013 00:00:01 -0700 Tue, 21 May 2013 07:15:00 -0700 Foundation http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Posted by Ophian]]> Thu, 20 Dec 2012 08:15:49 -0800 The Stranger Posted by Funky Monkey]]> Wed, 19 Dec 2012 13:46:24 -0800 The Stranger Posted by smajor82]]> Wed, 19 Dec 2012 07:09:20 -0800 The Stranger
Nothing in Dan's description precludes there being other lovers with whom sharing breakfast and juices is as sweet and nice.
Posted by sissoucat]]> Wed, 19 Dec 2012 02:58:12 -0800 The Stranger Posted by vennominon]]> Tue, 18 Dec 2012 21:04:07 -0800 The Stranger Posted by venomlash]]> Tue, 18 Dec 2012 15:20:01 -0800 The Stranger A His girlfiend taps him on the backside and says "You're in, love."


Posted by St Thomas]]> Tue, 18 Dec 2012 14:44:34 -0800 The Stranger A His girlfiend taps him on the backside and says "You're in, love."


Posted by St Thomas]]> Tue, 18 Dec 2012 14:39:25 -0800 The Stranger
I think Dan may be confusing post-coital lust for love but that's just me. Maybe it was a clumsy way of saying that even with flaws, you see the wonder and greatness of another person.

As someone married almost 30 years (how did that happen?), I offer this as to being in love and knowing the "one" :

If that person matters to you in a way others don't.

If that person makes you laugh or smile or be happy in a way others don't.

If that person's flaws/bad habits don't annoy you the way they would in another person.

That person's smile/kiss/touch/voice thrills you (and consistently so).

But mostly two things:

- you feel only acceptance and love with this person. You can show your true face to that person without fear of being rejected or laughed at.

Not anger or even worse, contempt. Love means never holding the other person in contempt.

- that person has your back. Meaning, you trust that person. If you don't believe that person will stand by you in good and bad, he/she is not the one. If YOU won't stand by the person in good and bad, you aren't in love.
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or even several someones a day.
Posted by 'Love' and other four letter words]]> Tue, 18 Dec 2012 11:31:36 -0800 The Stranger
... a score of zero in tennis?
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