Dr. Scott Broadwell planned a romantic birthday getaway in Virginia for his wife Paula Broadwell but their time there was cut short when the media revealed FBI findings of an affair between Paula and former CIA director David Petraeus. Though Scott has made no public statement regarding the extramarital affair since it first surfaced to the public on Friday, ABC News reported that the radiologist and father of two might have a hard time forgiving his wife and moving past the whole incident.
Here is a great place to bring up my position on crying. Can you imagine the husband, a grown man, crying in front of his wife after learning of the affair, learning that the general has been fucking her behind his back? Can you really picture that? Crying in the presence of the person who betrayed you? He would look utterly helpless, hopeless, and sorry. With tears in his eyes and hurt in his voice: "You fucked the general. How could you do that to me." No, this will not do.
We know the husband cannot hit her—violence is much worse than crying. So, what are the options? Talking about it? Yes, that's better than crying. But even if you express your feelings well, there is always the danger of being dragged into a dreary Strindbergian drama—shouting, slamming doors, interrogating, demanding details: "Did he fuck you in our bed? And how did he fuck you? From behind? Did it feel good? Did you like it more than when I fuck you?" This sort of thing is pointless and unproductive.
What about silence? Saying nothing? Never even giving her, the one who betrayed you, the pleasure of knowing how you feel? Need I say more? Keep silent, keep it to yourself, never let a word out, and always say to your hurt heart: This, too, shall pass.