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Lezzbook.com Is the Premier Site for Lesbian Everything

A Look Inside "the Facebook for Lesbians"—Where Everyone Is Welcome, Except Dudes

Lezzbook.com Is the Premier Site for Lesbian Everything

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LEZZBOOK.COM FOUNDER BETH DARR “I wanted to create a one-stop resource for women.”

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Imagine you're a lonely teenage lesbian growing up Mormon in Utah, with no community of like-minded lesbians to rely on for support, friendship, or dating. Or imagine you're an 89-year-old lesbian housebound in Iowa. Or perhaps you're the kind of private woman who doesn't want her coworkers or family to know about her love life, which is trumpeted on social media sites like Facebook for everyone to see—a woman who wants to meet other lesbians while having her privacy respected.

In 2009, Seattle resident Beth Darr was one such lesbian after a car crash left her out of work and housebound. Worst of all, Darr lost her support system—her friends. "I basically lost everything," she says. "After the accident, a lot of my interactions with people were online. And then I realized that I could create something for people who don't have access to friends, people who maybe live in isolation or who don't live in a cosmopolitan area like I do." So she decided to create Lezzbook.com, "the Facebook for lesbians," a private social networking site exclusively for women who love women. "It doesn't just have to be lesbians," Darr explains. "Bi, transgender, confused women—everyone is welcome, except dudes."

Lezzbook.com has the same basic framework that other social networking sites have—each member has a profile where she can add pictures, videos, music, and personal information, such as relationship status (the site has a free "lezz- date" platform). But unlike other social networking sites with confusing privacy settings, only other members can view your Lezzbook.com profile, using two simple privacy settings: You can set your profile to be seen by all other members of Lezz book.com or only by other members selected by you.

Hundreds of lesbians are joining the site each week because of the array of social platforms Lezzbook.com offers. For instance, hundreds of chat groups exist within the lady caves of Lezzbook.com, groups identified by age or location, as well as specialized groups for women into motorcycles, different types of spirituality, even Alcoholics Anonymous. "I wanted to create a one-stop resource for women," explains Darr, "where women can find other women to date, or read an interesting article that pertains to their health or sexuality, or find firsthand accounts of personal coming-out stories." In addition, the site has erotic fiction and exclusive interviews with gay celebrities like comedian Suzanne Westenhoefer, photographer Adam Bouska, and NOH8 Campaign cofounder Jeff Parshley. Members have the option of booking a lesbian getaway with lesbian travel agent Barbara Carrington or browsing a list of lesbian events currently happening in their city. Darr says her goal is to have more than one million lesbians using her site to network and build community. "I'd love to become big enough so that we have a local division for each state," Darr explains. "I'm imagining local pages where California or Washington lesbian businesses could be listed, and we could have different local events pages attached."

To achieve this goal—and to enforce her strict no-dudes policy—Darr personally approves each new member who joins Lezzbook.com, which means approving 20 to 75 new members each day, from all over the world. Lezzbook.com currently has more than 4,700 members. Darr says that every evening, members from Africa to Europe, Spain to the Philippines, Arkansas to Alaska log on to her site to flirt and chat live with friends. Members range in age from 16 to 65.

In addition, Darr has hired several prominent lesbian writers to contribute content to the site—writers such as Kathy Belge, who pens a lesbian advice column called Lipstick & Dipstick for Curve magazine, and Edie Stull, whose work has appeared in Curve, LOTL, Bound, SheWired, Edge, and Watermark. Stull now pens a weekly column for Lezzbook.com called Women Making News, which features interviews with prominent lesbians such as filmmaker Nicole Conn.

