In a sea of white-guy-does-stand-up shows, Rhea Butcher and Cameron Espositoâs SeeSo series Take My Wife has been a welcome deviationâand the best depiction of gender in comedy Iâve ever seen. For the comedy power couple, thatâs by design.
âRhea and I had the chance to design our show so that it reflects our real life,â says Esposito. âBecause we were writing a show that centered on two characters who were both women and both queer, we felt that there was enough diversity between just different womenâs experiences.â
So Butcher and Esposito, who perform together at Revolution Hall this week, committed to filling their writersâ room with womenâonly women. In season two, 43 percent of those writers were also women of color.
âEssentially, we were making a workplace comedy,â says Butcher. âWe were hiring women because they have experiences in that workplace.â
The showâs depiction of that workplace is sharp and accurateâboth a highly specific glimpse into Butcher and Espositoâs real lives, and an examination of what itâs like to be a woman comic in an industry thatâs historically privileged men. Take My Wife keeps things relatively lightâitâs never a downer to watchâbut it also doesnât ignore reality. One of the best episodes of season one shut down the bad-faith debate over rape jokes by cleverly skewering a male comic who tells an unfunny joke about sexual assault on Butcher and Espositoâs show, prompting several women to hide out in the bathroom for the rest of his set. The problem isnât that he told a joke that mentioned rape. Itâs that he couldnât read the room and did it thoughtlessly.
âAs comics, of course, no topics are off-limits, but certain approaches are not great,â explains Esposito. âItâs about the joke, so make a better joke.â
With SeeSo slated to cease operations later this year, the future of Take My Wife is uncertain. Thatâs a shameânot just because itâs a great show about gender and comedy, but because itâs one of the best shows out there, full stop. Women frequently are tasked with identifying with men in order to watch any number of TV shows. But for one season, it was such a treat to watch a show that didnât ask us to make that particular leap, but instead proudly centered on the experiences of women, queer folks, and people of color. Esposito and Butcher couldnât comment substantively on the future of their show, but regardless of whether itâs picked up elsewhere, one thing is clear: Theyâve already shown that comedy can be as inclusive as youâre willing to make it.