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102
It seems that the 69 position would take care of a lot of the writer's complaints about eating pussy.
103
Out of curiosity, why is this really important? So far there seem to be reasons why each might be more difficult. Unless one is so much more difficult than the other that it is guaranteed to kill or seriously injure you, this is the stupidest game of one-upmanship I've ever seen. "No, YOU'RE harder to get off!"

(And for the record, I'm a lesbian, so even if eating pussy turns out to be officially more difficult I still don't see myself sucking cock anytime soon. As you were.)
104
this bi girl thinks it's easier to eat pussy
105
personally, I find this question very, very stupid.

As a bi girl, my experience is that most women HATE having their pussy eaten (two out of three ex-girlfriends didn't like it, and it does absolutely nothing for me as well). I think all that hype of pussy-eating-is-oh-so-great is just fueled by straight men wanting a reason to get their girlfriends to suck cock.

Just as much as the urban legend of "most women can only come from having their clit stimulated" - I, for example, can only come from vaginal and/or anal stimulation, which might be one of the reasons why pussy-eating is so boring for me.

So, guys, girls, whatever - just ASK your partner what they prefer. I'd glady take one round of anal sex over ten rounds of having my pussy eaten, and the next guy who is afraid to ask for anal ("women don't like that") and insists on slobbering all over my private parts ("you're a frigid bitch who is afraid of orgasms, I promise you'll love it" - yes, I actually got to hear that more than once!) and boring me to death with it, is in immediate danger of getting thrown out of the window - just as much as the next oh-so-feminist-lesbian/bi-girl who insists that strap-ons and double dildos "are just for pseudo-lesbian-porn made for men".

I am just sick and tired of these stereotypes being promoted everywhere...

And by the way (to return to the original question): I really like giving oral to both men and women. Both is equally fun and equally difficult - and for me, the most exiting thing about it is finding out which stimulation where arouses the partner most... But I ask first, because there is just too many people who just don't like it at all.
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Yeah. I'm glad bi girls are also welcome to chime in, "of course". Thanks, Dan. One day I'm gonna start my own advice column & gank all the fat folks & bi people from here. :/

Why not have another poll, & see how many "invisible" bi people are reading you..? From the looks of the above, it's quite a few. Maybe a curiosity poll that asks how many guys/girls read you, are they mono, mono-ish or poly, partnered/single, kinky/vanilla & gay/lesbian/straight/bi/trans/questioning..? These stats would interest your readers, I bet.

Both activities have their challenges. It's almost like asking which sexual position is easiest, everyone's gonna have a fave for different reasons. IME, it varies more in terms of the recipient being able to relax enough to get off, regardless of gender. Guys (on average) seem to be better about saying exactly what gets them there, & girls (my experience only) have more issues being direct, but usually expressing genuine care & enthusiasm brings happy results for all. Best phrases: "How's that?" "Like this"? Short to mumble, & can be answered with monosyllables, gestures or moans. :D

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There should be a "how would I know?" option...
108
I am a bi man who gassing both. Pussy is harder, biut the pay-off is MUCH better!
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@105 BiGirl,

You precisely adressed the problem and solution of one individual having sex with another. In your case you don't care for getting oral, but love the challenge of giving it. One size will never do in covering all, and the solution is... talking about your wants and needs. So if someone tells you they love the taste and smell of your pussy, would you say no (if they will give you the ass fucking you want because you asked them to)? Compromise and optimize are fueled by communication, and employ the ugliest part of your body to do beautiful things. That being said, getting a partner to talk about what they really want/need in sex is strangely difficult (annoyingly difficult sometimes), and "listening" to their body language is the only recourse (to avoid frustration for all parties). You yourself stated you tire of waiting to be asked for anal, why not do the asking (and the teaching if they lack the experience)?

I don't mean to be critical, only to underscore that open minded communication and boundary pushing are better than fumbling in the dark.

