I have gay friends, but that doesn't mean I want to fight for the rights for gays to marry. Before you jump down my throat, my values also mean that I will never/could never support or actively work with anybody who is trying to deny gay couples that right. While personally I am not for it, politically I would not vote against it. And I believe that that's fair. While I believe that two men, or two women can make wonderful parents to a child, I do always wonder about that child. Does the son/daughter of two men ever want a female role model or guide, in absence of an actual mother? This may make me sound bigoted but because I can actually understand marriage in the traditional sense I can stand behind it. But the structure and standard of gay marriage I've seen exemplified on this website is very confusing for me and often contains many contradictions. But like that saying goes, if you don't want gay marriage then don't have one. So I for one will not have, but I won't attack anybody else who does. They can be effective parents, but you have to admit that something is missing. If you want to change the traditional structure of marriage don't be surprised when people are against it. Don't be surprised by the backlash. Expect humanity and respect even from those with dissenting views, but don't expect us to turn around our opinions and long held values to accommodate you.