She needs to understand that he doesn't give a shit about her. The pregnancy is incidental to that central fact...she seems to think it should make him care. That's not how men are wired.
It is a shame that those who need to learn an important lesson cannot be reached for it. The lesson being that men who fuck homeless teenage girls are rarely any good in any kind of crisis.
@7, why go to the police about this? Sorry, more important things, and the problem is solved (at least for the writer of this IA). Lets leave the police to handle matters of actual public safety. As it is they are already overoccupied shooting deaf homeless people, busting potheads, and getting unlicensed massages just to say no to the happy endings.
That's why they make birth control for women too.
You are an irresponsible, stupid little bitch who carelessly made a baby with an irresponsible asshole without a single thought about the innocent life you were about to create and then destroy. Fuck you!
@8 Why go to the police about this? Um, maybe because he's not just an asshole, but an asshole who takes advantage of underage homeless girls? Maybe...?
Vince, birth control methods other than sterilization are not always 100% reliable. How do you know the "irresponsible, stupid little bitch" wasn't using a method which failed? Ever have a condom break? Forget a pill? Discover a diaphragm has a pinhole or tear? Have a hormonal flux that affected the efficacy of an implant? Apparently not.
Hell, even sterilization doesn't always work 100%. Even without human error, sometimes shit just happens.
@7, 10, if anybody should report this guy to the police, it should be her, or the guy's next unerage GF, nobody else. Lets see, she's gotten pregnant, aborted in the 2nd trimester, recovered, and written this. The time has long since passed, but if she really wants to get revenge, I'm sure she could still do something.
If she sees him somewhere with a new girl, she should find an opportunity to talk to the new GF, tell her what happened, and leave it up to her.
Jesus, Vince. She's a kid. She just learned one of the hardest lessons there is to learn, and you don't even have a frame of reference for it. Are you Loveschild in disguise?
schmacky @5: Respectfully, you're full of shit. Men are not "wired" to not care about the women they impregnate. That this guy is an irresponsible jerk does not prove that all men are irresponsible jerks.
Vince @9: On behalf of every screwed-up kid who's gone through something like this, I have to ask: What the hell is wrong with you? You're an adult -- why are you picking on some kid who feels angry and abandoned because someone she (foolishly) loved and trusted turned his back on her? And on top of that, you're guilt-tripping her for having an abortion?! She's a teenager! Either grow up or pick on someone your own size.
I know someone who was in his mid-20's and went for a vasectomy. Male doctors seem to loath the thought of a young virile man not wanting to breed. He SUPPOSEDLY did the operation but wouldn't you know? A few months alter his wife got pregnant. They just marked it off as a fluke until she got pregnant again. By that time, they decided to round it off at 3 and then he got the vasectomy to end all vasectomies. No, the wife did not cheat on him.
So Vince,
You might want to check the attitude towards her, mate.
The first time I had sex (16, I think) I was young and stupid (and horny) enough that I tried to convince the guy to fuck me without a condom (we were having trouble finding one, and I was impatient). The one good thing about that man turned out to be his absolute insistence that there was no way we were screwing without one.
Yes, I was an irresponsible, sheltered, naive moron to even think having unprotected sex would be okay. I recognize that now - but at the time it was simply a case of being old enough to know I wanted sex but not seeing that I could be young and cool and wild while still actually caring about protection. Ah, kids.
You have an amazing heart for children. From you I learned of Treehouse and the foster children it helps. I hope there is/are children out there who have the good fortune to know you.
I'm hoping behind your expressed frustration is the understanding that the one who got impregnated, perhaps while using birth control or not, and had an abortion is a child too. A teenager, but still a child.
@7, why go to the police about this? Sorry, more important things, and the problem is solved (at least for the writer of this IA). Lets leave the police to handle matters of actual public safety. As it is they are already overoccupied shooting deaf homeless people, busting potheads, and getting unlicensed massages just to say no to the happy endings.
You are an irresponsible, stupid little bitch who carelessly made a baby with an irresponsible asshole without a single thought about the innocent life you were about to create and then destroy. Fuck you!
Hell, even sterilization doesn't always work 100%. Even without human error, sometimes shit just happens.
@16,
Nice double standard, asshole.
If she sees him somewhere with a new girl, she should find an opportunity to talk to the new GF, tell her what happened, and leave it up to her.
Vince @9: On behalf of every screwed-up kid who's gone through something like this, I have to ask: What the hell is wrong with you? You're an adult -- why are you picking on some kid who feels angry and abandoned because someone she (foolishly) loved and trusted turned his back on her? And on top of that, you're guilt-tripping her for having an abortion?! She's a teenager! Either grow up or pick on someone your own size.
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If I were her, I'd do more than piss in his shoes...
So Vince,
You might want to check the attitude towards her, mate.
Yes, I was an irresponsible, sheltered, naive moron to even think having unprotected sex would be okay. I recognize that now - but at the time it was simply a case of being old enough to know I wanted sex but not seeing that I could be young and cool and wild while still actually caring about protection. Ah, kids.
You have an amazing heart for children. From you I learned of Treehouse and the foster children it helps. I hope there is/are children out there who have the good fortune to know you.
I'm hoping behind your expressed frustration is the understanding that the one who got impregnated, perhaps while using birth control or not, and had an abortion is a child too. A teenager, but still a child.