Rep. Jim Himes: Trump Will Attack Anyone and Everyone—Except One Particular Someone

Another great clip from this morning's hearings...

Make Sure Your MAGA-Hat Wearing Relatives Watch This


On Monday, FBI director James Comey testified in front of the House Intelligence committee as part of Congress’ ongoing investigation in the matter. Before his testimony, the committee’s ranking Democrat Rep. Adam Schiff (CA) laid out of all of the circumstantial evidence that has built up so far connecting the Trump campaign to Russian state actors seeking the intervene in the election. Schiff emphasizes in his opening that he is drawing only on public reports, not all of which have been confirmed. His opening statement, however, is a good summary of everything that has come out so far.

GermanSausage is right: your Trump-worshipping, MAGA-hat-wearing, immigrant-bashing, Obama-fearing (still!) relatives aren't going to change their minds. But make 'em watch it anyway. And this too:

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Savage Love Letter of the Day: You Heard It Here First, Cousin


So I am dealing with some issues right now that I don't know how to handle. I'll start with the basics. I'm a 34-year-old single-ish straight male and I have been in a very close intimate friends with benefits relationship with a 28-year-old polyamorous bisexual girl. We have definitely had our ups and downs, the main ones being that I want to formalize the relationship whereas she wants it to remain exactly the same. We also have some sexual problems that come up from time to time where she loses her libido for sometimes months at a time. During those times our relationship remain very sexual without any sex acts occurring which leaves me sexually frustrated because it feels like I'm constantly being teased. But, those issues aren't what I'm currently writing about.

So a couple of weeks ago, after almost three months of constant teasing with no sex I got fed up and ended the relationship. I stayed away for a week until my frustrations calmed down and went back to her and she welcomed me with open arms and lo and behold her libido is back and things seem a bit more normal.

When I returned however I noticed all of her sex toys out and she told me that while I was away she decided to explore her dominant side by using her toys on a guy. We've never been exclusive So that by itself didn't bother me. But, while telling me about it she was rather vague about who it was but said it was someone she knew. She is normally more open about her exploits So I thought it was strange that she would hide that info from me. She is also a homebody and doesn't hangout with anyone besides me and her male cousin who is close to her age. That got me really suspicious that she might have hooked up with her cousin.

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Savage Love: Wishful Kinking

Joe Newton
I went to Dark Odyssey Winter Fire, the big kink hotel takeover event in Washington, DC, in February. There was one thing I saw there that is messing with my head, and I hope you can set me straight. There was this lovely little six-person orgy going on with two cute-as-could-be hippie girls and four older dudes. Then these four people came along. They sat and watched—a guy and three women in hijabs and dresses that went wrist to ankle, fully covered. After a while, one of the hippie girls turned to them and said, "I'd be happy to flog you later if you'd like." The three women in hijab giggled. The whole scene was really sweet, but I just couldn't get over these three women. I saw them walking around all night, taking it all in. Intellectually, I know there is no reason to think that conservative Islam is incompatible with kink. But my cultural biases make me feel that it is. Or is it possible that covering is their kink? What would you make of that?

Washington Kinkster Wondering

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Savage Love Letter of the Day: Reader Advice Round-up


On the podcast this week, I started off with some calls from Melania supporters who called me a cockbite and my wife a skank. But it wasn't just the Savage Love voicemail (and my Twitter) that got spammed by Trumpsters over the last week. So here's some of the abuse that landed in my long-suffering email inbox. (Skip down if belligerent hate-mail isn't your thing. But if you're like me—if the impotent rage of homophobes fills you with glee—I've bolded some of the really good nasty bits. Enjoy!)

