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Steven Weissman
You were one of my best friends. Even after women in our community of friends came forward to say that you made (and continue to make) them feel uncomfortable by cornering them, being physically aggressive, trying to get them alone, fucking them with your eyes, plying them with alcohol, being pushy, and generally making them think that you're a sexual predator. This is unacceptable, especially given that you style yourself as an "anarcho-activist-feminist male-bodied individual." I stuck by you even after that guy in the restaurant in Portland heard me say your name and leaned over to tell me in detail how you got his girlfriend drunk and date-raped her. (I'm kicking my own ass for this one. How many others?!) Even after you repeatedly lied to my friends about me, tried to start shit with me every time that you saw me, tried to wreck my relationships and job prospects—all in the name of scapegoating me as the cause of the problems that you continue to have with your relationships, home, and jobs. Yeah, I realize you know karate, but I know enough people who would be very interested in holding you down on the ground so we can take turns spitting in your fucking face. So this is me not being nice to you anymore. Or keeping quiet about a manic, alcoholic, violent sexual predator in our community.
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You actually took someone who calls himself an "anarcho-activist-feminist male-bodied individual" seriously for more than 2 seconds?
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Sounds like your friends are a bunch of assholes, if that was one of the best of the bunch. But that's what you get when you sign up for a "community of freinds" like a fraternity or sorrority or whatever the hell kind of group anarcho activist male bodied feminists join.
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"Or keeping quiet about a manic, alcoholic, violent sexual predator in our community."
Except, by posting on "I, Anonymous," you ARE keeping quiet in the way that it counts most -- to this person's FUTURE victims.
Except, by posting on "I, Anonymous," you ARE keeping quiet in the way that it counts most -- to this person's FUTURE victims.
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Whoa, whoa, whoa... Are you telling me that some of the guys who call themselves feminists are full of shit? Consider my worldview rocked.
I hope this is a good learning experience for Anonymous; when you see the world in the stark Black & White that allows one to accept the completely ridiculous term "anarcho-activist-feminist male-bodied individual," it opens up the possibility that some of the people you thought were 100% awesome have no other category to be in but 100% shit.
Had you allowed for all the shades of gray, you may have noticed your former friend was only 10% awesome, while 90% shit. Chances are, there's a portion of you that's shit too. I think there is in everybody: me, you, Ghandi, Noam Chomsky... everybody.
Man, I'm so fucking glad I'm not 22 anymore.
I hope this is a good learning experience for Anonymous; when you see the world in the stark Black & White that allows one to accept the completely ridiculous term "anarcho-activist-feminist male-bodied individual," it opens up the possibility that some of the people you thought were 100% awesome have no other category to be in but 100% shit.
Had you allowed for all the shades of gray, you may have noticed your former friend was only 10% awesome, while 90% shit. Chances are, there's a portion of you that's shit too. I think there is in everybody: me, you, Ghandi, Noam Chomsky... everybody.
Man, I'm so fucking glad I'm not 22 anymore.
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funny you describe yourself as rats in a shithouse. yikes. doesn't sound like you ever had or will have a chance.
it seems youth really is wasted on the young.
it seems youth really is wasted on the young.
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Men who aggressively tout their feminism are like people who insist they're the most honest people you'll ever meet. Yeah, on Opposite Day.
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i went to gorditos and ate the entire grande burrito, larger than a baby, and i smothered it with sour cream.
it's 3 am, i just woke up from my 9pm food coma after eating it.
thats all i have
it's 3 am, i just woke up from my 9pm food coma after eating it.
thats all i have
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time to wake up and smell the shit she allowed to brew WTF were u thinking hes an asshole and u let it grow to siezmic proportions friends do not treat friends like that time to look in the mirror and decide your own future for he is a loser user and abuser
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You stuck by someone as a friend after hearing from all of your female friends that he behaved like a sexual predator and from a total stranger who told you about him actually date raping someone?
I get the vibe you're pretty young. Being young is about making mistakes. Consider this like an inoculation so that you don't ever make the same mistakes, again.
(I'm sure that the people in the comments section here will be more than happy to point out all aspects here where you went askew to facilitate the process.)
Anyway, better to wake up late than never (or date raped). Good luck to you.
