Don't blame yourself or your partnerâblame the fact that you may not have one. Anna Pulley writing at Salon:
If youâve been one of the countless people searching in vain for the elusive Gräfenburg spot (aka the G-spot) or wondering why you arenât gushing like Old Faithful each time someone makes a âcome hitherâ motion in your vagina, then search and wonder no more. Once lauded as a âmagic buttonâ and the ultimate female pleasure enhancer, an Italian scientistâs recent report claims once and for all that the controversial G-spot is nothing but a myth (with a really good PR campaign). The studyâpublished in the journal Nature Reviews Urology by Emmanuele Jannini, Professor of Endocrinology and Medical Sexology at Tor Vergata University of Rome, Italyâfound that, essentially, the G-spot is just a sensitive area thatâs part of the larger pleasure center that includes the vagina, clitoris, and urethra, or as the study sexily put it, the âclitourethrovaginal (CUV) complex.â
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Janniniâs most recent work on the G-spot hype does alleviate some of the sexual pressure faced by both men and women. We can now safely put away our magnifying glasses and ignore the sex advice that would have us attempting sign language in our partnerâs vaginas (unless, of course, you enjoy that). While clitourethrovaginal complex is much harder to say and spell than old Ernstâs term, itâs interesting to know that the female pleasure region is not limited to any specific spot, but instead functions as a team that all works together to make your face contort like that. In other words, there may not be an âIâ in âteam,â but it appears there is an âO.â
I've spoken with a lot of women who swear by that "come hither" motionâand who require precisely that kind of stimulation to get off and/or to squirtâand I find it hard to believe they were all deluded.
Now I haven't dug into the G-spot literature lately but I'm pretty sure no one was arguing that the G-spot was a stand-alone organ, like a bonus kidney or something. So I'm not convinced that placing the G-spot on Team CUV disproves its existence. Couldn't the G-spot (a location, not an organ) be one part of a larger clitourethrovaginal complex with some women deriving more pleasure from its stimulation than others? That some women experience intense pleasure from having this one particular part of their CUV complex stimulated seems no more remarkable to me than the fact that some men derive intense pleasure from having their balls played with or their taints licked. (The balls and taint, of course, are both important parts of the peniurethroballsackinal (PUB) complex.)