Peace.
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There are too many straight guys throwing the vote here! As a bi-ish girl (I like sex w both but only want to be in relationships w men) I unequivocally think sucking cock is more physically demanding. Sure, it depends vastly on the girl/guy in question--there are certainly guys and girls that take 45mins--but the actual arm/mouth muscle worked involved is much more taxing if you're doing it the way most guys like it, with one hand & mouth on cock & one hand on balls/taint/up butt. You're complaining about bending over and falling off the bed whoever wrote this question?? Do you know how hard it is to give a blow job to a guy laying down? Imagine what you're doing while also pumping one arm up & down? You know how tired your arms get in missionary sex? Now imagine that with one arm doing all the work, your back killing you (because it's impossible to lay flat like one can while eating pussy) and with the same level of coordination in terms of hand & tongue placement/movements required. And we haven't even gotten to deep throating & gag reflexes, things that would never even come up when pussy eating! It's no contest.
111
Phew. I thought I was just doing it wrong. Glad to know others have spent hours down under just like I have.
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@28 and others with this problem:

Drawing your lower lip up over your lower front teeth to protect your tongue may seem awkward at first, and your own facial hair (if any) can still rough your tongue up just a little bit, but it's not even something I have to think about any more: it just happens, and it's way better than allowing your lower teeth to chew you up.
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4) I've only tried one, so I can't really compare.
114
There is no correct answer to this question because there are as many variables as there are types of people. Let's begin with a little pussy eating, shall we? If I'm eating the pie of a beautiful asian woman (petite, well groomed or shaved, with a nice clean pussy) then there is not a lot of effort in getting the job done. She's light enough to put into practically any position and it's not a physically taxing endeavor. On the other hand if you're going down on an over weight woman with a hairy unclean pussy then it's a totally different story (notice the "i'm" eating the petite asian girl and "you're" eating the fat girl).

There are many positions which make eating a nice juicy cunt more comfortable and allow access for your fingers to attack the g-spot with little to no difficulty. So getting into a good position is key, but even that can be a problem because the pussy you're eating might be attached to a woman who has to be in a certain position for her to get off.

The same holds true for sucking cock. An attractive suckee, with a fit and well groomed body and a cock of average to small size isn't all that difficult a task to accomplish. But even sucking that cock can be a chore if the sucker is out of shape. Then you throw in a fat dude with a small dick and no personal grooming it can become quite a chore just to get to the cock to be able to suck it.

In the cock sucking realm there is also the size variable. I know that they are far and few between, but a huge fat cock which requires you to strain just to get your mouth open wide enough to get it in can be a very challenging and difficult experience regardless of the body it's attached to.

Eating pussy vs sucking cock = Tie!
115
eating pussy: physically trickier. sucking cock: more taxing. tie.
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@114 - Reading you talking about eating the "pie" of a petite, well groomed asian woman with a "clean" pussy really creeped me out. And the way you describe the pussy you're eating as being "attached" to a woman. *shudder*
117
Guys' dicks are way easier to bring to climax orally--they just need some friction, it's not complicated for a guy to get off. Plus the physical position(s) of the suck-or is so much easier and more varied. Bringing a girl to climax via oral sex, OTOH, is way more involved: the equipment is just more delicate and detailed, and it takes more concentration, consistency and time to get her off. Plus the lick-or's body position can strain muscles, it's more taxing, because you have to maintain said positions for a longer time.
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@103 I'm with you on this. I don't see the practical implications of the question at all. What's the difference which is harder? Is that going to change our enthusiasm for doing it? We love who we love, and make love the best we can. Besides, for the majority of us, the issue is moot, as our sexual preference is just for one sex. We need bear our "burden" bravely/gleefully.
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Married in MA -- You are a wonderful man. Your wife is a lucky woman.
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@116, I'm sorry to read that your pussy isn't attached to you. Do you ever leave home without it?
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122
So many of these comments seem to focus on giving someone an orgasm via oral sex. Why is orgasm the goal? I always thought that pleasure and intimacy were the goals. Once you are relieved of the burden of "having" to get someone off with whatever it is you are doing, it all becomes so much more enjoyable. Same thing with "having" to get off from whatever it is your partner is doing. In my book, sex is something that people share, not something people perform.
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@122, wise words, ITA.