You are a stupid Seattle moron!!! I am so glad I moved from that crappy Seattle because ppl like you are taking that dirty city over! You and your kind are like a rat in Downtown Seattle Underground and as smelly too. Seattle is full of Libatard crooks stealing money from the tax payers to pay for illegals and line their own pockets! Wish Seattle would just be bombed and we would be a better nation w/o idiots like you around Trump will take you down soon enough

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More Traditional Republican Hypocrisy


The Oklahoman:

An Oklahoma state senator offered money to a teenage boy for "sexual stuff" and was found with him in a hotel room that reeked of "raw marijuana," authorities said.... State Sen. Ralph Shortey, 35, and the teenager admitted to police they had engaged in conversations "pertaining to sexual activities in exchange for money," a police detective wrote in a court affidavit for a search warrant. The affidavit only identified Shortey as R.S. and the teenager as H.L., but Mashburn has confirmed that Shortey is the adult under investigation. Both names were redacted in the police report.... Police were told the teenage boy had a history of drug abuse and "soliciting himself on Craigslist for sexual conduct." Police launched the investigation after being called by the boy's father, who had been contacted by his son's girlfriend.

Ralph Shortey is a family values conservative because OF COURSE he's a family values conservative. He's also a big Trump supporter—he had dinner with Donald Trump Jr. the night before he got caught in a hotel room with a teenage boy—and has backed anti-trans "bathroom bills" in Oklahoma to protect women and girls because OF COURSE HE HAS. The Daily Beast has more on his record...

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A Grateful Nation Salutes You, Former McDonalds Social Media Manager


The company says it was hacked... but the tweet was deleted pretty quick. Buttsore Trumpsters immediately added a #BoycottMcDonalds hashtag to their growing collection of buttsore hashtags (#BoycottStarbucks, #BoycottOreos, #BoycottNetflix, #BoycottOscars, #BoycottAmazon, #BoycottApple, etc.).


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Protesters In Nashville Chant "Bless Your Heart" at Asshole Trump Supporter

This is how Nashville does it: chant "Bless your heart" at Trump supporters until they shut up.

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And former Stranger staffer and awesome human being Megan Seling posted it to Instagram so we could all enjoy it.

Savage Love Letter of the Day: Too Drunk To Swing


My husband and I are newlyweds who have been together for almost five years. Over the course of our relationship, we have discussed the potential of bringing other partners into the bedroom with us. Recently, we decided to go to an event for couples and single women. As this would be our first foray into this type of experience, we set up some ground rules prior to the event—primarily, no penetration or oral sex.

The event ended up being smaller (and decidedly more intimate) than we had anticipated and we ended up relying a little too heavily on our drinks to quell our nerves. We met a great couple and chatted with them for a while before deciding to make our way into the playroom. Amidst the initial kissing and light touching, those nervous cocktails suddenly rushed to my head. Apparently, my husband and I had a conversation in which we decided to forego our previously established ground rule of no penetration. Though he went forward with this and had sex with a new partner (both vaginal and oral), I ended up in the bathroom unable to keep the liquor down before any sex occurred with the man I was with.

In the morning, I was upset. He informed me that I had agreed to forego our ground rules in my drunken state. Now, I feel incredibly confused. I’m hurt—but I can’t tell if I’m hurt because I feel left out (after all, I was going to engage in sexual intercourse as well before the alcohol decided to intervene) or if I’m upset because I was too drunk to be making the decision to abandon the rules (he claims he was pretty drunk as well during this conversation). Either way, I know I don’t have any justification for feeling hurt—but I can’t seem to shake it.

I’ve been the proponent for bringing other people into our sexual experiences, but he’s the one who ended up acting on it. Did I bring this on myself? We clearly went about our first swinging experience all wrong—the alcohol being our biggest mistake. We’ve talked about the incident and he feels badly—but ultimately doesn’t feel to blame because I gave the go-ahead. I want to resolve this, but I’m having a difficult time not feeling resentful of him. Please help.

Was Hazily Objecting Oral / Penetrative Sex

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Maddow Says She Has "Trump Tax Returns" (UPDATE: They're From 2005—Now Let's Watch Maddow Together!)

