This week's non-sex stuff that is still kind of sex stuff because, you know, healthcare relates to sex:
- Sean Spicer Thinks You're Dumber Than a Trump Staffer
- Meet the Not Queer Capitol Hill Resident Behind the "Keep Cap Hill Queered" Mural
- John Oliver on Vaccines
- CBO Report On Senate Health Care Bill: 22 Million Will Lose Health Insurance
- The GOP Healthcare Plan Will Kill Thousands (But, Um, So Does Obamacare)

Sex stuff:
- Two Imperfect Marriages, One Nosy Friend
- Dating Advice for a Single Mom
- One Asshole Move
- Straight Man Offended by Teen Boy Catcalling Him
- Last week's Savage Love.
Last week's Savage Lovecast.

Before we get into reader responses, here are the results of the poll I ran re: the straight guy offended by a teen boy catcalling him:

A lot of you agreed with me. Will. Wonders. Never. Cease. Now on to reader responses...

First, a follow up from OVER:

The day you published my letter and your fucking spot on response, my wife had a fakedown/breakdown and took a few days to sort through her thoughts. She decided to stop fighting for me—since she wasn't loving me right—and let me go. (She remains unaware of the letter.) Dan, my life is 100% brighter. The divorce is happening quick, she's buying another house soon, I'm buying the house from her, parenting will we shared, and.... I got on Tinder and found a woman who is into me in a sexy times way, and I'm meeting her today. Since we both have our attorneys and have a tentative divorce date, I think it's ok ethically to go forward with Hot Tinder Friend. I am so fucking excited to be done proper. Dan, you're a big part of these breakthroughs for me. Thank you!

In response to MOM:

This is less advice and more words of encouragement for "Mother Open2 Men" (Jun. 27th Savage Love letter of the day). The situation she describes—"I'm a newly single mom [of a daughter], I'm 40, I'm at my sexual peak and I want a partner, a long-term life partner"—was basically that of my current partner when I met her. How did she meet me? Online. In fact, we met on a site for those looking for NSA sex. (While we both eventually wanted long-term life partners, searching for one with that frame of mind wasn't working out for either of us, and so we were looking for something casual in the meantime.)

She did not mention that she had a daughter right away (in her online ad), which makes sense (especially on an NSA sex site). She told me soon after we connected, during the week of emails we exchanged before meeting each other IRL. I wasn't necessarily looking for someone with kids, but I figured that at my age, some of the women I was going to meet were going to have kids, and that that was part of the deal. In any case, we finally met in person, had wonderfully crazy sex, ended up falling in love with each other, and we have been living together for many years. And, I have become a stepfather to her daughter, which is basically the best thing that has ever happened to me.

So, just know, MOM, that some men in this world do see a mom and think "flirt with her." Even skeezy guys looking for NSA sex. Because some of those guys might end up being the kind of guy who wants to commit to raising your daughter (well). I'm a very happy stepfather now.

Feedback for ALONE:

Hi Dan: I've been an avid fan for years, love your advice, and just recently read the letter from ALONE, a 25-year-old gay woman searching for a girlfriend for the past two years (May 31). I realize that her Harry Potter reference was just for illustration, one instance when a conversation with a potential girl friend went awry. But I wondered why, she being "in literature," she had not read Harry Potter. I am a retired journalist who has read "good" fiction from Nathaniel West to Dostoyevsky, but also a fair smattering of Louis Lamour and Daniele Steele. And years ago, when someone in the newsroom asked me why I had read Harry Potter I said: "I wanted to know what all the fuss was about."

I read the first three books to give them a fair shake, and have watched the first and second movies. Your advice to Alone was spot on. It is difficult to meet someone, anyone, but condescension is almost always a deal breaker, whereas curiosity almost never is. ALONE might not actually like Harry Potter, but she might really love the girl who does.

And in response to the Lovecast:

Thank you so much for your advice in episode 556. As a fifteen year old I feel like there is a huge lack of helpful information on how to be a none asshole and still get laid or have a relationship (thanks for nothing abstinence based sex Ed). All the kids in high school getting laid are assholes which is exceptionally frustrating as a "nice guy" just sitting on the sidelines. And because the assholes get laid (not because they are assholes but because they are attractive) boys get this idea that being a dick gets you laid and become jerks. Although I knew all the things you said conceptually, It was nice to hear it all laid out so well.

All of this is to say: WISH YOU COULD TEACH SEX ED AT MY SCHOOL!