Answering Dan's question - another bi chick here, and I think eating pussy is muuuuuch harder than sucking cock. I *like* to perform cunnilingus more (I have a strong gag reflex that can occasionally interfere in enthusiastic fellating), but I think it's much more difficult to do properly. Every bisexual friend I've discussed this with has agreed, I'm kinda surprised there have been so many votes for fellatio being more difficult.
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Bi guy here. Both have their challenges and rewards! But I'd say eating pussy is more difficult.
125
I'm a bi woman dating a woman who lets me fool around with guys on the side occasionally. So this past weekend I sucked cock and ate pussy. I voted cock... Using my last experiences as a measure, sucking this guy off left me exhausted and gasping for air (happily!) after rapid deepthroating. Eating my gf's pussy, on the other hand, is comparatively relaxing and easy... My toungue gets a bit tired sometimes, but that's not as hard to deal with as a dick ramming down my throat while I try to maintain suction, keep my teeth out of the way, and not gag.
126
Sucking cock is much easier, because most men are basically Fisher-Price windup toys. Wind 'em up, and they go, basically the same every time. Women are more analogous to the cockpit of a 747, one whose controls shift location and function from day to day.
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@120 - God, I wish. I'd be a lot happier going to some dicey locations late at night if I didn't have to have my vagina with me.
128
I'm a bi woman, and I say it depends on the person you're giving head to. Some guys are easy to blow, some guys are harder (size matters). Some woman are highly orgasmic and very easily satisfied, others trickier. Sex is a very individual experience.
129
I went with sucking cock because eating pussy generally has a lot of hand work involved, which I think cuts down on the specific sucking/eating part of the enterprise, whereas cock sucking is mostly cock in throat when you're really getting down to making it happen and I think having something IN your mouth/throat is more physically and phsycologically taxing.
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@115 - Maybe I should have read the comments before I voted, that's a pretty convincing argument.
131
As a bisexual girl, I honestly think they are equally as difficult. Keeping your mouth moving for an extended period of time is taxing no matter the genitals. And if you are giving a good blowgun, there is much more involved than just bobbing up and down on a cock.
132
I regularly suck cock and eat pussy. I love doing both. In general I think guys are faster to get off; therefore the easier to perform oral sex on. I do however feel a much greater sense of accomplishment when the women reach orgasm than when the men do.
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Another bi girl here - it totally depends on the person receiving. If he/she is ready to orgasm as soon as you touch her/his genetalia, then it's easy regardless of which act you're performing. One thing I would say, on girls it's trickier to do a good job throughout. On guys, it's easier at first but when your jaw gets tired and he's about to come so he really wants to be in your mouth, then it's way more uncomfortable.
134
Straight woman here. I assume eating pussy is harder, longer, and takes finer motor control.
135
i've done both and sucking cock is harder. pussy just sits there. sure your jaw might hurt, but cock is intrusive and can be more unpredictable, and you have to stretch your mouth in odd ways that you normally don't. and your jaw can still hurt. then there's the jizz. both are difficult, but cock is harder. pun intended, heheh.
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If you love what you're doing and are GGG, neither is difficult! I've been told by men that I suck very well. It's not about bobbing up and down, it's about different techniques, slow, fast, licking, sucking, gagging, spitting and enjoying because the recipient is enjoying. And any woman I've ever eaten out says I do it better than most men, but then again I know what I like so that's easy to give!! And I'll repeat, if you love what you are doing you are going be well received!
137
38 yo bi-female here. I'm a big fan of both. Let me think, I've given about 100 successful blowies; 5X that in cunalingus. Pussy takes finesse, cocks are more physically cumbersome and taxing. Blow jobs get my vote.
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@134: Straight man here. I assume dicks are harder and longer.
139
For me, sucking cock is more physically taxing. I usually use two hands, one on the shaft, and one on the sack leaving me little support. Plus I have to suspend myself over the cock.

Licking pussy allows me to lay down and relax and really focus on one thing while she focuses on the same thing: what my tongue is doing.
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As a pansexual poly girl, I can say without a doubt that oral sex on a physically gendered woman is much more demanding, physically and mentally. Without specialized equipment (sex sling, bolsters, or something to get the vagina elevated so that my neck is not twisted and my hands are free from supporting my weight) it takes me about 2.5 times as long to please her.
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@16 - That's basically a typical night for Adrian Ryan.
142
As a bi gal, I'd say eating pussy is harder to do well, but sucking cock is going to kill your jaw faster. Also, sucking dick has different cultural baggage.
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Bi-woman here in relationship with two transwomen. Generally, women are more difficult for me because of the angles, the length of time and tongue movement required and my acute sense of smell. However, it depends on the person. I've had men who took ages to cum and gave me jawache and women who came pretty quickly.