I'm old enough to remember when Kellyanne Conway said Americans didn't care about Trump's tax returns and didn't want to see them. Hm. Maddow's announcement has been retweeted 15,000 times in less than 10 minutes. But we'll have to wait and see what Maddow's ratings are like tonight—that's when we'll find out just how little Americans care about Trump's tax returns.

Oh, to be a fly on the wall in the Oval Office right now. Seriously. And here's hoping "We've got Trump tax returns" means the same thing as "We've got Donald Trump's tax returns." I'll be pissed if they're talking about Tiffany's tax returns.

UPDATE: A text from a friend: "THIS IS THE KENNEDY ASSASSINATION OF OUR GENERATION. 'Where were you when Maddow tweeted that she had Trump's tax returns?' OMFG." But... she didn't say they have Trump's tax returns. She said they have "Trump tax returns."

UPDATE 2: Not Tiffany's. Donald's. But they're twelve-year-old Trump tax returns...

UPDATE 3: So... let's watch Maddow together! Donald Trump's 2005 federal tax returns were obtained by investigative journalist David Cay Johnston of He'll be on soon to talk about how he got his hands on this "federal document," says Maddow. But first... Maddow is going to walk us through the reason why presidential candidates have been releasing their tax returns since Nixon got caught cheating on his taxes, and the bullshit reasons Trump has given for not releasing his tax returns.

Over at the White House... they rushed to release info about Trump's 2005 taxes before Maddow went live:

The White House says President Donald Trump made more than $150 million in income in 2005 and paid $38 million in income taxes that year. The acknowledgment comes as MSNBC host Rachel Maddow says she has obtained part of Trump’s 2005 tax forms. The White House is pushing back preemptively, saying that publishing those returns would be illegal.

They clearly have all of Trump's tax returns over the years at their fingertips. So why not release them? Why not release his tax returns from last year?

Anyway, Rachel is seizing the opportunity to walk us through all the amazing reporting she's been doing on Trump, Russia, Pence, Flynn, oligarchs, flipping mansions to Russian billionaires, online petitions, etc., etc., etc. She reading out the entire indictment.

Here's Johnston. He says the pages he provided to Maddow—two cover pages, essentially, from Trump's 2005 federal tax returns—show us how much Trump made that year but not how he made it. We don't know his "sources of income," says Johnston, and that—his sources of income—is what we really need to know and what we have, as taxpayers and voters and citizens, have a right to know. And we need to know for more recent years than 2005. Because... who does our president work for? Who owns him?

Maddow sums it up and puts the Trump White House on notice: "The story here is that we have obtained this—and that this stuff is obtainable."

Clearly they're hoping the emergence of Trump's 2005 tax returns will shake loose returns from subsequent years. Here's hoping.

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Savage Love Letter of the Day: Help! He's Fallen Down The Wrong Clickhole!


I had an embarrassing thing happen a few days ago and figured you'd be a good person to ask about it. I've been Google imaging porn for a while now—just when the mood strikes. (I have a couple of go-to porn sites, but looking through Google just gives me, I guess, a little more variety.) Anyway, the other day I was Google imaging what I've always been into, which is SSBBW and the like (facesitting/fat skinny comparisons, etc). One click led to another and suddenly I was on a page that appeared normal... but at the bottom it had a statement from Google saying "three images have been removed from this page that contained child abuse, report child abuse."


I've never seen that EVER. It was terrifying, to say the least. I quickly erased my Google history and preceded to have a panic attack that's been going on for days now. I guess my question is: Am I implicated in something illegal now? I talked to my wife about it, she thinks I'm going a little overboard, but it's very upsetting to me! None of my fantasies involve anything like that and I just feel sick to my stomach that I even came close to seeing something that, from my admittedly Luddite perspective, was only on the "dark web," of which I know nothing about and prefer to keep it that way.

I guess I'm done Google imaging porn forever. But, as a person who suffers from depression/anxiety, I just can't shake the feeling that I'm in some sort of trouble (not to mention just seeing the word child abuse when I'm doing a routine porn search has got me freaked out). I mean, I didn't even SEE anything incriminating... but still, I'm just very upset. What do you think, Dan?

