http://slog.thestranger.com/slog/archives/2013/01/29/sl-letters-of-the-day-three-straight-guys Comments On: SL Letters of the Day: Three Straight Guys by Dan Savage en-us Copyright 2013 The Stranger. All rights reserved. This RSS file is offered to individuals, The Stranger readers, and non-commercial organizations only. Any commercial websites wishing to use this RSS file, please contact The Stranger. webmaster@thestranger.com (The Stranger Webmaster) Thu, 23 May 2013 00:00:01 -0700 Thu, 23 May 2013 23:00:00 -0700 Foundation http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Posted by MameSnidely]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2013 18:06:36 -0800 The Stranger Posted by The Head-shaking Lesbian]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2013 14:14:24 -0800 The Stranger
He may not be a death gripper, but if he's using no form of lube, he's not that far off.
Posted by pb1230]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2013 10:43:49 -0800 The Stranger
LW2's groom could also be kind of like me and a couple people I know where we fit into the social archetype of The Satellite in that we float in a bunch of different groups, in them enough to be liked and invited, but never the most ingrained. And, the groups rarely intermix except at my parties.

My gay friends didn't mix with my geek friends didn't intermix with my gawth friends didn't intermix with my burner friends. So, if I had a straight best man, he probably wouldn't talk to my gay friends.

HOWEVER, as a best man, one would think he would be in communication with the gay groomsmen and asking them advice.
Posted by TheMisanthrope]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2013 09:14:14 -0800 The Stranger Posted by IPJ]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2013 05:25:21 -0800 The Stranger
It may be the lack of lubrication that's making it take longer to finish for you, btw.
Posted by MemeGene]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2013 04:14:29 -0800 The Stranger Posted by Orsh]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2013 02:13:35 -0800 The Stranger
I think the real question is the one @3 raised: why is it such a big deal for her? It's very possible she's just disappointed she can't please you in that way (I know I'd rather go down on a girl than have her go down on me: pleasuring someone else is a powerful, ego-satisfying thing). But is it possible she sees this as a failing in herself? Women generally aren't nearly as wrapped up in competing with lovers of the past (real or imagined) nor do they tend to have as much ego on the line as guys; but all humans take pride in their skills, and maybe she's worried this reflects a fault in her technique rather than really being about you, not her. A little reassuring conversation (that may lead to discovering things you both like better) couldn't hurt.
Posted by Wandergeist]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2013 01:19:25 -0800 The Stranger Posted by EricaP]]> Wed, 30 Jan 2013 00:33:17 -0800 The Stranger Posted by tabathalphabet]]> Tue, 29 Jan 2013 23:00:58 -0800 The Stranger Posted by portland scribe]]> Tue, 29 Jan 2013 22:34:07 -0800 The Stranger Posted by seandr]]> Tue, 29 Jan 2013 22:27:23 -0800 The Stranger
When I give oral to a guy who doesn't usually come from oral, hands come more into play. I keep one hand tight at the base and use the other hand as a tight, wet extension of my mouth (it stays glued to my mouth, and together the mouth and hand swirl up and down around the cock). Or I bring his hand to his cock, and I stay up at the head while he does his thing on the shaft. (There's a bit of a bumper-car aspect to that, but that can be fun if you're in the right mood.) Watch porn at the same time, too, that helps distract the mind from the pressure to come soon. Did I mention alcohol and pot?


Posted by EricaP]]> Tue, 29 Jan 2013 22:07:23 -0800 The Stranger
Second, I'd caution the LW to make doubly, triply, quadruply sure that the party won't be biting off too much for most guests to chew. It's one thing for a very tiny portion of gay guests at a straight bachelor party to put on their Good Sport Faces and strain not to appear as if they'd rather be sucking lemons, but, if it takes five minutes or less for nearly the whole of the nearly entirely straight body of guests to look as if they'd rather be shoe shopping with their wives/girlfriends and offering informed opinions on all 5,000 pairs in the store, then I fear that, whatever adjectives are affixed to the party afterwards, "most excellent" will not be among them. If all the straight male guests can get sufficiently into the spirit of a party with gay male strippers, then commendations all round and have a grand party. But otherwise, I'd say to start with what all the guests could handle with ease and then see how to build on that.

(Wow; I got through that whole response without voicing disapproval of BPs with Ss in the first place. What a practical mood I must be in.)
Posted by vennominon]]> Tue, 29 Jan 2013 21:56:22 -0800 The Stranger Posted by lolorhone]]> Tue, 29 Jan 2013 21:05:36 -0800 The Stranger
I was reading too into it by thinking he couldn't cum by oral alone like some guys I know.
Posted by TheMisanthrope]]> Tue, 29 Jan 2013 19:07:50 -0800 The Stranger Posted by wxPDX]]> Tue, 29 Jan 2013 19:06:32 -0800 The Stranger Posted by TheMisanthrope]]> Tue, 29 Jan 2013 19:04:49 -0800 The Stranger Posted by alguna_rubia]]> Tue, 29 Jan 2013 19:00:57 -0800 The Stranger Posted by reverend dr dj riz]]> Tue, 29 Jan 2013 18:47:57 -0800 The Stranger
LW1: Fuck her mouth already!
Posted by dchari]]> Tue, 29 Jan 2013 18:44:06 -0800 The Stranger Posted by eclexia]]> Tue, 29 Jan 2013 18:42:51 -0800 The Stranger Posted by Tor]]> Tue, 29 Jan 2013 18:34:30 -0800 The Stranger Posted by shy and sore]]> Tue, 29 Jan 2013 18:15:27 -0800 The Stranger
In first boyfriend's case, he wasn't big on foreplay, just skipped right to intercourse.

My body didn't have a chance to tune up and lubricate, for one.

Eventually broke up with him, who insisted the problem was all about us ladyfolk not being able to keep up with him.

Posted by judybrowni]]> Tue, 29 Jan 2013 17:53:40 -0800 The Stranger