You are possible the only person in the world who could actually give me advice on this.

I am a 33-year-old bi female involved with a married couple for the past year. We spend all our time together and they are the best friends I've ever had. Recently I've been feeling guilty about the situation due to the fact that "our relationship" has turned into two separate relationships. She and I havent had any kind of intamacy in 7 months; he and I have sex at least once a day. She never has been all that sexual with him or me and sex has always been kinda on her terms and her basis. She still has sex with him once in a while so now I feel it's only me she doesn't want to be with. I don't like feeling like I'm having a affair with a married man. It was diffrent when the sex was shared and enjoyable for everyone. I have tried to talk with her about this but she hates talking about emotional things.

It's killing me and I cant sleep. We all share the same bed and when I lay down I feel like I shouldn't be there, like I'm the third wheel. Things are not the same but I know that feeling "normal" does not pertain to this situation because things were never normal to begin with. I don't have anyone to talk to about this so I'm reaching out for any advice you have. I know she loves me and I LOVE her but I can't continue to act like everything is okay.

Killing All Emotions

My answer after the jump...

Forgive me for this: maybe she's just not that into you, KAE. Or maybe she's just not that into you sexually. Or maybe she's just not that into sex generally. Who knows? She does, most likely, but she's not talking. Which means you can either reconcile yourself to the way things are now—she's one of your best friends, you share a sex partner and a bed, but she's not your lover—and stay in this relationship(s), KAE, or you can go.

Those are pretty much your only options, KAE. It's not great advice, I'll admit, and just about anyone could've come up with it. Even Prudence. But since I really don't have any more info to work with here than you do—I don't know what's up that bitch either—it's the best I can do.

But here's a lovely parting shot: the fact that you're involved with a couple—even this particular couple—is of less concern to me than the fact that you don't have anyone in your life that you can talk with about your relationship. Being isolated is always bad, KAE, and if these two are isolating you somehow—if they don't allow to speak with anyone about your relationship—then you should end this thing immediately.