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1
For either, it really seems that the level of difficulty is variable upon an individual's natural aptitude and enthusiasm to get the job done.
2
I will alway my cock to be sucked by almost anyone who needs a cock for comparitive.
3
haha.. because when you're sucking cock your neck is never at a strange angle and you never have to hold uncomfortable or awkward positions for extending lengths of time. Heck, just learning to breathe properly to prevent your respiratory system from going into convulsion is a difficult skill to master....then of course there are all those other moving parts.

All that being said, I can see how eating pussy has it's own set of challenges and I'm eager to hear how someone who's skilled at both compares them.
4
I am totally curious why only bi-guys would have the answer. Wouldn't bi-girls have an equally valuable insight?

I am a straight girl and I don't know the answer. They are such vastly different skill sets, you know?
5
Well, shit, never mind. That last parenthetical was just added.
6
My experience is that cunnilingus takes between 2-7 minutes before an orgasm is achieved. If that's tiring, the tiniest amount of advance planning should take care of any discomfort, unless you're really just not keen on performing it.
7
I think this needs to be an officially binding Slog poll.
8
My $0.02: I've dated a couple guys for whom blow jobs were easy - didn't take long at all (read, under 5-10 mins). I've dated a few others for whom it was almost impossible to get them off that way (anything over about 15 kinda sucks, haha). I haven't dated as many girls, but in my experience across both genders, the real difference is how easy they are to get off. Both eating a girl out and giving head are uncomfortable after a while due to awkward positioning :-)
9
2 minutes!? BAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHHA
10
for the ease/comfort of the person doing it, position is everything.
11
Well gosh, there are so many factors to consider:
a) size, angle and curvature of the cock vs. your throat
b) gag reflex (why won't you just die already!)
c) sensitivity and arousal of the blowee
d) breathing
e) lockjaw
f) smelly/cheesy dicks
g) bad knees (I have worn out my patellas in servicing my community)
h) will the ending be bittersweet?
i) spit, swallow or snowball?
j) will he or she reciprocate, or does my hand get as cramped as my jaw?
12
how difficult it is is determined by how much effort you put into it.
13
Aheh..well, I answered in the original posting - I'm a bi guy and it totally depends on the person.

I love the taste of a woman - actually more than "musky" male smell - and in general, I find I don't mind being down there for a while. As far as the physical discomfort goes - yes, cunnilingus can require some contortions in order to make sure you can still breath, just as keeping an air passage open when a guy is down your throat is challenging. Both might involve contortions. On the other hand, if a guy is difficult to get off, then it's much easier to get a manual assist than it is for your tongue to survive that lactic anaerobic burn when you JUST HAVE TO GIVE MORE PRESSURE and JUST DO IT A LITTLE FASTER. I found the gag reflex harder to master (with a guy) than anything with a woman, though generally women can be trickier in terms of getting the stimulation just right.

In short: it really depends on the person you're trying to get off. There is something nice and definitive about male orgasm which is a bit more 'rewarding' than female. My ex girlfriend gave me lots of pointers on giving blowjobs.
14
I used to get a sore jaw from working on my wife, but never from working on my husband. Though after the first few months, my jaws got into better shape and my technique improved and it got much easier. But I've NEVER had any soreness when servicing a dick.
15
the tongue is the only muscle that never gets tired.
16
The writer describes the posture as if fellatio is done while casually leaning against the wall, the sort of thing one finds oneself accidentally doing at a party.

"Yes, that's all well and good, but you fail to take into account themft mfft flft fmfmmfff. Oh goodness. Was I sucking your cock just then? How long? Oh, how silly of me."
17
I agree that they both have their quirks but I think the ladies, in general, are more...challenging.
18
Definitely cunnilingus. My tongue may not get tired but my jaw sure does!
19
And if all you're doing is "bobbing up and down" you're doing it wrong.

