This was a great example of pulling Dan's chain - the amazing part was he bought into the "story" ...

Let me say something for lonely old men. We get horny too. I'm sorry if some of them trick you into a blow job. But men are hardwired to get what they need or it drives them crazy. They will work very hard to do whatever it takes. So beware. But don't be unkind. A "no thanks" will suffice.

idk, doesn't seem that far-fetched a scenario to me...

sound advice though.

Totally tell him that you don't want to see him again, because he turned out to be a liar and you found the lying to be a major turnoff. You don't even have to mention his dick, he knows what he lied about.

Also, next time it becomes that obvious that someone has lied to you, pack up your T-enhanced clit and go home.

OK, this GGG transman letter writer may identify as male, but giving two orgasms to a lying sleazebo? That was DEFINITELY please-the-other-at-cost-and-risk-to-oneself girl behavior. Honey, you don't get ANYWHERE in life, whether you transition or not, by letting people behave badly to you. So stop it, K?

@1, the only way this scenario seems crazy is the last bit: "do I owe him an explanation?" What kind of person thinks that after being lied to?

Then again this person was going on craigslist looking to get "DRILLED" and convinces himself that a couple of email exchanges are enough to weed out the serial killers...so Iono. Just sounds like a rather silly (i.e. slightly dumb) person.

If you're an adult enough to solicit strangers for no strings sex I'm pretty sure you should be adult enough to handle this situation on your own.

Or... literally go fuck yourself.

Just a tip for girls. If this ever happens to you try NOT giving him head at all, much less twice!
the reason this dipshit will try this again and again, with pleasing results for himself, is largely due to him thinking his behavior is WORKING.

Odds are that if when he first showed up looking older and like shit, if he would have been given a nice "thanks but no thanks" he'd maybe think about why it happened. He might even start with say, taking that old photo down.

too many subpar douchebags with tiny dicks get away with lousy sex because they get zero feedback from the girls who are either too shy/confused/trying to be nice/obsessed with coming across as sexpots and fake it, or just try and hold their breath hoping for the best. This aint helping. not helping you get good sex, and not helping the guy learn how to have sex. and it definitely wont help the next well-meaning chick he lies his way into bed with.

@6 - you'd be surprised.

It's constantly amazing how women twist themselves into pretzels to find fault with themselves when the only one at fault is the guy.

Maybe if she sent back pics of Perez Hilton breastfeeding pit bulls ...

"Don't be unkind," Vince? What in the world makes you think someone lying and "doing whatever it takes" to meet their own needs deserves kindness?

I disagree with Dan. Seattle seems to be particularly adept at not holding people accountable for poor behavior, kvetching about it to everyone but the perp and otherwise being passive in the face of aggressive disrespect. My advice is that the tran man should tell the guy he's a liar, sees the whole incident as a mistake and demands the liar never contact him again. If he continues to bother him, well, there are gun stores. Hold the asshole accountable - make him read in plain English why he should be ashamed.

Carry on.

@ They were soliciting sex. This wasn't a bank transaction. They were both doing whatever it takes. He lied about the size of his dick, not his bankroll.

@11 - most gun stores also serve customers in Spanish.

Thought you might like to know that.

Maybe it was seven inches flaccid.

Woohoo! I advised you to come back to LA for some sun, and you did. Isn't it a fantastic day here here? And every single day is like this.

I mostly agree with the advice, except I think that by ignoring him you are letting him off far to easy. You already made the mistake of giving him sexual satisfaction for his lies, the least you can do is now give him a nice ego-bruising. Tell him that you do not want to hear from him again because he misrepresented his physique, stamina and skills, and you have no interest in weak-dicked liars.

@14,

With a weight hanging off of it.

@17 some people are into that. So I hear.

I side solidly with @4, 11, & 16 : Be honest and tell him what you think. It's more than giving two blowjobs & getting lame sex in return that encourages folk to keep lying, it's not being told point-blank why they are no longer on your booty-call list. Say it straight. More and better communication.

Vince: the fact that you are attempting to make the letter-writer sound as guilty as the guy who lied about his age, dick size, and sexual experience is actually pretty revolting. "Doing whatever it takes" isn't okay when that means lying and cheating your way to an orgasm. There's plenty of free porn out there for old, ugly guys with tiny dicks and no skill in the sack.

Or maybe you could win someone over with your personality. Or maybe pigs will fly out of my ass.

At age 20, you've still got years ahead of you before it finally sinks fully in that 95% of what guys say and do online is complete bullshit and fantasy wish-fulfillment.

Regarding migraines, there was some interesting research out recently which indicates that taking "a single high dose of aspirin (up to 1000 mg) can work as well as a lower-dose prescription drug". I tried this recently when I felt one coming on, and was pleasantly surprised to find that for me in that particular instance it worked and basically aborted the episode. Your mileage may vary.

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Vince, you're pretty pathetic. As a gay man in his late forties with gray hair, a bit of a pot belly, a slower build up and longer recovery time than in my sordid youth, I find that as long as I tell the truth and keep a sense of humor, I have no problem at all getting laid. By hot men of all ages and interests. Not being a lying asshole is the first step to getting what you want.

@27 All I suggested was saying "no thanks". He had sex with the guy. If he doesn't want anymore, there's no reason to be mean about it. It wasn't a sexual assault for craps sake. As others have stated, people stretch the truth to get laid.

I still don't know why you got into a sexual position with him when just looking at him was obviously such a turn-off, let alone making him come two or three times.

Very confused. I thought a transman was someone who had gone from woman to man. What's he doing with a clit?

I have to agree with Vince. By going through with it after realizing the guy was lying, AWOL forfeits the right to be righteously indignant. Chalk it up to a learning experience and move on, but if his lies weren't enough to stop AWOL from fucking him, he doesn't get to be all angry about it after the fact. Shit happens, don't stress it too much.

@18: Did you say "so I hear" or "chandelier"?
http://www.thestranger.com/slog/archives…

Dan, if you're in the passenger seat of a car going on a windy road, AND you're carsick, AND you have a migraine, what the hell are you doing checking your email and responding to someone's letter? Seems to me you might feel better (and possibly give better advice) if you didn't actively make yourself sick.

@30 plenty of trans men never try to get a penis surgically created for them. I'm unsure of how they look externally, but the kind of penis that can be placed on a transman is not a fully functioning one. It doesn't get hard and doesn't feel pleasure like a penis. Hormonal treatment makes the clitoris grow (unsurprisingly, as the clitoris is the female penis) and I've heard that some transmen even manage to have modest penetrative sex with them. Hope that helps

Dear AWOL,

Send him one of these and you'll never hear from him again.

@ 30- a 'transman' may have anything from a clit (original plumbing) to a full-on-had-bottom-surgery-penis. ...And all else in between!

Check it out!
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Transgender

@ 33 - Reading and responding to letters from doormats makes the pounding in his head particularly exquisite.