"Lezzbook.com promotes ladies to other ladies," says Darr. "It's a very welcoming space that's constantly evolving to meet the needs and interests of our members." Darr recently hired a design firm to revamp the site and relaunch it on March 1. The new site promises to be even more user friendly and geared toward helping women build new relationships. Now that her empire is taking shape, Darr is shopping for "any angel investors out there" to take Lezzbook.com to the next level—with more interactivity, more gayborhoods across the world represented, and more women penning articles with lady audiences in mind. She envisions a large, interactive map of the United States on the main page of Lezzbook.com, where members could click on their state and instantly see other women in their area. "The goal has always been to bring people together," says Darr. "I want every woman who joins my site to be able to find her new best friend or her life partner." recommended

 

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JustSayGo 1
that name is so gay...LOL
Posted by JustSayGo on January 19, 2011 at 1:33 PM · Report this
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It bothers me that the article promotes privacy which on the Internet is a false promise. All of the user information can be hacked and made public.
Posted by ForConsideration on January 19, 2011 at 3:16 PM · Report this
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It bothers me that the article promotes exclusion of populace based on sex.
Posted by DarnRaaaaats on January 19, 2011 at 4:30 PM · Report this
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Makes sense - there are already many, many "men only" sites out there... called porn.

But I think the reason you don't see descriminatory mens' sites is because men don't typically bother with things that don't interest them and are never really bothered by men or women who share their same interests.
Posted by presently out on January 19, 2011 at 4:57 PM · Report this
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I like the whole privacy idea, but to sign up I had to provide them with all sorts of personal info, including a cell phone number! So I don't think I will be participating myself.
Posted by shantih on January 19, 2011 at 5:15 PM · Report this
devon rocketship 6
@4 Right on! Cause only men watch porn.
Posted by devon rocketship http://swimtothemoon.livejournal.com on January 19, 2011 at 5:49 PM · Report this
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This is a GREAT site!! I have been a member since it started and have made so many new friends! I highly encourage every lesbian to join!
Posted by Forbes500 on January 19, 2011 at 7:17 PM · Report this
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Please note- Lezzbook.com likes to have your cellular phone number as well as your Facebook/Twitter information (Cellular Phone numbers for raffles/ giveaways and Twitter/Facebook for identification verification and to "follow"/"friend" members in the hopes of supporting a community); however, it is an option only. We allow prospective members to simply put "No" or "N/A" in those spaces and you will still be approved. The overall reason for the questions is we like to do our very best to verify females are joining. We welcome all input and attempt to hold the fine line between invasiveness and security.
Posted by Lezzbook on January 19, 2011 at 7:39 PM · Report this
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At least the fee for this advertising-disguised-as-news went to charity.
Posted by Functional Atheist on January 19, 2011 at 9:12 PM · Report this
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It's sad that this site specifically discriminates agains men. It's never OK for me to say that a group is for men only (although I suspect Gay men might try it) but perfectly OK for a group of women to say the same thing. It's discrimination pure and simple. My lesbian friends and relatives are all out and proud on Facebook so it's not an issue (and I have zero interest in the dating section) but I think it's sad to throw out people because of their gender rather than their behavior. Have we learned nothing?
Posted by jenesaisquoi on January 20, 2011 at 8:08 AM · Report this
timtech 11
Spent most of the ride to work yesterday talking about this weeks cover story of The Stranger. The general consensus of the girls I was talking to feel that http://www.lezzbook.com/ is nice in theory but probably going to do them more harm than good. Hopefully they are wrong.....but I don't think that they are.
Posted by timtech http://www.twitter.com/timtech on January 20, 2011 at 10:09 AM · Report this
timtech 12
@8 Please note - Its 2011, discrimination based on sexual preference is a lousy business model.