And even just the bobbing can be a strain on the neck and shoulders.
20
What the fuck does "hasa diga eebowai" mean???
21
It's not harder but it is definitely more difficult.
22
@7 for the My Jaw Aches win.
23
I agree. 2 minutes is ridiculous. Maybe after the lady has spent some quality time with an item from Babeland.
24
I was pretty bad at sucking cock the first couple times I tried it, but I think that had more to do with nervousness; once I relaxed and got into it, I found it way easier than eating pussy. Part of it is the obvious feedback: If you're doing a bad job on a dick, you can feel the guy get a little softer, but the clues with a girl are less apparent. And it also might be because I'm a dude -- once I started thinking about what I'd like done to my dick, doing it to someone else's was not so difficult.
25
@6- you're doing it wrong.
26
If you're terminally uncreative regarding position, yeah, oral sex on a man is easier from a total-body comfort. But a long blowjob is much more taxing on your mouth muscles--and those are rarely used muscles, on most people, and therefore ones that get tired easier than your tongue or your hands. As a person who's done both, I could eat pussy all day, but sucking cock gets really tiring after the first fifteen mintues, and I have to take a break. I'd suggest to that reader that they really need to get creative on positioning, or just accept that they, like a lot of straight men, consider oral sex on a woman to be an onerous boring chore instead of fun.
27
The answer may have to do with the provider's enthusiasm for it. If it is "lip service" than I imagine it can quickly become tiring and if it is approached as the finest of meals to be consumed then one is less likely to notice discomfort of any sort. But I'm a girl who thinks men are the loveliest thing there is, so my thoughts on the subject aren't exactly helpful.
28
@15: the tongue is the only muscle that never gets tired

Well, my tongue can certainly get tired. Also, sometimes I find tears in my sublingual frenulum (the frenulum linguae, that tiny little piece of skin under your tongue that connects it to your mouth) after extended cunnilingus sessions.

Is it just me?
29
they're both hard in different ways. this is why sex counts as physical activity.
30
At least with eating pussy you don't have to worry about the gag reflex.
31
I love watching guys eat pussy. I've never seen one that looks like he's having any difficulty. And I don't think it's just good acting.
32
@16 WINNER.
33
Blow job, hands down. And seriously: us bi women are a parenthetical addition? Fucking kee-rist already.
34
You seem to be interested in only the physical challenges. That's too bad. The mental ones were definitely harder with the women I've been with as they tended to keep it a tight-lipped secret as to what got them off. Whatever. I also enjoy "diabolical" level Sudoku. For what it's worth I married the one who was the least like that.

So assuming we don't have access to suspension bondage gear I'll say that women are an insignificant degree harder to go down on (physically). No one is really very difficult unless they choose to be totally passive.
35
A blowjob requires somewhat more range of motion, but otherwise I notice no other difference in difficulty.

As for "what to do with your arms", well if you're doing it right you're holding you partner against the mattress so they don't bounce off.

The real mastery comes in rimming. Breathing without breaking the rhythm is a challenge.
36
I don't buy the "eating pussy is more taxing because of awkward positions" arg. How do you think you suck a cock on your stomach? Mostly by getting into that same awkward position with your neck craned AND THEN "bobbing up and down."

A pussy seems like an infinitely easier organ to orally please from one's back as well. And getting on your knees isn't a recipe for ease either, straight dudes. It's not just hard on your knees, you lower back and the arches of your feet also get involved in the discomfort, because due to the actual height of most guys cocks you'll spend most of your time in a sustained squat not a kneel.

And is anyone seriously considering the post-orgasm discomforts? I'll believe you can get a sore jaw from eating pussy.

(Though before you complain do me a favor: go get a toilet paper roll, stick it in your mouth, and leave it there for 7-10 minutes! And remember if you crush the roll you lose. How's the jaw feel?).

I'm not, however, so confident that eating pussy would rub the inside of your lips raw like you've had sandpaper (or a set of human teeth) slowly striping the skin off!
37
I can't offer a comparison, being a straight guy who would definitely suck at sucking cock. But as far as eating pussy goes (which is one of my bestest favoritest sexual activities), I'll agree with those above who said it depends on the people involved and their level of enthusiasm. Eating pussy comes easy to me, and I tend to instinctively find not-so-awkward positions to do them (e.g., let the girl rest in semi-sitting position against the pillows with her legs spread open, put your arms under her thighs so you can hold her by her hip while lying on your belly, and enjoy -- never had a problem with strain or cramps); but I do have my better and my worse days, and they influence my results much more than I'd have thought at first. The technique certainly helps -- by all means, do learn as much as you can about it -- but if you don't put your soul into it, your chances go down dramatically.