-Urwen
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As a bi girl who enjoys doing both... I can say:

Sucking cock can be hard work! It's more than just bobbing your head up and down, there's pressure with your tongue and cheeks, and lips (to avoid teeth) and I usually have a hand right at the base, or cupping balls or fondling ass, and another hand either propping myself up or touching they guy (or myself). You have to relax and tighten your throat muscles at the right moments to make deep throating feel good and keep up the proper pace to get him off and maintain not gagging. Throat, cheeks and neck all get sore. And, learning what works for each guy *while* they cum, and keep in mind this tends to shoot directly at your gag reflex. Not all guys cum instantly from a blow job either, though yes a blow job is typically a much shorter duration to get your partner off than eating pussy.

All that said. I think eating pussy is more work. The workout with your tongue to keep *consistent* pace and pressure while using one or two fingers right under your chin, while propping yourself up and keeping your neck extended at an angle where you can still breathe. Neck, tongue, cheeks, arms, hand, fingers all get very exhausted very quick and the consistency and duration required become the challenge.

But please, keep in mind a *good* blow job isn't far away from just as much work.
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I've done a lot of both, and I say cock is harder. Angles, dangling off beds, misplaced elbows... that's the same regardless. But cock obstructs your ability to breathe AND causes gag reflexes, and we all know that once you start gagging its hard to stop. Lockjaw is another issue. There's far great variety in mouth shape/movement available to you while eating pussy, so that greatly reduces cramping.
146
Its apples an oranges really... Both are a labour of love, really... I love giving head, but I rarely get off from it so I'd say personal idiosyncrasies notwithstanding, they are about the same..
147

I'm sorry, but as one who has done a LOT of both, Eating Pussy is more difficult... not by much, but definitely by a little.

First, there's the problem of differing preferences in technique: does she like direct or indirect clitoral contact? How many fingers do I use, if any? Circular motions or back and forth or a variety of different motions (that goes for tongue AND fingers)? How much pressure? Does labial play excite her, or bore her? Tongue inside or no? Mix it up, or is she only capable of coming in a very specific way? Does she like a guy who will jump right in, or is she a little sensitive and prefers a guy who is more reserved? Meanwhile, I have never met a guy who needed anything more than a trained gag reflex, a wet hand, and some enthusiasm to come.

Then there's spontaneity. I shave every day and trim my nails every week, but depending on the girl and the time of day/week, that might not be enough (especially if she likes tongue penetration or manual/oral/anal play). But you don't want to trim your nails RIGHT before, because even if you file them they might still be too rough. And you don't want to shave RIGHT before, because your aftershave might irritate her delicates. And eating pussy is just like eating dinner - you want to wash your hands immediately before if you're putting your fingers inside her. Without proper planning that can be a spontanaeity killer. You've got a little more wiggle room with blowjobs. Just be well hydrated and excited.

And then there's the act itself. There's the angle of your hand, the angle of your head, the abrasion of your tongue rubbing against your bottom front teeth... there is no one position you can hold for thirty minutes without becoming incredibly uncomfortable. But when a girl says "Just like that" you damn well better keep doing it JUST LIKE THAT. But with a guy, yes there's more actual movement, but when you need to adjust you can keep that wet hand going while you... I don't know, tell him how much you want to taste his come, or suck his balls. That, in my experience, actually tends to expedite his orgasm.

But, for whatever reason, making a girl come is just so much sexier and more rewarding :-)
148
I'm a straight girl who loves giving head and can generally go without receiving it. My vag is very sensitive and requires more foreplay then guys are usually able to give, efforts at cunnilingus often just end up tickling me, and I have issues relinquishing control. I don't think these are uncommon issues among women, whereas I've never heard a guy complain about getting blown, so I think eating pussy is more difficult.
149
Why are so many people saying that the "usual" position for eating pussy is with the woman lying on her back and the guy propped up on his elbows? I'd much rather straddle a dude's face. Makes it much easier for him to use his hands as well.
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@149: Yeah, but then it's harder for us to come up for a breath. And that's especially important if a dental dam is involved; those fucking things are constantly waiting to cling to an unsuspecting cunnilinguist's nostrils.
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This Bi girl would like to say that sucking cock is definitely more physically demanding than licking pussy. (You are just covering a much bigger target area).

