by Jen Graves
on Tue, Jun 26, 2012 at 11:06 AM
Unlike Dan, I can't give a simple thumbs-up/thumbs-down opinion of porn, and I'm certainly not going to use sketchy science to further judge a woman who has been publicly insulted by a dude who is not entirely unlike the asshole Republicans who still run things in many parts of this nation (and who are lately trying to assault my reproductive rights like almost never before in my lifetime).
So yes, given the choice between Sandra Fluke and pornography, I'd choose Fluke.
But the fact is, I don't have to choose. I can like some, but not all, porn. I can be chilled by some of its scenes and its symbolism, and I am not going to ask science to answer the age-old, unanswerable question of how and when catharsis works, as opposed to when it fuels fucked-up fantasies. I'm just not sure that framing things in the starkest possible terms—-porn good! Anyone who says otherwise is an uptight sex-hater!—helps to fix this shame-based culture we're trying to fuck happily within.
All of which is just to say that if you're a lady or a man having a kind of complicated experience out there, you're not necessarily doing it wrong.