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Any way for this woman to get in touch with BiDanFan?
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Does "the Lifestyle" exist in Europe too? Might be some parties she could attend.
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Second the recommendation for Feeld from one unicorn to another. Couples looking for a unicorn vastly outnumber available unicorns. My experience with the app was positive! Most of the couples I talked to were respectful, discreet, and patient, not to mention really hot! I kept the first "date" to drinks only, so I wouldn't feel pressured and could feel out the situation. Then scheduled a hookup after deciding the chemistry was good, they weren't creepy, and I wasn't going to end up in the middle of someone else's relationship drama. Good luck!
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RE @1: Hah! 24 is a bit young for me, alas.

"I know you call people like me unicorns"
No. Bicurious women are not unicorns. Single bisexual women who have sex with a male/female couple are unicorns. BI says she's open to this, but also open to one-on-one girlsex.
Also, bicurious women in their 20s are NOT rare.

There are plenty of bi women and couples on OKCupid. BI should have no problem finding what she's looking for.
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I'm so sick of the 'teehee I think I'm a unicorn but don't really know! Can you explain it to me by telling me how unique and awesome and desirable I am?'

OP you're 24, bicurious, and living in a major city, I think you can manage to find a lady and get some.
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I'm so impatient with young people nowadays. It's the "I'm experiencing something that nobody else has ever heard of! I must be so unusual" kind of thing. I feel like growing older is partly about realising not only that you don't know everything, but that you're also quite normal, and many other people have already experienced whatever you're going through.
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Gonna add that that "bi" =/= "unicorn." "Bisexual" = "attracted to both genders." "Unicorn" = "interested in having sex with a male-female couple (often with a pillow princess not-really-into-chicks-but-I'm-a-"Cool-Girl" as the female partner)"
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@6 I thought that finding other people like yourself was a benefit to living in the Internet age. OK, sure...at 17, maybe you're limited to your choices of action. But, at 24, hopefully you've experienced much youthful indiscretion.
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Obviously this woman in interested in having sex with another woman and I'm not questioning that at all, but I was surprised by Dan's comments on lesbian porn. I recently saw a survey in which the overwhelming majority of straight identifying female respondents said they prefer watching lesbian porn over straight porn, most often because it tends to be more focused on female pleasure while (in their collective opinion) straight porn tends to be more focused on male pleasure.
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Another recommendation for Feeld from my boyfriend and I (based in the UK too). We've had varying success with this - first swapping dirty talk with a woman who wanted to dirty talk and then having a threesome. We also recommend Fab Swingers in the UK (try to ignore your cringe-o-meter with the site name). You can set your profile so only people that interest you can contact you - i.e. You can exclude single men from contacting you. You can set your sexual / kink preferences. It's good, pretty respectful and although it sounds a bit naff it has a relatively robust verification system (users can verify each other after meets, or online cam sessions etc). We have met quite a few men and women from there and have thoroughly enjoyed ourselves!
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Londoner bi here too and there really are options out there. BI can try Skirt Club that's actually set up for bi-curious women (though I have so many issues with the word and) heard good things from femme, bi interested friends, though it never appealed to me too much. Killing Kittens would be another somewhat female friendly swinger night/orgy, lots of solo women go to figure out whether they are into this or not.
OK Cupid definitely a good start, and you can get really deep into the preferences you have.
There are also lesbian parties if you are good in this type of setting (google Aphrodyke and places like Bar Wotever, Dalston Superstore etc.)
And for exploring kink maybe Sparkle Hard or After Pandora.

Incidentally we have a lot of fun with threesomes with my partner and a proper unicorn (into in both of us) is always welcome but sadly I'm not in the UK again until May :))
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Actually, Feeld is a stinking pile of broken garbage.
They outsource their messaging to a third-party service (for some reason) that was out for a looong time and no one did shit about it. Not sure if it is fixed already, got tired of waiting.
Also location is buggy and there is almost no one there.
You'll have better luck on conventional Tinder, girl. Trust me.
Or, if you're into that slightly narcissist angle - swinger sites. They look like geocities from the 90s for the most part, but there are actual live people there, and boy oh boy are they waiting for you.
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I live in an American Midwest city with about a million people in the metro area. Fiancรฉ and I had no luck on Feeld. On top of that, it was really buggy and the messages just didn't work for a while. I also used Op3n which was similar, but we actually had a few conversations with it. Nothing more than that.

But, we did use a kink dating app called vanilla umbrella. It's not like tinder. You can send messages to anyone, which I prefer because you can learn a lot about someone by their initial messages. Anyway, this app had a WAY smaller pool than the others but it actually worked out so far. We've been seeing a lovely woman for about 2 months.

I would suggest checking out vanilla umbrella cause it has the added benefit of meeting people that are kinky (of that's what you're into). But to be honest you're a single woman in her mid 20s so you should have a line of couples waiting to woo you no matter how you choose to meet people.
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Dang, I need to get on those apps! Maybe the ol lady will finally be happy

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