They both can have breathing and awkward position issues.
The time taken for a guy or girl to get off varies wildly, I've had between 5 mins to closer to an hour for both genders, and with either, if you're at it for a long time you can get aches.

On the plus side cocks are more responsive, so its easier to tell what works on a particular guy, whereas the signals from a girl can be more subtle.

In any case, if you're worried about tiredness, best advise is to make sure you play and tease them until they are gagging for it before you even start....
152
This bi-guy says eating pussy far surpasses sucking dick on the difficulty scale.
So much so, that I've successfully negotiated out of cunnilingus by offering to suck a strap-on before.
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This bi-guy (who has done more than his share of both) says eating pussy far surpasses sucking dick on the difficulty scale.
So much so, that I've successfully negotiated out of cunnilingus by offering to suck a strap-on before.
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To the original poster: Ask your sweetie to put a pillow under her lower back. It takes care of the "bending down" part of the equation!

Sucking dick can be hard if you have a small mouth, but it's more obvious as to what to do. Sucking pussy is more complicated, because every woman's different down there, and it takes more coordination. *shrugs* It's all good, so why worry about which is more difficult?
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Damn, #88, your post got me going!
156
A new poll suggestion: How long does it take you to have an orgasm from oral sex if you're female, or get your female partner off with oral sex?
157
I've never really thought about it, but I'm willing to do an experiment. You know, for science.
158
I'm a biguy. As soon as I read that comment this week, I thought exactly what the guy up there thought. You need physio after eating pussy, not that it's not fun. A dick is much simpler.
159
As a bi guy I have plenty of experience with sucking cock and eating pussy. They both have there quirks as to which is technically harder to do. I have found that sucking cock( depending on the cock) is generally easier and less straining. Short of some cock suckers cramp and ones neck getting tired from prolonged bob action it's usually the easier one to perform. In my experience most guys can't hold their load for more that 2-5 minutes anyways so it takes less time as well. I love eating pussy and with my giant hands I touch things women have never had touched before. Having said this getting into position for eating pussy is so important. If your going for a quick lick and on to fucking it's not as improtant. However if your going for orgasm (or multiple orgasms) you need to be in a ideal position so you don't strain your neck while licking and fingering her. I'm over six and a half feet tall so I just get on my knees on the floor and position her at the edge of the bed. This gives complete access to all parts with out straining your neck, let's you work your hands easily and let's you last longer with you tongue. Since most girls take a good 5-20 minutes if not longer to cum from oral stimulation it's best to be comfortable as your gonna be there a short while. As for taste they both have their ups and downs and it's a case by case basis for both sexes. I have come across some nasty tasting cum and pussy and both that are nearly flavorless. All in all sucking dick is easier and less time consuming but eating pussy is generally more rewarding especially when you initiate multiple orgasms in a short time span. Hope this helps with the debate, play safe everyone and have a great weekend.
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Anyone who thinks sucking cock is easy has never sucked my cock. I don't come easily anyway and it's especially difficult when someone's sucking because if you stop you have to start all over again.

It's amazing to me to read how different everyone is, and all the different ways people like to please and be pleased. A lot of people mention the use of hands, and 110 says most guys like the use of two hands with ball or ass stimulation, which would leave me trying very hard not to yell and push the poor girl away. No hands, please! And 99 says that the 69 position is a good one for eating cock, which surprises me because there's no way to get tongue stimulation on the sensitive part that way. And all the different comments and preferences on suction as well: just goes to show guys are definitely not all simple and all the same.

@149: Agreed! If that's the "usual" position it's no wonder so many people find eating pussy so difficult! That's an incredibly tricky and uncomfortable way to do it. I find the easiest way tends to be in the 69 position (without her sucking my cock) or with her legs up in the air (held there with restraints if necessary). Kneeling also works well.

