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I have never, ever met anyone as pretty as you. And I have never, EVER met anyone as self-absorbed and cruel. So breaking in virgins is what you do (four young, shy guys so far). I want to warn them, let them know what they are getting into. But they are so mesmerized by your amazing face and body that it's impossible to even get their attention long enough to let them know that after you train them, you treat them like crap while patting yourself on the back for being such a good person. Telling them that you love them is beyond cruel; it's cunt behavior. My only consolations: (1) You will be old one day. (2) Karma is a bitch. (3) You may one day realize that while you can attract any man you want, you have the personality and wit of a potato bug. I will admit that you liven up when you have a drink or two in you, but that is not a good thing. Trust me. You're still out looking for the right guy (so you say) who makes you feel intelligent. But be warned: No amount of smart on his part is going to make you a better person or all that much smarter. You will make a wonderfully dim-witted trophy wife. In the meantime, could you please, PLEASE leave the virgins alone? We don't need any more young guys running around trying to find you at clubs and bars in the hopes that you still love them. It's just too much clean-up work.
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I actually dont see the problem here. So a woman likes to brake in virgins. This sounds like almost every male virgins fantasy. Am I wrong?
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I think Virgin Hunters are an uncelebrated and undervalued class of American Hero(ines) who make life better for thousands every day. In fact, I think we should have a reality TV show dedicated to them - Deadliest Catch, Ax Men, The Virgin Hunters...
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ok so... saying karma is a b*tch is basically saying you're going to be GLAD when this person gets bad karma. wishing bad karma on someone else is bad karma for YOU. so if you believe in things like karma, i guess you are screwing yourself. which is sad. because you really shouldn't do that. since you already seem unhappy and caught up in other people's business.
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@2, These days, it could still be about a gay man, regardless of what the law says.
At least those virgins can rest assured that if they get an STD, it's somewhat unlikely that they're getting it from the virgin hunter. On the other hand, men do this to women all the time and no one seems to say anything about it other than "Alright, high five!" Regardless, I still think they're all douchebags and assholes for the games they play.
As for the Anon -- In my opinion, if you were waiting to have sex with someone you were in a loving relationship with, then you should have waited until you were married, since that's generally the only guarantee that the bitch won't dump your ass as soon as she's done with you sexually (and if she does, then you have every right to lay the blame on her...unless you get married while completely blackout drunk in Vegas...) Any virgin hunter is most likely not going to wait that long and you would have avoided having your heart broken. It sucks that you had your heart broken. I can completely sympathize with that. However, maybe you needed to learn a valuable lesson from this person. Next time, think things through a little more carefully, don't ignore what your gut instinct tells you and accept responsibility for YOUR role in the story before placing all of the blame on someone else when the shit hits the fan. You are partially to blame, regardless of what you tell yourself. I do have to agree with what you said about her not getting any smarter because of some guy...No one can fix stupid except yourself. If you don't feel intelligent on your own, then you aren't going to feel intelligent with anyone else, either.
At least those virgins can rest assured that if they get an STD, it's somewhat unlikely that they're getting it from the virgin hunter. On the other hand, men do this to women all the time and no one seems to say anything about it other than "Alright, high five!" Regardless, I still think they're all douchebags and assholes for the games they play.
As for the Anon -- In my opinion, if you were waiting to have sex with someone you were in a loving relationship with, then you should have waited until you were married, since that's generally the only guarantee that the bitch won't dump your ass as soon as she's done with you sexually (and if she does, then you have every right to lay the blame on her...unless you get married while completely blackout drunk in Vegas...) Any virgin hunter is most likely not going to wait that long and you would have avoided having your heart broken. It sucks that you had your heart broken. I can completely sympathize with that. However, maybe you needed to learn a valuable lesson from this person. Next time, think things through a little more carefully, don't ignore what your gut instinct tells you and accept responsibility for YOUR role in the story before placing all of the blame on someone else when the shit hits the fan. You are partially to blame, regardless of what you tell yourself. I do have to agree with what you said about her not getting any smarter because of some guy...No one can fix stupid except yourself. If you don't feel intelligent on your own, then you aren't going to feel intelligent with anyone else, either.
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I think IA is more upset about having their feelings abused than having lost their virginity (please, please let that be the case)... to that I can sympathize, but not to losing that thing that their really, really should be a professional paid to remove.. oh, wait >.>
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Gotta second #7 ... if she's having a hard time finding someone who makes her "feel" intelligent ... she is most likely not very intelligent. Although maybe the fact that she doesn't just assume her intellectual superiority to others is a sign of unexpected self-awareness, which is at least one positive trait.
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@#9, very true...
