• KEEP THE LIGHTS ON Love hurts.

Heartening sign of the times: The kickoff of the official Seattle Lesbian and Gay Film Festival is a week away, and we've already got two extraordinary films by and about gays hitting the big screens at regular old cinemas.

SIFF Uptown's got Ira Sach's gritty love story Keep the Lights On. From my review:

The film's plot is set in motion when Erik, a thirtysomething Danish filmmaker living in New York, meets Paul, a twentysomething lawyer with a girlfriend, via a phone sex line. A month or so later, they meet again, and a 21st- century love story is born....Keep the Lights On covers nine years, 1999 to 2008, during which the increasingly methy Paul subjects Erik to an array of mind-fucks—from long, unexplained absences to blatant adultery—always making clear that a huge part of himself remains walled off from the man who loves him. Erik's love for Paul is a mystery, involving a masochism that's left as unexplained as Paul's hunger for oblivion. But it all makes for a series of riveting scenes, which director Sachs captures with maximum naturalism. Nothing is off-limits. We see hot fucking, shitty fucking, agonized processing, and the type of degradation that feels like it should be fatal. This is a grim film. It's also fearless, and it captures a chunk of American life that hasn't shown up in cinema until now.

IN THE FAMILY Killing you softly.
  • IN THE FAMILY Killing you softly.

And Northwest Film Forum's got Patrick Wang's maximally minimalist drama In the Family:

Writer/director Patrick Wang stars as Joey, an Asian American in Tennessee, where he was raised and now lives in quiet domestic bliss with his male partner, Cody, and Cody's young son, Chip, from a previous marriage. All of these facts are presented with a minimum of exposition—we simply watch Joey, Cody, and Chip go about their days, with the audience accumulating dramatic facts while eavesdropping on quiet conversations over morning cereal and rides to school. When biological father Cody is abruptly removed from the picture, the suddenly single Joey is cast into the hell of the legally unaffiliated same-sex partner: denied access to hospital rooms, shut out of the family, and physically and legally estranged from the boy he's called son for seven years. You might picture melodrama: waiting-room breakdowns, screaming fights about injustice and what makes a family. You will not find such scenes in In the Family, which adheres to a lifelike minimalism that is cumulatively stunning....his story could have fueled a preachy exposé on the legal horrors confronting gay couples and the desperate, dramatic need for marriage equality. In Wang's hands, it's a nearly three-hour, deeply subtle snapshot of a fully complicated gay life. Rarely is a film this stylistically audacious also this humane.

Full review here. Movie times here.