I get the vibe you're pretty young. Being young is about making mistakes. Consider this like an inoculation so that you don't ever make the same mistakes, again.
(I'm sure that the people in the comments section here will be more than happy to point out all aspects here where you went askew to facilitate the process.)
Anyway, better to wake up late than never (or date raped). Good luck to you.
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When you are young, sometimes bullshit sounds impressive. Bullshit like the term "anarcho-activist-feminist male-bodied individual." It's good that you have made the first step towards realizing that just because someone espouses some nice-sounding political words, that doesn't make them a trustworthy individual. Quite the opposite, in fact. The more someone tells you how politically enlightened they are, the further away you should get from them.
And that goes for anarchists, Democrats, and every other kind of political fucktroon out there.
And that goes for anarchists, Democrats, and every other kind of political fucktroon out there.
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This guy sounds like a piece of shit, for sure. But as a male who considers himself to be a feminist, I must object to some of the comments and defend the notion that a straight male can espouse the ideas of feminism and actually walk the talk. I know I'm not the only one either. I'm sorry guys like this are out there, but it's pretty fucked up to generalize from one, clearly insane, example. Oh, and or better or worse, I'm way beyond the age of 22.
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Nothing wrong with feminist men. Have yet to meet an anarchist who wasn't a pot-smoking moocher, though.
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Keep in mind when "searching for Sex Offenders" that some may have been 18 year olds with 17 year old girlfriends (turned in by said girlfriend's p'd off parents?) or individuals caught peein' in public. Until we have "levels" of sex offenders these sorry slips go in the site with the pedophiles. Just keep that in mind, yo.
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#20, too true. Not to mention, why do we have a sex offender registry but not a murderer registry or thief registry for when those people are released back into the community?
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Wow. A "anarcho-activist-feminist male-bodied individual" who "knows karate"? I'm swooning here.
At least he didn't say he was a lesbian in a man's body, but it was close.
At least he didn't say he was a lesbian in a man's body, but it was close.
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it really should not have taken numerous people saying the same things to get you to rea;ize what a worthless person he was.
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I think anyone who claims to be a feminist, female or not, is off their rocker. Sure. Support equality for all races, sexes and creeds. I'm with that, but most "feminists" I've encountered use it as another way of being a chauvinist asshole. Shame on you for thinking this guy wanted anything more than sex by claiming he was a feminist. There is a difference between having respect for women and claiming, as a man, that you're a feminist. How old are you? 18? Men don't say shit like that unless they are looking to get approval from a certain group of people...particularly, gullible females who will allow themselves to be drugged and date raped. I'm pretty sure Gary Ridgeway and Ted Bundy claimed the same stance before they got caught...
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@25
..."gullible females who will allow themselves to be drugged and date-raped." You are an effortless fuckwit. The idiotic tripe that was vomited out of your smeg-brain is noteworthy only for its ignorance. If we ever meet, I will so Home Alive you.
To I anon: YES, you have to in some way identify that person, for the sake of future victims.
..."gullible females who will allow themselves to be drugged and date-raped." You are an effortless fuckwit. The idiotic tripe that was vomited out of your smeg-brain is noteworthy only for its ignorance. If we ever meet, I will so Home Alive you.
To I anon: YES, you have to in some way identify that person, for the sake of future victims.
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From the author-
Im 31 and the former friend is 26 if it matters.
The original of this was three times longer, i may add.
I will gladly tell you who this guy is since he's in the scene and 'popular' and some people have no idea why he had to move from portland to seattle. You can email me at disastercat@hotmail.com
@13, i was friend with him up until he sent me a text that said 'why dont you let me fuck your girlfriend?'. that was a ways before all the other stuff.
Im 31 and the former friend is 26 if it matters.
The original of this was three times longer, i may add.
I will gladly tell you who this guy is since he's in the scene and 'popular' and some people have no idea why he had to move from portland to seattle. You can email me at disastercat@hotmail.com
@13, i was friend with him up until he sent me a text that said 'why dont you let me fuck your girlfriend?'. that was a ways before all the other stuff.