Also, the fact that I have to be a member of your site (which is impossible as I have a penis) in order to read the disclaimer about your site is just stupid.
Posted by timtech http://www.twitter.com/timtech on January 20, 2011 at 10:14 AM · Report this
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I understand there is a lot of controversy regarding "discrimination" and the website. When Mark Zuckerberg created Facebook originally for "Ivy League" schools was he called out for discrimination? The dating website EHarmony doesn't allow for women seeking women or men seeking men on their dating website are they discriminating? There are Catholic and Jewish Social Networks- are they discriminating? The NFL is only comprised of male players - are they discriminating? I guess you can say yes to all of the above. I am curious as to why a straight man or gay man would even want to be involved in a gay women's network? After reading in the article the premise behind the conception of the network it was clearly identified as more of a community resource for women. For discussion though lets say we did open it up for all- the site would loose the very nature it was founded on- to provide a "safer" forum for women to communicate with other women who have the same sexual orientation. If men were allowed to join it would loose its basic premise. Whether we like it or not a large percentage of women who are "out" on such sites as Facebook are harassed because of their sexual preference- after the first instance of harassment most "out" women lock down their privacy levels and blend into the "straight" population. There really is nothing like getting a FB message touting the wonder of a mans penis and how if we just tried "HIM" the proverbial "man" would switch us back to the straight team. So, with the privacy levels up the once openly out female is now undetectable to her fellow lesbians. Its not like we all have rainbow hair and we post "LESBIAN" across our forehead. This is the reality of the world we live in. Hence Lezzbook.com. A social network where we women know EVERYONE online is a woman that loves other women. No guessing. No wondering. Everyone on the site has the same basic premise. Further, Jim from work who's been curious about your social life can't log on and see your latest photo selection from The Dinah Shore vacation you took last year. Regarding gay men I have also begun a creation of a brother site; however, there are numerous social networks in existence for them. I can't help but think of atleast 5 mainstream social networking websites that both men and women can join. There is no shortage of those. Those networks allow for everyone to participate and the women who are lesbians and who are able to be "out" and feel comfortable more power to them. Nonetheless, not every out women on Facebook has a great experience as indicated above. Just as you have made the sweeping generality of discrimination regarding men and the website many lesbian women feel that as well. Instead of simply not being able to join a social network they have their livelihoods taken away because they are "outed" at work or they are sexually harassed on the street or in a dance club and consistently worry about their safety. This occurs with gay men as well so in no way are we not recognizing our gay brothers. The above actions, don't happen to the average straight male. One of the basic premises of the site creation was to deter the continuing discrimination and online harassment lesbian women feel on the internet on a daily basis. To join or support the site is a choice. Lezzbook.com was created because there was an overwhelming need within the lesbian community for a women's only site. What we do is simply offer an alternative to the "mainstream" social network websites. In the creation of the site there is no overt discrimination intended same as only male players being allowed in the NFL- if men could be lesbians we wold welcome them with open arms. Lezzbook creates a needed niche allowing women a unique space which encourages them to "be themselves" without judgement, ridicule, or sexual harassment and that is the purpose of this endeavor.
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Posted by Lezzbook on January 20, 2011 at 11:01 AM · Report this
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If somebody had purchased the cover article and chose to print a story about comparing moral decay of society to the rise in acceptability of homosexuality, or a viewpoint of a criminal or terrorist organization such as the aryan brotherhood or tea party, would that have been ok? And if not, why is this?
Posted by Verisimilitude on January 20, 2011 at 11:18 AM · Report this
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Hey Lezzbook: do you have an email address/contact info for people who like what you're doing and want to contribute to Lezzbook?
Posted by strezo! on January 20, 2011 at 11:48 AM · Report this
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Lezzbook: do you have an email address/contact info for people who want to contribute to Lezzbook?
Posted by strezo! on January 20, 2011 at 11:53 AM · Report this
shootthehostage 17
Bearbook.com is better. It's for gay bears. But, they totally allow girls, as long as the girls don't mind look at fat naked hairy men.
Posted by shootthehostage http://www.shootthehostage.com on January 20, 2011 at 12:44 PM · Report this
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Is it just me, or are Stranger readers harsh about everything? It's bulding community not discrimination. E-Harmony and other sites are very straight/heterosexual focused, why can't there be lesbian specific online spaces? Geezus!

One question I do have for Lezzbook:

There is a rising number of transmen in the communtiy that identify in lesbian space. If you were raised as a woman, are attracted to women, but identify as a man now, can you join lezzbook? (As queer/lesbian women might be that person's primary dating/socializing community).

Cheers!
Posted by J Mase III on January 20, 2011 at 12:45 PM · Report this
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Furthermore as a Black person I have joined sites specifically for African-Daispora to connect. Why? Because I want a site with articles, people, stats, information, etc. on things going on in my community. Some of you are taking this extremely harshly. The creation of Lezzbook, Adam4Adam, AfterEllen, etc is not straight bashing. It's just the acceptance that in an imperfect society, sometimes various groups that are not heard in mainstream spaces get a place to talk where you don't have to second guess what you're sharing, or who will see it. You can just be around like minded, like-experienced, you like to look at people.
Posted by J Mase III on January 20, 2011 at 12:52 PM · Report this
lawdog 20
@timtech,

What is this sense of entitlement you have?