Super Emotional About Right Clicking Habits

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Savage Love Letter of the Day: Trump Killed His Wife's Libido


So let me start with saying I only started listening to your show in January of this year. Love the show and being on the road a lot for work, I have listened to about 75 of your podcasts.

First is political, I had a rough time last year volunteering to get Clinton elected after changing my registration from Republican to Democrat. I just wished I would have listened to Episode 500 before today. Your explanation of Green/Libertarian/etc. only running for president would have been a huge help in conversations I had last year. And taking over the grassroots campaign in my area, I love hearing I'm not the only frustrated—albeit new—Democrat. Though I live in a county where 75% of the votes went to that pussy-grabbing, Putin-sucking orange shitbag.

Second is follow up from the election. My wife, the self-described flaming liberal, women's rights activist, and every other leftist label you can give, had and is understandably still having a very difficult time. The eletion—all of last year—was a highly emotional time for us. We got married, we hosted her brother's wedding (who in turn blamed us and my mother-in-law for ruining it), there was a legal problem with a family member, and then the election and inauguration. You can imagine. I pushed her and she finally agreed to see a psychologist.

As newlyweds, our sex life diminished because her brother and his fiancé (at the time) were living with us for several months between our wedding and theirs. We both work full time and there's continuing emotional trauma due to election and family drama. I do as much as I can short of tying her up (which I would like to do) and fucking her until neither of us can walk. But when I raise the issue she turns me down, says we'll do it later, or has a meltdown which makes me feel awful for even wanting sex. I feel terrible pushing the issue but sex once a week (max) for over a year has me humping the couch. What do I do? Or am I being a dick?

Horny And Restless Dick

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CBO: 24,000,000 Americans Will Lose Health Insurance Under Trumpcare



The House Republican plan to repeal and replace the Affordable Care Act would cause 24 million people to lose health insurance within a decade, the nonpartisan Congressional Budget Office said on Monday. Republicans had been bracing for what was almost certain to be a bleak accounting of the legislation’s projected effects. The American Health Care Act, as Republicans call their bill, was already facing widespread criticism from providers of health care, some conservatives, and a united Democratic Party. The numbers released Monday will only make it more difficult for Republicans to explain why their legislation would bring positive change to the country’s health care system.


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Savage Love Letter of the Day: Lonely Unicorn Looking for London Ladies


Okay, it has been literally years since I first wrote to you.

I'm now 24, no longer a virgin, and I'm living in London. I've slept with long-term boyfriends and had my share of DFMOs. Fairly sure I'm not a lesbian, but am somewhere along the spectrum of being interested in women. I know you call people like me unicorns, but I'm not quite that. I've always wondered what being with a woman is like, and I think I'd like to explore that. I'm looking for a woman or a couple to help me explore these w4w tendencies. I've never seen advice that quite applies to my situation (particularly the first question):

1. How do I find people looking for the above outside the US? Ideally anonymity at first is important, as I'm very nervous and would need some contact before meeting them.

2. What are the precautions I should take? I've contacted a couple of people on Craigslist, but don't want to end up in a ditch somewhere. At the same time, I'd rather not tell real life people.

Bicuriously Inclined

I have some suggestions, BI, but first, here's your original letter from 2011:

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Do What The Urbanist Says

More, please.
More, please.

Just want to quickly second The Urbanist:

The first public hearing on the Downtown/South Lake Union Rezone is 6pm Monday (March 13th) at City Hall, and we encourage you to testify.... Urbanists have been doing a better job of making their voices heard during the rezone process that will unlock the Mandatory Housing Affordability (MHA) program–inclusionary zoning in the common parlance–as evidenced by the passage of the University District Rezone last month. But we need to keep the momentum going! However you feel about how the details of MHA ended up shaking out–some have argued the affordability requirement is too high and others too low—if you support making Seattle an inclusive city able to grow more equitably surely these MHA rezones are a good first step.