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I believe people are wondering why you allowed this to go on so long, disastercat. It seems like you should have held this guy accountable a long time ago. It also seems like you should have told the community who exactly this potential rapist is. Our responsibility as community members is, if not to take care of each other, at least to not allow each other to get raped. By being passive we allow this to happen. Speak Up and Rise Up! We have to take care of each other 'cause the government sure as hell won't. Empower ourselves and Empower each other. That is what we are lacking...
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That is how I define a true feminist, by the way. Someone is Empowered and and Empowers all others, despite gender, creed or race. They also hold themselves and each other accountable. They do not allow community members to go as far as your "former friend" went.
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@25: Know your facts. Gary Ridgeway's M.O. was simply to get a prostitute into his truck, drive off, then kill her somewhere private. He never had to sell out and pretend to be feminist.
Ted Bundy would either just break into his victim's room or pretend to be injured in order to lull them into a false sense of security. No fake feminism there, either.
Ted Bundy would either just break into his victim's room or pretend to be injured in order to lull them into a false sense of security. No fake feminism there, either.
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We still don't have any proof that this guy actually raped anyone. This I Anon could just be some vindictive loser who wants to get back at someone.
Vigilante much?
Vigilante much?
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@36
I second that. And I second the fact that the poster is very young.
In the future, pay close attention to when the world is running in the opposite direction from someone you're just soooo impressed by. Walk away early on or get burned yourself. And be careful out there - the world is full of nutjobs just dying to get people with your level of naivité into their force fields.
I second that. And I second the fact that the poster is very young.
In the future, pay close attention to when the world is running in the opposite direction from someone you're just soooo impressed by. Walk away early on or get burned yourself. And be careful out there - the world is full of nutjobs just dying to get people with your level of naivité into their force fields.
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I agree with @30's definition of Feminism, and am more than a little surprised that so many of you here dismiss the idea of a male feminist. Much like a white person who recognizes their white privilege and does something about it, their actually ARE men who recognize their male privilege and actually do something about it. This evil Joe fellow is not the first to use that as a line and unfortunately won't be the last, but to paint ALL male feminists with the same brush is lazy and ignorant.
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Thank you @ 38. I am saddened by the vitriol in these comments towards feminism in general and specifically the notion of male feminists. Many people want a more compassionate and just world and live their lives accordingly, as best they can. Does it really make you feel better to shit on that?
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The author again (im a 31yr male, and person that i wrote about is a 26yr male - since it apparently is of interest)-
@29 - Thats been my whole issue this time, i thought that i was one voice. I didnt want the responsibility. I didnt want to be THAT guy. But after reading a book on consent, and that having the subject of this try to fight me (yet again) at a halloween party caused it to be written. I am so sorry that i waited this long.
And, i found out that his current girlfriend knows about none of this.
@34 - I was the same way. THe subject was one of my best friends. I actually thought that the guy in the restaurant was 'some vindictive loser who wants to get back at someone'. Then i asked some mutual friends in PDX and then heard about it through some others who were friends of friends. When i told the subject that i knew, he immediately went to his then girlfriend to give her 'his version', before she heard from me.
ANd then started hearing about the others in the community who have had problems with this guy.
@29 - Thats been my whole issue this time, i thought that i was one voice. I didnt want the responsibility. I didnt want to be THAT guy. But after reading a book on consent, and that having the subject of this try to fight me (yet again) at a halloween party caused it to be written. I am so sorry that i waited this long.
And, i found out that his current girlfriend knows about none of this.
@34 - I was the same way. THe subject was one of my best friends. I actually thought that the guy in the restaurant was 'some vindictive loser who wants to get back at someone'. Then i asked some mutual friends in PDX and then heard about it through some others who were friends of friends. When i told the subject that i knew, he immediately went to his then girlfriend to give her 'his version', before she heard from me.
ANd then started hearing about the others in the community who have had problems with this guy.
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What I am failing to understand is why the "women in {your} community of friends", who apparently were on the same page in feeling preyed upon, continued to accept his presence in the circle and told you but evidently did not say to this jagoff "Look, Asshole, you crowding me, leering and trying to bully me to drink more than I wish to drink is fucking creepy... stay the hell away from me, and leave my sweet friend the fuck alone while you're at it!".
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Life Lesson: Anyone who has invented a descriptive phrase for themself that's more than 3 words long is automatically full of shit.
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