Do you not realize that people have the "right" to communicate with whomever they choose?

A social networking site is not usually a business endeavor to those who are socially networking within it.

Sheesh, it has NOTHING to do with you and that just hurts doesn't it?
Posted by lawdog on January 20, 2011 at 1:08 PM · Report this
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Have you people never heard of the Shriners? There are plenty of fraternal order clubs that do not allow women. Eagles, Elks, Freemasons, etc...

How is this any different?

Posted by Why do you want to join a lezzy club, anyway? on January 20, 2011 at 1:41 PM · Report this
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This is a good idea, 'discrimination' or not.. Glad to see it gaining ground and proliferating.

I would really wonder though, how they can possibly hope to keep men or anyone else out if they don't actually require any sort of 'proof' to become a member. (Personal info like cell phone # or facebook name is encouraged but not absolutely necessary to be approved.. regardless, that could all be faked easily enough). What can they really do to verify? Check between your legs? No, transgender people are allowed too. So what is really stopping anyone from joining just by lying?

The bigger issue is that it's a shame there even needs to be this type of exclusive place, to be 'safe' from everyone else. If society was just a bit more tolerant everyone could be out and proud on facebook and not have to suffer for it.

I imagine someday people will look back on this place in time, like many others, and wonder at the persistent barbarity of our society and our infantile state of affairs. Our technology has outpaced us, our tools are so advanced but we as people are evolving so slowly, socially we're so stunted, it’s sad, really.
Posted by Starmartyr on January 20, 2011 at 2:06 PM · Report this
piojin 23
lezzbook is everything I hate about being a lesbian.
Posted by piojin on January 20, 2011 at 2:41 PM · Report this
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Remember that year when one guy won all the auctions and the entire issue was just about him? I kinda liked that year.
Posted by Chester Copperpot on January 20, 2011 at 4:01 PM · Report this
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Hello, for those of you that have inquired and would like to contribute via Paypal or otherwise and speak with us on a one on one basis please feel free to use the email address lezzbook4u@yahoo.com.
Thank you again for your interest and support! It is greatly appreciated!
Posted by Lezzbook on January 20, 2011 at 4:43 PM · Report this
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@lezzbook and others. Legally, private groups can do whatever they want and discriminate in any way they choose, by age, gender, orientation, etc. However, just because other "mainstream" groups/sites are bigoted doesn't mean that lezzbook should follow. I also reject the idea that any non-normative group has to go away and form a protected space to be "safe" by discriminating against groups perceived to be anti-whatever because they are white, male, straight, etc. I am disappointed that any group that has experienced discrimination would turn around and discriminate against anyone else. It seems the height of hypocrisy.
Posted by jenesaisquoi on January 20, 2011 at 5:06 PM · Report this
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Due to the nature of my job, I am not able to be out. I LOVE the Lezzbook idea, because it allows me to meet other women in a private setting. Lezzbook, I wouldn't listen to the idiots that have NO clue what it's like to live this way and continue to bash a GREAT social network. I hope your site becomes one of the top social network sites for lesbians everywhere.
Posted by Forbes500 on January 20, 2011 at 8:28 PM · Report this
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@ 24

I TOTALLY remember that guy! What ever happened to that dude?
Posted by presently out on January 20, 2011 at 10:05 PM · Report this
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For being in Seattle, a lot of these commentators really hate the idea of straight men being excluded from anything. Seattle, if you had half a clue about compassion, there would not be a need for sites like Lezzbook.

I am disappoint.
Posted by suddenlyorcas on January 21, 2011 at 6:19 AM · Report this
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Lezzbook, are you prepared to be sued by Facebook for trademark infringement? Check out the banner announcement on Lamebook.com for further info. Not saying that Facebook should sue you, just that they are likely to.
Posted by Not Facebook's lawyer on January 21, 2011 at 10:39 AM · Report this
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I don't even have to read this article to know what "Lezzbook" is all about.

