SL Letters of the Day: Feedback, We Get Feedback...
by Dan Savage
on Mon, Feb 27, 2012 at 3:35 PM
I am a long time weekly reader, as well as a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints. I grew up with your column. I can’t tell you how many times you’ve put something into words that I couldn’t figure out how to say myself. I have always looked to you as someone who, above all else, strives to spread love and acceptance. So, you could understand how I was upset by the end of your column this week regarding baptism of the dead. There are inaccuracies in your representation of this LDS practice that have the potential to alienate readers who, like me, come from within dogmatically charged faith communities, but still look to you for wisdom and guidance. These baptisms aren’t conducted to “choose Mormonism for the deceased,” but to offer them the option, should they be interested. Really, it’s all very democratic. Feel free to disagree with us about what we actually believe. Please, do not help idiots spread stereotypes. There is enough of that already.—Lame, Dan Savage
First, thanks for all the great advice over the years. Even if I don't agree with you all the time, it's always entertaining and informative. This week's column really hit home, as two of the letters could've been written by me. I was stuck in a sexless marriage for quite a few years. She gave the same "promises" that LOST's wife gave him, and after we were married she decided she was asexual. A somewhat expensive divorce later, and I'm MUCH happier. And I agree 100% with what you said to LAME—he needs to forget that girl.—Hope He Listens
I am married to a great women who was a little boring sexually. Her idea of trying something new was to try a new position. For a couple of years I have been curious about pegging. Lately it has been more of an obsession. However, I couldn't think of a way to talk to my wife about it without her reacting negatively. That all changed one day when she was reading your column and someone mentioned pegging in a question. She asked me if I knew what it was. I said no, but let's look it up. We did and she asked me point blank if I would be interested in trying that. I couldn't believe my good fortune. I said I would be willing to try it if she wanted. Well she did, so we did. It was unbelieveable for both of us. Thank you so much for bringing a topic up that I was to scared to. I know now that my wife is up for new things, and that she isn't boring sexually, and I owe it all to you. Thank you again.—Happy to be Pegged
Hi Dan. Big fan. I came up with this limerick this afternoon while I was wanking about:
A frothy and slippery mixture Was named for a Republican fixture. When he finally comes out There can be no doubt That some guy will say, "Wipe off your dick, sir."
You and Ellen are my favorite fags.—Squishies
Thank you for putting "Christian" in quotation marks when you mentioned the bigots lobbying against protections for LGBTs in Anchorage. It doesn't seem like much, but it really does mean a lot to me that you know we're not all awful people. On behalf of those of us who voted no on 8, love our gay, trans, and kinky neighbors, lobby for a woman's right to make her own reproductive choices, AND love Jesus Christ (and live by HIS words, not those of commentators who lived and wrote hundreds of years later...)—The Only Sexy Acronyms I Could Think Of Didn't Make Sense