@118: Who said that there were practical implications?
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If your neck hurts, poor baby, just have her sit on your face for chrissake.
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I'm straight but If I had to guess eating out is more technically tricky and complex can take a long time and can definitely be physically uncomfortable at times(definitely worth it though) Sucking dick looks like it would be much more physically uncomfortable and tiring much quicker having your mouth filled up by something, I imagine it can also be intimidating in a way that eating pussy is not, she can't exactly choke you on it lol. I have heard from ladies that it makes their jaw tired, eating out just makes my tongue tired.
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I have done both and I think that eating a woman out, to the point of orgasm, or in general for that matter, is much, much more difficult than giving a guy head. There are so many things that make the process more trying. Let's cover the basics first - The smell of a woman's vagina, excessive hair near the clitoris (I.E. - hair throughout your mouth or throat COUGH, COUGH.. not fun at all), the taste, the amount of time it takes, your position on the bed, etc. etc. As for a penis, it tastes and smells like nothing (unless the guy hasn't bathed or something, but men still don't have the same scent or taste issues that a woman might have) By the way, I am saying this from my own personal experience of doing both. Giving a guy head is super simple - the only thing that makes it hard, to me, is the strain on your mouth, and the taste of semen (if it even gets that far) but honestly, the taste of semen is nowhere close to the taste of vaginal juice (if it's tart or just flat out disgusting). In addition, a woman's clitoris and vagina is a somewhat confusing and very intricate organ. I am in my early 30's and I still feel like I am learning how to eat a woman out properly. What women like varies SO MUCH. For example, if you were to date a girl for say a year, and she prefers to have her vag eaten a particular way, trust me, if you start dating another woman, there will be some minor similarities in how she wants her pussy to be eaten in comparison to the other women that you have been with, but I guarantee you the process of having her reach an oral orgasm will be very different indeed. Guys not so much. Slow or fast, occasional teeth or no teeth, DONE. That's as deep as it goes for us!
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I think eating pussy is more technically difficult, and sucking cock can be very easy (as in the case of my ex, very small cock, came in 5-10 mins) or very difficult (as in the case of my husband, massively thick cock - great for sex, crap for oral and anal - never came from oral before me, only has a few times from me as it takes 20-30 mins which totally kills my jaw). Even a couple of mins of oral on my husband is pretty painful jaw-wise, and I love to give head generally. Having said this though, I've sucked a lot of cocks, but only eaten a little bit of pussy, so I may be biased. I found pussy eating physically much easier though.
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As a bisexual woman I could go for hours with my gfs. And do a good job and enjoy it. With mild discomfort. 5 minutes with my boyfriend is an eternity. Is a total chore fir me, extreme jaw ache and in retrospect I can't be very good if I don't enjoy it. It's worse when the guy isn't very understanding and still insists on grabbing your hair.. I do believe I have a tmj issue. But I've never had to work through tears in a girls lap! Most girls aren't porn stars. A bit of a smell and sweaty face is nothing compared to my suffering :(
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For me its easier to eat a woman than suck a man some men are easier some are harder depending on how they like stimulation but if you have a guy like mine who wants to try and shove the whole thing down your throat and make u like the balls which btw is alot further 2 stick out your tongue than u might think WHILE still trying to get some suction going on and trying to breathe and controlling your gag reflex while guarding your teeth from his crotch and trying too hum to get a little bit vibration stimulation going and going up and down while on your hands and knees and NOT being able to take a break by using ur hands for me it's WAY easier 2 eat a girl I use my hand to stabilize my head giving my neck a break while playing with her g spot and licking her clit at the same time

like i said not all men like the same stimualtion techniques this it just what my man likes some guys like more tongue some more suction i have even had 1 ex who liked teeth and a little nibble here and there it all depends on the guy how difficult/easy it is but generally i find women more easy 2 please i can eat a woman for hours but depending on the guy and amount of stimulation he needs and how long he normally lasts i can only suck 5-30 mins before i have 2 either stop or take a break
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Bi guy, here.

They both can have challenges, but a guy who takes a long time to cum is going to tire your jaw muscles more than a woman who takes a while. As for those of you with neck kinks eating pussy or sore knees sucking cock, then change you position for Chissake.

As for flavor, I think pussy tastes better than cum, but I like both. Except for bitter jizz, which happens a lot with smokers -- so I avoid them.

What I really want to do is go down on both sexes at the same time.

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