I'd also like to ask IA, is this girl's favorite song "Oops!...I Did It Again" by Britney Spears by chance? If so, maybe that should have been your first clue...
I'd also like to ask IA, is this girl's favorite song "Oops!...I Did It Again" by Britney Spears by chance? If so, maybe that should have been your first clue...
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@1 You're sort of wrong. Having sex with someone for the 1st time = good. Having sex with someone for the first time and then they treat you like shit = not good.
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Well if the only thing she's got going for her is her "amazing" face and body, maybe you should pick OTHER criteria for your next girlfriend, hmmmm?
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Uuh, is ANYONE else getting the vibe that the writer is not a jilted former lover?
"We don't need any more young guys running around trying to find you at clubs and bars in the hopes that you still love them. It's just too much clean-up work."
Doesn't that sound more like annoyed frenemy territory. Oh, wait, I forgot this is Slog and we attack first and read later.
"We don't need any more young guys running around trying to find you at clubs and bars in the hopes that you still love them. It's just too much clean-up work."
Doesn't that sound more like annoyed frenemy territory. Oh, wait, I forgot this is Slog and we attack first and read later.
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Maybe it's worth letting yourself be temporarily get treated like shit in order to get laid by some hot chick. As long as you don't make a habit of letting yourself get treated like shit. But if she dumps the guys quickly, it's a little life lesson for the former virgins. A win-win, in other words. Some action, some learning. How else are they going to learn?
Keep on fucking, virgin hunter slut!
Keep on fucking, virgin hunter slut!
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Also, I know it's rude to double-post, but I wuold just like to take the opportunity to thank the slightly older girl to whom I lost MY virginity, 25 years ago almost to this day, who dumped me after, what, two days? Sure, I was somewhat disappointed to realize I was not going to be the love of her life or even her boyfriend for the rest of the summer, but I got some good punk rock chick action for TWO WHOLE DAYS!
It was WORTH IT!! Thanks, Beth Johnson, wherever you are! XO!
It was WORTH IT!! Thanks, Beth Johnson, wherever you are! XO!
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13 - If that's true then he's just jealous he hasn't gotten any. No way that an innocent bystander would feel so strongly about this as to write an I, Anon.
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I'm with #13, this doesn't sound like a jilted lover, it sounds like a friend standing by and watching a pretty girl trample on men's hearts.
Yes, all men want sex, but a surprising number of them want love, too. And to let someone think you love them when you are just using them to feed your ego is quite despicable.
Of course, Anon should stop and think about WHY this person is in their life, anyway.
Yes, all men want sex, but a surprising number of them want love, too. And to let someone think you love them when you are just using them to feed your ego is quite despicable.
Of course, Anon should stop and think about WHY this person is in their life, anyway.
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I sense a jealous female room mate in this one. Not ugly or fat. Just an ordinary young woman and looking for "their one true love" or something long term and the Virgin Hunter probably bagged their crush. Hence, the slut shaming. Please, if a guy thinks a woman is going to declare her eternal love and loyalty to him just because she let him poke her, he needs to wise up fast. Chicks get horny. They too want no strings hook ups so don't read too much into it unless you've been dating awhile or friends for awhile....and even then don't assume anything. Enjoy losing it to a hottie and don't waste anytime bewailing the fact you didn't "save" yourself for your wedding night. Your future spouse will thank you. Virgins are lousy lays.
Oh, and always use protection.
Oh, and always use protection.
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@7, you're wrong: when you write: On the other hand, men do this to women all the time and no one seems to say anything about it other than "Alright, high five!"
No. Men do not do this "all the time." And no decent person says that.
No. Men do not do this "all the time." And no decent person says that.
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@21:
Yes, we do this all the time, at least from ages about 15 to 30. You have clearly been hanging out with a high quality group of men; which is to your credit. It is not, however, to your credit that you are projecting the character of these men onto men as a whole.
I guess we should also define what "this" is. To be fair to @7, "this" should be broadly defined to include most forms of taking advantage of the sexually/emotionally vulnerable, not simply serial de-virginization.
Yes, we do this all the time, at least from ages about 15 to 30. You have clearly been hanging out with a high quality group of men; which is to your credit. It is not, however, to your credit that you are projecting the character of these men onto men as a whole.
I guess we should also define what "this" is. To be fair to @7, "this" should be broadly defined to include most forms of taking advantage of the sexually/emotionally vulnerable, not simply serial de-virginization.