It is really sad, the way mainstream culture will suck all the vitality and originality out of what once was an actual thinking/breathing movement.
Posted by fanta@ on January 21, 2011 at 10:44 AM · Report this
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@Notfacebook'slawyer: The problem with the Lamebook lawsuit isn't so much the word "book" in their name, it's the fact that the logo they were using was very similar to Facebook's logo.
Posted by suddenlyorcas on January 21, 2011 at 11:07 AM · Report this
kerfuffle 33
I don't get why people who would otherwise have no interest in joining Lezzbook suddenly have their undies all in a knot because they can't. Really? Who cares? I can't go into Club Z or Steamworks because I have a vagina and that's super ok by me because I would rather gnaw my own arm off than entire either one of those establishments.
No reason to stir up a bunch of imaginary controversy over nothing.
Let the girls have their clubhouse.
Posted by kerfuffle on January 21, 2011 at 11:52 AM · Report this
kerfuffle 34
I don't get why people who would otherwise have no interest in joining Lezzbook suddenly have their undies all in a knot because they can't. Really? Who cares? I can't go into Club Z or Steamworks because I have a vagina and that's super ok by me because I would rather gnaw my own arm off than enter either one of those establishments.
No reason to stir up a bunch of imaginary controversy over nothing.
Let the girls have their clubhouse.
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Posted by kerfuffle on January 21, 2011 at 11:57 AM · Report this
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Yawn.

TheStranger.com is already pretty close to this, what with all the vegan nonsense and Mudede communist apologia.

Hell, Dan Savage's columns sound like their written by a middle-aged lesbian these days.

Who wants to design a start-up with me called Cockbloq?
Posted by SleepingWithNannyState on January 21, 2011 at 2:12 PM · Report this
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On a side note, the name Lezzbook yes similar to Facebook had a totally different creation and in no way was simply conceived as a "Wow Facebook is so popular- let's just put Lezz in front of Book and go with it" Actually the name Lezzbook was derived of an actual address like book I once owned that comprised all the women I had made friends with or wanted to date. I called it my Lezzbook or book of lesbians. I happened across it when I was cleaning out my garage and made a mental note. So, when I wanted to create this online lesbian community and a friend of mine and I were brainstorming I thought what better name then Lezzbook. All of you Facebook fans please know that the only similarity Lezzbook has with Facebook is name alone. Lezzbook prides itself on having real content, articles, events, a dating and travel division, interviews with celebrities, and more privacy features. One factor in Lezzbook's inception was because Facebook was not working for a certain element of the population. Women wanted more privacy and the ability to go to a site where everyone was on the same "sexual orientation" page. In making the statement, "We would like to be the Facebook for lesbians." was meant only in the recognition of the sheer number of members Facebook has. Lezzbook would love to have 1 million women members simply for the fact of what a wonderful community that would be! Further, on our "Disclaimer" page we have very clearly stated the Lezzbook.com is in NO way affiliated with Facebook.com and that Facebook.com owns the copyright to their name and website. If you look at websites like "Lamebook.com" they are using actual Facebook content, logo, etc. Lezzbook.com in no way condones this type of business model.
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Posted by Lezzbook on January 21, 2011 at 3:26 PM · Report this
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To Question #18 - if you were genetically born a women who has changed to a man yes you can join. If you were born a man and identify as a women you can join. The overall premise behind the site is that it has been created for any women that loves other women. So, in one instance you are genetically a woman who has transformed to a man and identifies in a "lesbian" orientation. In the other instance you were born a man but identify as a women and identify in a "lesbian" orientation as well. The key being the "lesbian" orientation. In both instances we encourage in the "About Me" section that you disclose this information; nonetheless, it is not mandatory. Although I have noticed in the member approval process that a lot of members do. Further, in the "Group" section we have the "TransGender" Group for women or men who are or have gone through a gender transition. The overall idea is community.
Posted by Lezzbook on January 21, 2011 at 4:16 PM · Report this
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@32 The lawsuit involving Lamebook is actually based on Facebook's demand that they stop using the word "book" in their mark, as well as the overall look of the site. They (Facebook) have gone after other social networking sites using the word "book" as part of those sites' names so whatever Lezzbook's intentions, they may want to seek legal advice.

http://techcrunch.com/2010/11/05/lameboo…
Posted by Luckier on January 21, 2011 at 4:30 PM · Report this
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Wait, this is for real? I laughed my ass off, somehow thinking I was reading an Onion article, until I got to the comments....
Posted by Ivan on January 21, 2011 at 6:56 PM · Report this
Lee 40
I'm not terribly offended by the "no men" rule here, and I agree with Beth that most straight dudes with honest intentions wouldn't even be interested in joining lezzbook in the first place. But as a reader of The Stranger, I feel entitled, perhaps unjustly, to find it stupid.

