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Monday, July 23, 2012

Savage Love Shorter "Savage Love" Response

Posted by Dan Savage on Mon, Jul 23, 2012 at 8:26 PM

Your point about "destructive criticism" in this week's "Savage Love" was spot on. However, you probably should've told her that by "be creative" her husband means "put your finger up my ass."

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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fbGkxcY7Y…

Posted by venomlash on July 23, 2012 at 8:43 PM

Go Team Surprise Anal!

Posted by EclecticEel on July 23, 2012 at 9:39 PM

It seems so obvious now...

Posted by ozchick on July 23, 2012 at 9:47 PM

Are you still providing marriage counseling to Mr and Mrs Cruise?

Posted by kinaidos on July 23, 2012 at 9:57 PM

Now that'll spice things up for him. He'll never accuse you of not being creative and spontaneous again.

Posted by OutInBumF on July 24, 2012 at 12:53 AM

And if he's been particularly snotty, wear a nice pointy ring on that finger.

Posted by Optimal Cynic on July 24, 2012 at 4:55 AM

@2 LOL !

Posted by sissoucat on July 24, 2012 at 5:26 AM

I had a gf do that to me once - with the best of intentions, and I've been a big fan of it ever since.

Posted by smajor82 on July 24, 2012 at 5:33 AM

Long after we'd broken up (but in a friendly way), I had an ex ask me if we could try that. I was like "WTF, why are you asking me?" His response was a heartfelt "You're the only woman I know that I can trust with something like that."

I think it's a measure of how fucked-up I am that I thought that was incredibly sweet.

Posted by JrzWrld on July 24, 2012 at 7:51 AM

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OqagwkzUD…

Posted by BrotherBob on July 24, 2012 at 8:25 AM

Don't be frontin', #9, that's incredibly sweet and anyone can see it.

Posted by Dr. Jonnybones on July 24, 2012 at 10:21 AM

Hey - I said that in the original comments!!

Posted by Tor on July 24, 2012 at 11:26 AM

I suggested that back when that was a LotD. Everyone keeps acting like it'd be a good way to "get back at him" or something, but it strikes me as entirely plausible that it's what he's hoping for in the first place. He wants to try butt stuff, but he's too embarrassed to ask for it. He knows every other issue of Cosmo suggests sticking your finger in your man's butt when you blow him, so he vaguely hints at wanting something new in the bj department.

Because hey, if it was her idea first, he won't have to worry about her worrying about him being gay, right?

Posted by Ben on July 24, 2012 at 11:47 AM

Could be a good time to try sounding too. See "Two kids, one sandbox" for inspiration. ;)

Posted by JRob on July 24, 2012 at 3:31 PM