http://slog.thestranger.com/slog/archives/2013/01/03/today-in-rape-and-other-violence-against-women Comments On: Today in Rape and Other Violence Against Women by Cienna Madrid en-us Copyright 2013 The Stranger. All rights reserved. This RSS file is offered to individuals, The Stranger readers, and non-commercial organizations only. Any commercial websites wishing to use this RSS file, please contact The Stranger. webmaster@thestranger.com (The Stranger Webmaster) Sat, 25 May 2013 00:00:01 -0700 Sat, 25 May 2013 10:30:00 -0700 Foundation http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Posted by Mister G]]> Sun, 06 Jan 2013 15:40:20 -0800 The Stranger Posted by Lissa]]> Sat, 05 Jan 2013 21:24:55 -0800 The Stranger Posted by Bonefish]]> Sat, 05 Jan 2013 21:02:04 -0800 The Stranger Posted by Lissa]]> Sat, 05 Jan 2013 20:04:48 -0800 The Stranger Posted by Bonefish]]> Sat, 05 Jan 2013 19:33:47 -0800 The Stranger Why don't you try a little experiment in your own life and ask the women you know if any of them have been sexually assaulted and how they define it.
Posted by Lissa]]> Sat, 05 Jan 2013 17:03:15 -0800 The Stranger The man scoffed that the women at the table hadn't been. All but one of them raised her hand to say that she had been raped.

I'd love to hear what they defined as "rape."
Posted by Mister G]]> Sat, 05 Jan 2013 16:02:58 -0800 The Stranger Posted by Mister G]]> Sat, 05 Jan 2013 15:39:17 -0800 The Stranger My husband was having lunch with a group of co workers when this topic came up and one of the men scoffed that the numbers of sexual assaults were inflated. My husband, who has had a very active social life said that he could, out of the scores of women with whom he had been, count on one hand the number who had never been assaulted in some way. The man scoffed that the women at the table hadn't been. All but one of them raised her hand to say that she had been raped.
If we don't talk about it, it makes it so easy to pretend that it doesn't happen.
Posted by Lissa]]> Sat, 05 Jan 2013 11:52:20 -0800 The Stranger I'm a guy, I've said silly shit in my life, it's like we have a sense of humour based on who can say the most shocking thing. That said I found out when I was an adult that my mum had been raped as a young adult- she never said anything about it (she's my mum I guess she thought it might be inappropriate to burden me with that information), and then I found out my sister and grandmother had both been raped at some point in their lives.
Which leads me to say this: people (us guys in particular) make a lot of jokes about rape, and violence towards women, and we don't know wtf we are talking about.
When people actually talk about it, the probability that you know someone who has been raped and or sexually assaulted is higher than you think.
I am a raging feminist, and everyone should be. Who on average is most likely to transmit the values and norms of a society to the next generation? Probably mothers? Wouldn't it be nice for them if we didn't condescend to reduce feminism to "complaining too much"?

Lastly I'm not interested in trolls, they lend their spare time to winding people up extracting the same glee guys get from telling violent rape jokes. I'm certainly not going to collude with them by telling their victims to stop complaining.
Posted by samshortis]]> Sat, 05 Jan 2013 01:58:53 -0800 The Stranger Posted by Mister G]]> Fri, 04 Jan 2013 12:08:41 -0800 The Stranger Posted by Lissa]]> Fri, 04 Jan 2013 12:05:02 -0800 The Stranger Posted by Mister G]]> Fri, 04 Jan 2013 11:07:27 -0800 The Stranger
It is still considered acceptable - if somewhat naughty - to make jokes around and about the violent rape and murder of a woman. When I point this out, and suggest that it shouldn't be acceptable, I am told that I am the one with the problem.

How many registered trolls - or unregistered, for that matter - are as comfortable posting "Nigger" as they are making rape jokes, or trolling in rape topics?
Posted by Backyard Bombardier]]> Fri, 04 Jan 2013 10:04:39 -0800 The Stranger Posted by You_Gotta_Be_Kidding_Me]]> Fri, 04 Jan 2013 09:31:27 -0800 The Stranger Posted by Lissa]]> Fri, 04 Jan 2013 08:37:35 -0800 The Stranger

Posted by Theodore Gorath]]> Fri, 04 Jan 2013 05:30:11 -0800 The Stranger
If I were one of the 16 female Dems in the Senate, I would bring it up each and every day.
Posted by Patricia Kayden]]> Thu, 03 Jan 2013 18:16:30 -0800 The Stranger Posted by curtisp]]> Thu, 03 Jan 2013 17:19:38 -0800 The Stranger He used to post as if he had a political agenda, but he kept having his ass handed to him, so now he just throws poo, buzzwords, and inappropriate punctuation.

It's kind of hilarious.


Posted by Lissa]]> Thu, 03 Jan 2013 16:54:45 -0800 The Stranger Posted by mister g's sister]]> Thu, 03 Jan 2013 16:50:52 -0800 The Stranger Posted by mister g's sister]]> Thu, 03 Jan 2013 16:44:33 -0800 The Stranger
It's been responding to unregistered comments, so, yes, it does see them.
Posted by keshmeshi]]> Thu, 03 Jan 2013 16:42:22 -0800 The Stranger
I can't help but shake my head when people get sucked in and make an ass out of themselves.
Posted by Rotten666]]> Thu, 03 Jan 2013 16:42:16 -0800 The Stranger Posted by Lissa]]> Thu, 03 Jan 2013 16:28:34 -0800 The Stranger