I mean, let's face it: unless we're looking between people's legs or decoding their DNA, our definitions of gender or sex are going to be loose at best, tortured at worst (see #37). The premise they begin with doesn't eliminate ANYONE who is a potential harasser or troll on the site. It just defines precisely what fibs they have to tell to get in the door.

Anyway, I agree that a dating site for lesbians that is free of the "hey baby, you're only a lesbo cuz you haven't had a real man" idiots is a great idea... but banning people who admit they are men is a terrible way of creating a safe space for those women. Having a robust moderation system that is capable of identifying offenders and quickly banning them would be far more useful. As another commenter said, ban behavior, not people. And that could include, I think, any men looking for dates... but just banning men period opens you up to the sorts of accusations running through these comments.
Posted by Lee on January 22, 2011 at 2:27 AM · Report this
slade 41
Groupon, the social buying site that spurned a $6 billion offer from Google, is pushing ahead with plans for its initial public offering, a debut that could value the company at $15 billion or more.

They are working hard at creating the next .com bubble melt down? Builder Bob says "Can We build it? yees wee Cannnnnnns"

Lez love Lez t-shirts Lez e-cards lez ball caps?
like a 7 year old with a pond of bubble gum eyes crossing as the bubble grows.
Posted by slade http://www.youtube.com/user/guppygator on January 22, 2011 at 4:39 PM · Report this
echizen_kurage 42
Oh man, I'm torn. On the one hand, I could use more dating opportunities (or at least more free lesbian erotica) in my life. On the other hand, the name "Lezzbook" is beyond tawdry, as is this whole "advertising masquerading as journalism" thing. On the other other hand, the money did go to charity. Hmmm . . . maybe if the Lezzbook spokeswoman learns how to use paragraph breaks . . .
Posted by echizen_kurage on January 22, 2011 at 5:19 PM · Report this
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@38: It may have started with the word "book" but seeing as how facebook doesn't (and CAN'T) own the word "book", that whole mess turned into lamebook not having a different enough logo from them. That is the only reason why it's been taken as far as it has. Facebook doesn't have a leg to stand on otherwise.
Posted by suddenlyorcas on January 23, 2011 at 10:03 AM · Report this
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#42. LOL.. Yes, I can learn to use paragraph breaks just for you!
Posted by Lezzbook on January 23, 2011 at 11:01 AM · Report this
venomlash 45
I told my bisexual girlfriend about this. She refused to comment.
Posted by venomlash on January 23, 2011 at 7:40 PM · Report this
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Lezzbook, just keep doing what you're doing. It's a GREAT site!

BTW- You are beautiful!
Posted by Forbes500 on January 23, 2011 at 7:46 PM · Report this
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I know of another website that has much more content and celeb interviews than this site plus much more. theseattlelesibian.com has news stories and coverage of gay and lesbian issues in the PNW.
Posted by WSeattle on January 23, 2011 at 8:03 PM · Report this
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It's a Gay! Dating! Website! with a degree of social networking to it. You are missing out on nothing if you're a dude. If you are up in arms over this, I hope Grindr sends you into as much of a rage, but I know it doesn't.
Posted by lilechka on January 23, 2011 at 9:54 PM · Report this
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Anyone offended by this is retarded.
Posted by Amanda on January 23, 2011 at 11:45 PM · Report this
onion 50
what 49 said.
Posted by onion on January 24, 2011 at 5:16 AM · Report this
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She seems creepy. Why did she have to BUY this story? Why didn't she get it from her work if it's so good?

