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It's not about marking his territory or anything creepy, I promise. He couldn't quite articulate why this is important to him, but it mostly boils down to sentimentality, wanting a ring that will last, and he can easily afford it, so why not?

And, even though we initially disagreed about the price point of the rings, we're totally on the same page about the wedding and the whole marriage part that comes after. So, in the grand scheme of things, I realized that a cheap ring vs. a modest ring (especially breaking down the price over a lifetime together) is a non-issue.

I read all the ring comments and, for anyone curious about the particulars, here they are: We looked online at a lot of different options and found a set we both liked the design of on Etsy. We went for a moissanite stone and the set was about $900, custom made. I think it'll be sparkly enough to impress the judgy people and deter the man predators.
Posted by Hitchhiker_with_towel]]> Mon, 25 Mar 2013 20:06:43 -0700 The Stranger
It's not about marking his territory or anything creepy, I promise. He couldn't quite articulate why this is important to him, but it mostly boils down to sentimentality, wanting a ring that will last, and he can easily afford it, so why not?

For anyone curious about the particulars: We looked online at a lot of different options and found a set we both liked the design of on Etsy. Went for a moissanite stone. I think it'll be sparkly enough to impress the judgy people and deter the man predators.

And, even though we initially disagreed about the price point of the rings, we're totally on the same page about the wedding and the whole marriage part that comes after. So, in the grand scheme of things, I realize that a cheap ring vs. a modest ring (especially considering wearing the ring for a lifetime together) is NBD.
Posted by Hitchhiker_with_towel]]> Mon, 25 Mar 2013 19:49:53 -0700 The Stranger
A ring is like a branding. It marks your territory and that's what this is really about.
Posted by Dragonpie]]> Sun, 17 Mar 2013 12:11:52 -0700 The Stranger
Ring? No frigging ring for me (or him), and I'm a feminine-looking woman. I like buying my own rings with semi-precious stones and varying them every day.

$1000 I'd rather spend on unusual shawls, a short trip or books. I would never spend more than $50 on a ring that I have to wear everyday -- I mourn even little $10 carnelian bracelets if I lose them. If I lost or damaged a unique ring, I'd be miserable. What for? Just to impress some insecure jerks at work or superficial family members.

Hot steaming sex with the person you love beats any colorless stone or a boring wedding where everyone just gets drunk and leaves you deep in debt for something that was barely fun.

Pleasure is something that needs to be savored wisely.
Posted by not a customer]]> Fri, 15 Mar 2013 17:06:23 -0700 The Stranger http://mp3us.com/index.php?q=wedding+son…
Posted by mp3us]]> Tue, 12 Mar 2013 17:32:38 -0700 The Stranger Thanks
Posted by mp3us]]> Tue, 12 Mar 2013 17:21:37 -0700 The Stranger Sorry, mydriasis, and ignore the comment from @242.

All the best,
griz
Posted by auntie grizelda]]> Sun, 03 Mar 2013 22:49:31 -0800 The Stranger
At my wedding, simple instruction - formal. Whatever that means to any guess, witness or otherwise, will guide that guest's clothing choices.
Posted by Brie]]> Sun, 03 Mar 2013 21:30:47 -0800 The Stranger
Posted by rose lee]]> Sat, 02 Mar 2013 12:01:47 -0800 The Stranger I've shrugged and moved on. Did you not read my post @238?
If you're into younger guys, fine. I've long since said as much. I'm into men closer to my own age. I don't know why that's an issue with you. You don't even know me.
So just say "yeah, I would" already. Geez.



Posted by auntie grizelda]]> Thu, 28 Feb 2013 16:59:12 -0800 The Stranger Posted by jinkaz]]> Thu, 28 Feb 2013 10:10:29 -0800 The Stranger
Who's slapping what in the face now? :/
Posted by mydriasis]]> Thu, 28 Feb 2013 05:46:39 -0800 The Stranger
@Tim Horton - I'm not into the alpha-male, I'm into the good lay. I would assume that alpha-males don't care much about their partner's pleasure... and as I'm European, money is not as important to me as respect. Talking about kids is a real nice idea.

@Seandr - I do have black nylon thingies. I should wear them more often, obviously. Good tip.

@EricaP - how could I forget to ask you ! So, be almost naked underneath nice clothes - to pull off in summer, obviously - and get them back to my room for anything silly (I already know how to do that ; double-entendre is a friend)

Well, it does seem far easier that what males have to do in order to get laid. Oh well. Not gonna complain.
Posted by sissoucat]]> Thu, 28 Feb 2013 01:51:01 -0800 The Stranger Posted by auntie grizelda]]> Wed, 27 Feb 2013 22:40:56 -0800 The Stranger
You have a disinterest in younger guys (because you don't want to be Mrs. Robinson)
I have a disinterest in older guys (because I don't want to be Miss Haze)

Make more sense now?
Posted by mydriasis]]> Wed, 27 Feb 2013 18:28:53 -0800 The Stranger @233 mydriasis: Why would I consider you like Lolita
just because you prefer hot guys in their 20s?
Like I said, we all have our own sexual tastes, shared,
or otherwise. It's not one size---or age group-- fits all.
Posted by auntie grizelda]]> Wed, 27 Feb 2013 12:51:19 -0800 The Stranger Posted by EricaP]]> Wed, 27 Feb 2013 12:27:44 -0800 The Stranger
Maybe KateRose is right: we're having two separate conversations...?
Posted by auntie grizelda]]> Wed, 27 Feb 2013 11:58:15 -0800 The Stranger Posted by mydriasis]]> Wed, 27 Feb 2013 05:00:28 -0800 The Stranger Okay--NOW I'll shut up and go savor sweet dreams involving William Bradley Pitt.
Posted by auntie grizelda]]> Wed, 27 Feb 2013 00:10:47 -0800 The Stranger @228 mydriasis: Forgive what sounds like sarcasm.
I really don't know who Miss Haze is.

Okay----goodnight, everybody, and mydriasis, thanks, too, for the Brad Pitt photo! It's a sweet image to take to bed.
Posted by auntie grizelda]]> Tue, 26 Feb 2013 23:50:04 -0800 The Stranger
Twenty-one years later, the parking lot scene at the Silver Bullet is still a tough one for me.
I keep cheering for Susan, feeling mortified for Geena, and wanting to blow Harlan Puckett away, myself, if that were to ever happen to me.
Posted by auntie grizelda]]> Tue, 26 Feb 2013 23:40:16 -0800 The Stranger To each one's own.
Posted by auntie grizelda]]> Tue, 26 Feb 2013 23:16:25 -0800 The Stranger Re: your comment to seandr and recent image of Brad Pitt:
That's still sexy to me. Maybe not to you, but it doesn't matter.
We don't all have the same sexual tastes.

@227: Okay, you lost me again. Who is Miss Haze?
Did she boink Brando?
Posted by auntie grizelda]]> Tue, 26 Feb 2013 23:01:47 -0800 The Stranger Posted by mydriasis]]> Tue, 26 Feb 2013 18:14:39 -0800 The Stranger