http://slog.thestranger.com/slog/archives/2013/01/16/my-girlfriend-who-dies-in-california Comments On: My Girlfriend Who Dies In California by Dan Savage en-us Copyright 2013 The Stranger. All rights reserved. This RSS file is offered to individuals, The Stranger readers, and non-commercial organizations only. Any commercial websites wishing to use this RSS file, please contact The Stranger. webmaster@thestranger.com (The Stranger Webmaster) Sat, 18 May 2013 00:00:01 -0700 Sat, 18 May 2013 01:30:00 -0700 Foundation http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss
Not that it couldn't have been a hoax on him-- I could totally imagine a young man falling for it; I had a long-distance relationship myself in college, you get used to the idea that the phone is your relationship (but I did, you know, see her in person during the breaks and videochat). But the motives of the other people weren't making sense. Until now.
Posted by Liam3851]]> Fri, 18 Jan 2013 04:01:53 -0800 The Stranger
Now, if he hadn't been a Mormon or really religious, I would agree that gay seems overwhelmingly likely. It still is probably the most likely answer, but there is enough reason to think there is an alternate explanation that I would hesitate to jump to conclusions.
Posted by Learned Hand]]> Thu, 17 Jan 2013 21:10:56 -0800 The Stranger
You know, if I was a college football player in college (not that I went to a college that even had any sports teams), I wouldn't have had to have long distance relationships. And just as importantly, I know from having lots of long distance relationships, that I can think of better ways to waste my life away. Like having several meaningful relationships with the college girls lined up outside my fictional-college-football-playing-self's door.
Posted by gromm]]> Thu, 17 Jan 2013 14:11:24 -0800 The Stranger Posted by PEM]]> Thu, 17 Jan 2013 11:47:43 -0800 The Stranger
@31: I think that's entirely possible, and that the claims to have met her reflected "um I know it's lame that I haven't talked to her face to face, so I'll say I have."

He was either really naive to believe she was real (people dramatically fake dying on the internet is a real thing), or really naive to believe no one would dig into the story when he was up for a Heisman. I don't see how anyone claims he was obviously naive enough for the latter and not the former. From here, I can't see which of the half dozen or so possible versions is real, but some deep naivete is involved in all of them.

I will say this: the way this story apparently took off reflects an unhealthy obsession with dead female love interests as motivators for male heroes. I feel about this like I feel about everyone posting that Winona on Justified should be killed off so Raylan can go all "this time it's personal."

The story is more that people found this story important and interesting. Football player has girlfriend? Really?
Posted by IPJ]]> Thu, 17 Jan 2013 11:36:47 -0800 The Stranger Posted by podcaf]]> Thu, 17 Jan 2013 11:34:31 -0800 The Stranger Posted by tiny frogs]]> Thu, 17 Jan 2013 10:58:10 -0800 The Stranger https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5g196vUR…
Posted by Rob in Baltimore]]> Thu, 17 Jan 2013 10:09:31 -0800 The Stranger
To paraphrase the New Yorker cartoon, "On the internet, nobody knows that you're a closeted drama queen."

Until everyone does.
Posted by DAVIDinKENAI]]> Thu, 17 Jan 2013 09:16:09 -0800 The Stranger Posted by Pope Peabrain]]> Thu, 17 Jan 2013 07:10:08 -0800 The Stranger
This wasn't a "youthful mistake". This was a year long pattern of lies, increasingly fantastical, designed to make him look like a hero and/or not a queer. When you watch his TV interviews about his "girlfriend" with the benefit of hindsight, you see a sociopath, not some duped loser.

Notre Dame has a well documented history of covering up the crimes of their football stars, so their statements should be met with a skeptical mind. They knew about this 2 weeks before the most hyped football game in a decade, and yet it didn't leak? Bullshit.
Posted by Sir Vic]]> Thu, 17 Jan 2013 06:14:41 -0800 The Stranger Hope: That Teo will play so well in Canadian that an NFL team will bring him onto their roster.
Posted by Ptyghm]]> Thu, 17 Jan 2013 06:06:51 -0800 The Stranger this?
Posted by emma's bee]]> Thu, 17 Jan 2013 05:31:21 -0800 The Stranger Sounds like relationships in the 21st century. Or perhaps a reality TV show? We're doomed.
Posted by OutInBumF]]> Wed, 16 Jan 2013 23:28:04 -0800 The Stranger Posted by Ballard Pimp]]> Wed, 16 Jan 2013 22:46:55 -0800 The Stranger Posted by Looking For a Better Read]]> Wed, 16 Jan 2013 22:44:35 -0800 The Stranger Posted by floater]]> Wed, 16 Jan 2013 21:54:41 -0800 The Stranger
This is so funny. I didn't catch the gay subtext. I thought he was just a compulsive liar looking for sympathy and glory. But who knows?

It certainly is delicious to see the Big Time media get snookered like this.
Posted by floater]]> Wed, 16 Jan 2013 21:49:44 -0800 The Stranger Posted by DiveTurnWork]]> Wed, 16 Jan 2013 21:04:37 -0800 The Stranger
Here he claims to have talked to someone over the phone, but never have met her. It could be as Dan suggests, but regardless, there are any number of embarrassing things that could have happened--maybe he did meet a woman claiming to be girlfriend--so I imagine people are reluctant to tell more than they must.
http://www.sfgate.com/sports/college/art…
Posted by seatackled]]> Wed, 16 Jan 2013 20:40:23 -0800 The Stranger Posted by alexandria]]> Wed, 16 Jan 2013 20:22:19 -0800 The Stranger Posted by DOUG.]]> Wed, 16 Jan 2013 19:42:41 -0800 The Stranger
Just seems wrong is all.


Posted by caltrop_head]]> Wed, 16 Jan 2013 19:15:33 -0800 The Stranger Posted by DawginExile]]> Wed, 16 Jan 2013 19:06:48 -0800 The Stranger Posted by Clayton]]> Wed, 16 Jan 2013 19:03:50 -0800 The Stranger