I'm 30, single, male, and straight. I have a preference for petite, small-breasted younger women in their early twenties. My problem is this: I secretly get off thinking about how young they were when I was 18. I don't feel like a pedophile, but I could use a second opinion from someone I trust. Be honest with me, Dan; does this make me a pedo?

Age Is Relative

My response after the jump...

Hm.

If you're 30 and you're fucking, say, a 22-year-old adult woman—a totally legal fuck—and you're thinking about how young that woman would've been when back when you're 18... then that means you're thinking about how the 22-year-old woman you're fucking would've been... um... math is hard! But I'm going to give it try:

30 - 18 = 12; 22 - 12 = 10.

That woman would've been 10—just into double digits—when you were 18.

Hmm.

Are you thinking about fucking 10-year-old girls? If the answer to that question is yes, AIR, then you're a pedo. Absolutely. But if the answer is no—you're not thinking about fucking 10-year-old girls, you're not banging away at 22-year-olds and wishing they 10-year-olds, you're not in any way attracted to children—then you're not a pedo. Obviously.

Doing a little pervy math does not make you a pedo, AIR. Fucking kids, or wanting to fuck kids, makes you a pedo.

So why does this pervy math turn you on? Well, perhaps you're simply turned on by the power imbalance, by the age difference, and doing a little pervy math in the moment makes that power imbalance visceral.

That said, AIR, there are two details in your letter that are making me—and doubtless lots of other readers—go hmmmm: "petite" and "small-breasted." There's nothing necessarily pedo about being attracted to petite, small-breasted women, just as there's nothing necessarily pedo about being attracted to boyish men. You could, like many non-pedo men, simply have a preference for petite, small-breasted women. And, hey, petite, small-breasted women need love too. And your taste in women and your age-imbalance turn-on could just be an awkward, gooseflesh-inducing coincidence.

But when I think about your taste in women—you're clearly into girlish women—and those pervy math games, AIR, it makes me wary of declaring you pedofree. And it makes me want to ask you again...

Are you thinking about fucking 10-year-old girls?