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It sounds like she's leading them on, which is not ok. If you want to "break them in", you have a responsibility to be kind.... if it's a one night stand kind of thing, fine, be up front. Yes, they will be hurt most likely afterwards; most of us can't help but be attached to the one who was our first. You cannot however fuck buddy them. That's mean. And if it's an older guy who's waited due to various reasons, it's truly cruel to treat them like shit. I knew someone who did that to a guy who had waited till he was almost 30. She broke up with him three months later, then called him up when a family tragedy occurred, snuggled up to him to comfort him, slept with him and then explained that it was a fuck buddy situation. He agreed, but then she would tell him she loved him, etc., and he just didn't understand, no matter how much we all tried to tell him that if she's strip teasing at a party (in front of him) for the man she slept with while they were "on a break", that she does not love him. That is "cunt behavior" to quote the above. He was a mess for a long time.
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It sounds like she's leading them on, which is not ok. If you want to "break them in", you have a responsibility to be kind.... if it's a one night stand kind of thing, fine, be up front. Yes, they will be hurt most likely afterwards; most of us can't help but be attached to the one who was our first. You cannot however fuck buddy them. That's mean. And if it's an older guy who's waited due to various reasons, it's truly cruel to treat them like shit. I knew someone who did that to a guy who had waited till he was almost 30. She broke up with him three months later, then called him up when a family tragedy occurred, snuggled up to him to comfort him, slept with him and then explained that it was a fuck buddy situation. He agreed, but then she would tell him she loved him, etc., and he just didn't understand, no matter how much we all tried to tell him that if she's strip teasing at a party (in front of him) for the man she slept with while they were "on a break", that she does not love him. That is "cunt behavior" to quote the above. He was a mess for a long time.
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Virgin Hunters are awesome.
I'd like to thank the gal who deflowered me way back when. She fucked me senseless for a couple weeks one summer, than dumped my ass. Yes, I felt a little bummed that I couldn't fuck her any more, but I got over it pretty damn quickly.
She left me with no diseases, no child support payments, and many fond memories. Plus, she racheted up my "game" to a whole new level. Overall, a positive force in my life. :)
And if she got off on deflowering guys, so much the better. As young and as inexperienced as I was, she wasn't getting off of anything I could do. And I'm glad I was able to bring something to the table.
I'd like to thank the gal who deflowered me way back when. She fucked me senseless for a couple weeks one summer, than dumped my ass. Yes, I felt a little bummed that I couldn't fuck her any more, but I got over it pretty damn quickly.
She left me with no diseases, no child support payments, and many fond memories. Plus, she racheted up my "game" to a whole new level. Overall, a positive force in my life. :)
And if she got off on deflowering guys, so much the better. As young and as inexperienced as I was, she wasn't getting off of anything I could do. And I'm glad I was able to bring something to the table.
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Uh, maybe Mr. Anonymous is a jealous-ass dude who can't treat a pretty girl like a normal person, got dumped, and has come up with a lame excuse. I mean, you'd think the hyper-intelligent shyboy could have figured it out before he fucked her, right?
What a total loser. He had his shot, didn't appreciate, and now it's gone. Good luck getting back there.
Pause.
Not.
What a total loser. He had his shot, didn't appreciate, and now it's gone. Good luck getting back there.
Pause.
Not.
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Am I the only one who thinks this was written by a woman and so called "friend" of the virgin hunter?
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A local rumor started that I, a never-married man in my late 30s, was a virgin. No virgin hunters came for me, but I lost friends over it and almost lost my job (which involves working with kids, so anything sexual is very touchy). I had no idea that there was so much hateful animosity ("Really creepy", "Your'e 38, that would just be SICK", "What the fuck is WRONG with you?") against virgins. Weird. Weird and scary. I guess it was just a taste of what gays get every day.
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A woman hurting a man/guys feelings?Setting their emotions for future relationships?Its OK if a guy does it, but not a woman?
Tell yourself whatever but my head hurts...can't we all just get along?
Tell yourself whatever but my head hurts...can't we all just get along?
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ok, i first want to say i love virgin hunters. I had a stint of it back in my day. However, i was also honest, up front about my intentions. Sex, with a virgin until im over it. So its not cool that she cant be honest, because lets be honest guys like to screw, people like to screw, and if its safe and an honest act it works out great. There should be a club for virgin hunters, and it should be celebrated.
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I just cannot get behind any person telling a woman not to sleep with shy, virginal guys. Shy virginal guys have enough problems without dealing with the judgemental machinations of this cock-blocking lowlife who seems to think that you have to love everybody you screw. Let the poor guys get their dicks wet. Everybody needs to learn how to swim sometime, and you got to swallow a little water to do it.
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@12: totally agree with you - he should try looking for more in a girl than a hot body and face. If he was a 25 year old woman who was only interested in a guy for his fat wallet and car, he would have been blasted in this column.
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