I just wanted to say thank you for printing my question, and for your great advice. When I went to the Stranger's website and saw my question it was perfect timing as I had already set up a meeting with the ex the following day, so I just brought a copy of our local alternative paper and handed it to him. "This is what I wanted to ask you." He thought it was so awesome he said he's going to frame the column! He also agreed quite readily to participate. He wants to hang out with my boyfriend and I once or twice so he can get to know him better and feel more comfortable, but it shouldn't be too long of a wait. We're all three really excited about it.

I've always been a big fan of your column and almost always agree with your perspectives. Honesty is important in a relationship and I don't think long-term monogamy is very realistic. So many advice columnists and therapists still think of non-monogamy as this big taboo, and I think a lot of people would have healthier, longer-lived relationships if they could simply embrace the idea that variety can be a good thing.

Anyway, I don't want to prattle on too much because I know you have a lot of emails to read through. I just wanted to thank you on behalf of all three of us, and I'll definitely let you know how it turns out. :)

Need Some Abuse

Thanks for lovely note, NSA, and I'll pass your thoughts about non-monogamy and healthy relationships to a good friend of mine who believes that only men are ever interested in variety. He needs to know that women like you exist.