This whole thing reaks of desperation. Not going to check it out. Waste of time if you ask me.
Posted by Jacqui Martin on January 24, 2011 at 8:11 AM · Report this
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This makes total sense. No lesbian is ever friends with a man. Further, the far right (Republicans, neo-Nazis, etc.) want to remove gay and lesbian people from normal society. This is so awesome that finally the Christian right is getting its way!
Posted by DavidDuke on January 24, 2011 at 10:07 AM · Report this
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sexist pigs!!
Posted by penisowner on January 24, 2011 at 10:32 AM · Report this
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I'm a dude, and I'm fine with this.

People need some perspective on what "discrimination" means. Not being able to everything you want is not discrimination. People have a right to choose who they associate with, unless and until their choices have a direct, negative effect on other people. A city requiring black people to give up their seats on a public bus is discrimination, because that person has been humiliated and inconvenienced. A group of women socializing is hurting no one. It's essentially equivalent to the right of free assembly.

Our sense of fairness usually makes us (rightly) queasy at the notion of excluding someone, especially based on race, gender, etc. However, Lezzbook seems more like constructing an inclusiveness, than exclusion, to me.

"Community" does *not* mean "everybody." If some group of women gains a sense of community (and gets something that they want out of that sense of community), then that is a real benefit. It would be lost entirely if the boundary of that community was not preserved. They have every right to their privacy, and to their mutual choices to exclude men from their club.

Now if they used that club membership in ways that did harm people (men *or* women) that would be different. But we see no evidence of that here, and so I presume innocence.
Posted by nuh_uh on January 24, 2011 at 11:11 AM · Report this
Unregistered User 55
Intersex?
Posted by Unregistered User on January 24, 2011 at 4:11 PM · Report this
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@jenesaisquoi and anyone else bitching about "discrimination" because some people want to create what they feel to be a safer space - get back to us after you have experienced overt discrimination (job, accommodation, daily life), gay-bashing, personal abuse or homophobic trolling before saying there is no need for such a space.

If you're privileged enough not to have experienced such things, or fear them, how wonderful for you. For many other women, that is not the case - you have no right to dictate what makes people feel more secure.
Posted by Trix on January 24, 2011 at 11:44 PM · Report this
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As a man, I am offended by lesbians denying my access to their sexy, sexy lesbian porn. That's discrimination! Lesbian porn should be available to all!
Posted by Caralain on January 25, 2011 at 1:01 AM · Report this
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You are right Trix - I have no right to say anything. I wish I could stay and express my sincere apologies but I have to leave for my Christian hetero-monogamous misogynist racist white men who rule the world meeting so that I have a safe place to express my true feelings and discuss how to maintain my privilege and continue to tweak The System to personally ruin your day.
Posted by jenesaisquoi on January 25, 2011 at 7:48 PM · Report this
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If you don't like the idea of Lezzbook, then don't join. And if you are a guy who really wants to join Lezzbook..why would you go where you are not welcomed or wanted?
Posted by santacozz on January 26, 2011 at 12:31 AM · Report this
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By the way...there is another website out there...rhymes with ShmezzMonnection...it's a total and complete rip-off of Beth's website...no creativity whatsoever....
Posted by santacozz on January 26, 2011 at 12:34 AM · Report this
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canvas prints
Posted by annonymous on January 26, 2011 at 8:32 AM · Report this
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Who ever posted the last comment is going to be held accountable for libel. This is the second time I have seen these exact words. I have already contacted the stranger. This will be pursued.
Posted by RD on March 21, 2011 at 9:02 AM · Report this
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To all guys who earlier commented here..
Straight or not, here is a different perspective.
We all in heaven, earth or hell knows that a penis is made for the vagina and vice versa. So why would a lesbian queen allow a penis to enter her kingdom of vaginas that she wants all for herself?
Dont you guys get it?
She is just keeping hold of what is "apparently" hers.
So, juz give her the Dicks up and buzz out of here.
To all lesbians out there, you should know nothing will stimulate your insides like a penis. And, is there something your gay friends can do that we cant? We have fingers and tongues and fists and foots.. Lol.. I havent heard of nipple penetration.. Haha If you even want that, dont worry, many guys too have large nipples..
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