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Gentlemen, rejoice. In the past, I stomped on your fondest fantasy by saying that the escort business was forever one-sided, telling you that you would never get paid to have sex with women. But times have changed. I never thought I'd see the day, but I now know a few straight guys who see female clients. That market has come of age, and I think it will only improve.

Why? Three words: social networking sites. Women will spend money on a sexy experience—if they're approached properly. Male-for-female escorts must do a lot of digital courting. The ladies are simply not going to respond to a Craigslist-style classified ad with a crotch shot and an hourly rate. But a guy with a detailed profile somewhere they already hang out; a guy they can chat with over a period of time; a guy with lots of (clothed) photos, clever blog posts, a Twitter feed? Now he's a real person, and the idea of giving him an envelope and letting him work his magic seems not so scary.

HBO's new series lends a bit of trendiness, too. Hung is about a cash-strapped schoolteacher who turns to sex work. Ray Drecker is a likable character: a handsome single dad in tough times, just trying to pay the bills with his one noteworthy asset. If the show catches on, I hope it spawns some snappier terminology for male-for-female escorts. Negative phrases like male whore won't do, and terms like hustler and callboy are used by male-for-male escorts. The word gigolo, once made plausible by a young Richard Gere, has been lethally tainted by Deuce Bigalow. What's left? Manscort? Mantesan?

But titling the show Hung is a misfire—being hung is actually the least important professional attribute (though I'm unsurprised that male writers thought otherwise). In my opinion, a really big cock on a male escort is like really big boobs on a female one—making it the cornerstone of your pitch suggests that you've got nothing else in your toolbox. You need confidence, charm, and overall hotness. If you've got that, the endowment of a porn star is nice, but not strictly necessary. What HBO should have called the show is The Boyfriend Experience—because no matter what's in your pants, a Bush-era wham-bam-thank-you-ma'am will not satisfy your clients. If you insist on a one-word marketing strategy, I personally would go with "Tongue" before "Hung." For recessionisto rent boys like Ray Drecker, success depends on attention to those delicate, sensitive finer points.

In any case, success is a relative term. None of the M4F escorts I know are making a full-time living; they all have other jobs. So if you've got looks and charisma, paying your cell bill and getting expensive haircuts is doable. Saving your house from foreclosure? Dubious. Nonetheless, I expect to see a big rise—yeah, I said that—in the number of male escorts offering services. Then we'll see who can achieve market penetration. recommended

 

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The Amazing Jim 1
Is "Man-whore" not acceptable?
Posted by The Amazing Jim http://www.facebook.com/home.php?#/profile.php?id=100000076496291&ref=profile on July 15, 2009 at 4:24 PM · Report this
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Finally somebody writes about this. Yah! And she's damn right about the tongue being more important than the weenie. My rentboy was very modestly endowed but he had mad, MAD skills and was super eager to please. (Plus he was shaved, neat and freshly showered, all things a guy needs to be to please a gal.)
Posted by nobodyyouknow on July 15, 2009 at 11:59 PM · Report this
devilsmoke 3
@2 I can't even imagine marketing a show like that. All I can think of is Gene Simmons and this
Posted by devilsmoke on July 16, 2009 at 1:43 PM · Report this
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I'm a forty two y/o business woman that travels frequently. Throughout the years I have pondered the idea of hiring a male escort but have always been discouraged by the "crotch shot and an hourly rate" advertisements. It's nice to see the boys finally coming around as they slowly realize it takes a little more than a large unit to get my envelope.
Posted by Blossoms on July 17, 2009 at 8:51 AM · Report this
jamescraig 5
I saw Hung for the first time last night and was surprised to find it much more entertaining than I thought it would be. Picked up some wicked dance moves courtesy of Ray and have decided to bake cookies with messages in them :)

Good article Mistress M.
Posted by jamescraig http://www.jamescraigonline.com on July 23, 2009 at 9:25 PM · Report this
jamescraig 6
I saw Hung for the first time last night and was surprised to find it much more entertaining than I thought it would be. Picked up some wicked dance moves courtesy of Ray and have decided to bake cookies with messages in them :)

Good article Mistress M.
Posted by jamescraig http://www.jamescraigonline.com on July 23, 2009 at 9:29 PM · Report this
jamescraig 7
Oh I got edited? Did I say something bad?
Posted by jamescraig http://www.jamescraigonline.com on July 23, 2009 at 10:05 PM · Report this
colecarter 8
Is "Man-whore" not acceptable?

