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Feet First

June 9, 2005

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Joe Newton

I'm a straight foot fetishist and, like any other American male, I regularly Google my fetish. Last night I ran across a website promoting foot fetish parties in New York City: www.foot-worship-party.com. Have you heard of this event? Is it legit? Is it legal? For a guy with a foot fetish, it seems almost too good to true.

Tucson Omits Erotic Services

"We're definitely legit," said Jason, the young entrepreneur who hosts the parties you read about, TOES. "We don't offer sex or prostitution. It's just about worshiping women's feet. It's an erotic party, but there's no sex."

Jason got started in the foot-fetish-party-hosting business four years ago and, like all the best kink entrepreneurs, Jason shares his clients' fetish. "I'm 26 now and I've been into feet pretty much since I was 8 years old. I didn't even know what a foot fetish was, though, until I was 15 and I started to have some experiences with girls. I paid a lot of attention to my girlfriends' feet and soon they started asking if I had a foot fetish."

Jason was working in marketing at a health club in Manhattan when he mustered up enough courage to attend his first foot-fetish party. "It was awful," Jason recalled. "The women were not attractive, there were 100 guys to 20 girls, and the people who worked there were really unfriendly. My business mind kicked in and I thought, 'What if I took this concept and did it right? A better ratio of guys to girls, hot girls with beautiful feet, friendly people?' Boom, I had my first party and ever since then I've been very successful."

Indeed, Jason's monthly parties were such a success that he decided to open a studio in Midtown Manhattan to cater to foot fetishists who couldn't or wouldn't attend his parties. He calls his studio the Foot Worship Palace (www.footworshippalace.com). Private foot worship sessions at Jason's studio cost $200 an hour; entrance to Jason's foot worship parties is $150.

"Women can attend the parties at no charge," Jason said. "Any woman who wants to drop by and have men worship her feet is more than welcome. But we ask women to send an e-mail first with face shot and clear pictures of the tops and bottoms of their feet."

But why give it away for free, ladies? Attractive women who don't mind having their feet kissed, licked, and massaged can make between $250 and $300 working at one of Jason's parties. And what should a woman expect when she walks into one of his parties? "She's basically going to have men who are mostly submissive at her feet. These are men who like the idea of giving up their power and control and being at a woman's feet, worshipping her feet, massaging her toes." Because he's not asking them to do typical sex-industry work, Jason says he's able to hire women who wouldn't normally do erotic work. "We get real models and actresses, not prostitutes who claim that they're models and actresses, along with good-looking professional women, and college students."

Before we got off the phone I congratulated Jason on his success. "Your parents must be so proud," I said.

"Actually they don't know what I do," Jason replied. "I grew up in a very conservative, very religious family. They still think I'm in the fitness industry."

I posted an internet ad seeking to buy used panties. I got e-mails from women who were interested, but I also got hurtful e-mail from people telling me I'm sick. Surely sniffing used panties while masturbating is not that bad, is it?

Violated Panty Lover

Maybe you should post an Internet ad seeking some balls, VPL. When people write in to tell you that you're sick, you don't lock yourself in the bathroom and cry, you unbelievable pussy. No! You blast back an e-mail that says, "You're damn right I'm sick-and I'm lovin' every fucking minute of it!"

What do you think of new pronouns for transgender people such as "zim" and "hir"? A transgender friend has asked that we start referring to zim by such pronouns. I don't want to hurt hir feelings, but aren't we supposed to be moving toward eliminating gender from pronouns?

Ambivalent Straight Supportive

I think they're ztupid.

My straight boyfriend has a gay "slave." My boyfriend is 35, handsome, muscular-a total alpha-male type. His "slave" is a twentysomething gay kid who lives in his building. This kid does whatever my boyfriend orders him to: clean his apartment, do his laundry, do his dishes. I think it's sick and I want it to stop. My boyfriend loves the free cleaning service. There's nothing sexual about their arrangement, so my boyfriend doesn't see why it bothers me. I think he's exploiting a very messed up kid. What do you think?

The Master's Girlfriend

Your boyfriend isn't exploiting a "messed up kid." To the contrary, lady, he's delighting a grown man who's turned on by slaving away for an alpha-male type. You want it to stop because you don't want to share your boyfriend-not even his dirty dishes-with anyone else. (And the setup is sexual; somebody is beating off about those dishes-hopefully not over them but definitely about them.) Perhaps you'll feel differently if your boyfriend orders his slave to clean your apartment too.

You missed an excellent opportunity in a recent column to let your readers know about HPV and its association with anal cancer. It's 35 times more common in the gay male population, and isn't being screened for very well. In fact, anal cancer is now more common in gay men than cervical cancer is in women. If anal cancer is caught/diagnosed early, mortality rates are much lower. Researchers in the Bay Area are looking at doing anal Pap smears among the gay male population. Please let your readers know!

Stanford Med Student

Now they know, SMS.

Please tell the gay guy who didn't know how to tell his sex partner he'd been infected with gonorrhea that he can also send him an anonymous e-card with all the necessary information from the following website: www.inspot.org.

Been There Done That

Inspot was developed by Internet Sexuality Information Services, Inc., a nonprofit organization "dedicated to developing and using internet technologies to prevent disease transmission." You go to the website, select an e-card, click on an STD, and write a few lines of text. Then you enter the e-mail addresses of the sex partners you would like to notify. Cards can be sent anonymously or you can include a return e-mail address. I sent anonymous notices to all of my coworkers, letting them know that they had been exposed to shigella, molluscum, and nongonococchal urethritis. Based on the gasps and shrieks I heard coming from other cubicles all afternoon, BTDT, I'd say the service works.

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The thing is, as a genderqueer person, I'm not that much of a fan of the new pronouns either. But then what am I supposed to do? I can't bring myself to go by he or she because that's just not who I am, and hearing those pronouns referring to me make the issues of depression and being suicidal that I'm struggling with worse. What I'm doing right now is having people use the nickname Ri instead of a pronoun, because it sounds like a pronoun and isn't too repetitive.
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Hi i am a 49 year old straight man but i am a slave to a 19 yo teen boy. His name is King Danny he is foot master with many slave who all obey his every word just for the honour of worshipping his royal feet.
Posted by footslave49 on January 13, 2012 at 11:56 PM · Report this

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