Happiness Consultant if you please :)

James, your comments were edited due to shameless self-promotion :)
Posted by colecarter http://www.twitter.com/Cole_Carter on July 26, 2009 at 7:52 PM · Report this
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Excellent article, Mistress Matisse! It's only natural that today's busy women would seek the luxurious, sensual comfort offered by male escorts. If you haven't tried this, Ladies, you should!:)

-- Megan Hussey
Posted by MeganHussey on July 29, 2009 at 5:51 AM · Report this
jamescraig 10
Shameless self-promotion Mr Carter? Dang! I thought I had got away with that :)

Actually I didn't get edited. I was being a doofus and not seeing the posts.

Megan- Thank you for your support :)
Posted by jamescraig http://www.jamescraigonline.com on August 2, 2009 at 5:20 PM · Report this
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My wife and I have been reflecting on your terminology challenge and have a few thoughts:

Guysha - Since the emphasis in M4F escort on companionability rather than the act itself is reminiscent of traditional Japanese Geishas.

Male Order - My wife's favorite since the process of shopping for M4F services reminds her so much of how she and many other women shop by catalog these days rather than brave the curt, quick-turnover atmosphere of most retail stores.

Indeed, your entire description suggests that American male/female differences in shopping carry over to escorts. My apologies for the generalizations, but: Men go to the anonymous proverbial "QuickieMart" (sorry, couldn't resist) and buy to slake an immediate need or urge, while women prefer to do business with vendors they know building what the trade calls "permission marketing relationships." Men just want to have the product, women want the "hand sell." (Surely something could be done with that phase in this context as well. Hand Merchant? Handy Man?)

One last thought:

Makeout Takeout - Since the whole ethos of the Boyfriend Experience (or GFE) and its emphasis on getting the cream (sorry) of a relationship without putting in all the work is parallel to the way people order takeout food for a meal rather than putting in the effort to shop and cook their food first.

Posted by Happy NYC Couple on September 7, 2009 at 8:31 AM · Report this
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There have been a select few exclusive straight male escorts that are above the rest in quality, dependability, and descretion. Armand Chase of New York and Los Angeles (malecourtesan.com), Smith Curren of Seattle, WA, Alexander the San Diego, CA companion, and James Craig of Las Vegas. Elsewhere in the world there is Storm Astor from the UK, Aundre from Australia, Cole Carter from the UK, Jayson from Greece, and Bailey from New Zealand. Just to mention a few of the worlds best Straight Male Escorts.
Posted by devb on November 10, 2010 at 7:14 PM · Report this
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devb, these guys should write a collection of short stories (with client names changed, of course).
Posted by kungfujew on December 21, 2010 at 9:19 AM · Report this
Vlad-Companion-for-Woman-Prague 14
Dear Mistress Matisse,
thank you for a good written article. You seem to be very observant and the content/opinion is genuine. It is true about escorting can't be a full-time job, yet rather being an adventurous hobby and it is true that classified advertisement does not work. An internet/website is a major channel - to be found by those woman who don't mind searching for it.

A great depth of scientific research on the subject is done in a book “Gigolos | The Secret Lives of Men who Service Women” by Dane Taylor & Antonia Newton – West. Selected quotes available here: http://www.youngprofessionalcompanion.co…

Vlad | Educated Male Escort for Women | Prague
www.YoungProfessionalCompanion.com
Posted by Vlad-Companion-for-Woman-Prague http://www.YoungProfessionalCompanion.com on July 25, 2012 at 7:14 AM · Report this
Marta Piccante 15
Hi I'm Marta from Rome. I do not think much to the professionalism of gigolo! I think we are only beginning to find women with ease without really thinking about what a woman wants. Furthermore, their reputation can not be compared with the escort rather than have a more professional way of working and adatano to customers is very true, however, that for a woman it is much easier especially for their beauty. The moust popular sites of the best escorts is here on escort roma, once held the class gigolo, today saw the lack of interest are no longer present for many years. But it is probably time raise hope for us women think it's our turn! marta kisses from Rome Italy
Posted by Marta Piccante on April 21, 2013 at 1:06 PM · Report this
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Quote: "There have been a select few exclusive straight male escorts that are above the rest in quality, dependability, and descretion. Armand Chase of New York and Los Angeles (malecourtesan.com), Smith Curren of Seattle, WA, Alexander the San Diego, CA companion, and James Craig of Las Vegas."

I don't know about the rest of those guys, but I'm a woman who sees Armand Chase fairly regularly, and I find him amazing in every way. Great conversationalist, hot looks, charming.
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