I note that it also depends on the girl in question -- how much she can relax and let it happen without having weird thoughts. Those who think it's 'icky' or that I'll probably hate them because of the odor or smell tend to be very difficult to please if you somehow manage to convince them to give it a try -- it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, as it were. (I was once with a girl who thought it was fine but couldn't come this way, basically because she was 100% sure that oral sex wasn't "real adult sex" -- we had long discussions about that...). Also, it seems some are physically more or less easy to please orally -- bodies differ, I gather.
38
If you think that sucking cock is like putting a toilet paper roll in your mouth, you probably shouldn't be doing it.

Also, you can totally suck dick lying on your back. But most guys getting sucked don't want to do that much work, even if you can get fucked in the face no problem.
39
@20 - "hasa diga eebowai" is a song from "The Book of Mormon." http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-IjBi1eEa…
40
Bi-girl here! I'm with Dan. I've found eating pussy is WAY easier than sucking dick. Gag reflex, jaw aches, uncomfortable bobbing and weaving? Ugh.
41
@27 O wretched world, there are so few like you!
42
I've tried both, and I like neither very much...um, unless I'm really REALLY horny and really in the mood. It may be my skill or particularities of the individuals but the guys I've gone down on have always been WAY more into it and appreciative than the girls. In that way I think guys are easier. The guys I've been with have been more relaxed about having my head down there and not as self-conscious. (In short, girls have been more difficult for ME.) I think it's also important to mention that, as a guy, I know what areas and things are most arousing for me and generally they've gotten good results on other guys.
43
i find both are so fun to do that the "which is more difficult" issue not a major factor @ all, that's not to say there aren't minor downsides involved with either at times but really not enough so as to matter, imo.
44
It is possible for your muscles to get tired working on both cocks and pussies, so I think that's a wash. But I will make two notes:

1. On the whole, pussies seem more likely to be sensationally tricky than cocks. Exceptions aside, and also acknowledging that just because most cocks are pretty easy to operate doesn't mean there isn't room for improved technique, by and large there are more picky pussies than picky cocks.

2. If you get tired while sucking cock, it's usually pretty easy to use your hand for a bit. That is, there is not an anatomical limitation (barring intervention from whatever position you're in) to doing so. No matter where you are in relation to your partner, you can pretty much always wrap a hand around the cock and take a breather. This is not true for pussies, particularly taking into account #1, above.

Let's say you are lying face down between your partners legs and want to take a break. If she likes clitoral stimulation, you have basically one option: you have to put your hand flat, palm towards the pussy and fingers up, and rub. If you do this, your hand is now blocking the pussy, preventing you from any sort of less intensive but still nice licking (cf, using your hand on a cock and just licking the tip). Plus, this is actually a slightly odd angle for your elbow, and it'll probably get tiring relatively quickly.

Things are slightly easier if she prefers vaginal stimulation, though you may need to shift your body up towards her stomach. This has the added bonus of leaving the clitoris open for light licking during this break, a la the cock-tip-lick mentioned above.

Thus, in general I think it is harder, in most positions, to take a break with your mouth and maintain manual stimulation during cunnilingus than during fellatio. This is compounded by the relatively higher pickiness of most pussies as compared to most cocks; options are already slightly more limited during cunnilingus, and any pickiness is likely to simply reduce these options even further.

Therefore, on the whole, I think it is often tactically harder to lick a pussy than it is to suck a cock, while the difficulty re: oral muscle fatigue is essentially a wash.
45
both are awesome, anybody think that either is too hard, I'll gladly take your place.
46
@15: BITCH PLEASE.
The tongue doesn't get tired, but the muscles in the floor of the mouth that you use to extend your tongue sure do.
Basically what #18 said.
47
Well, I think the problem is how you define "easier" and "more difficult".

You've got three concepts being intertwined. There's

1 Physical difficulty, how taxing it is for long periods of time.
2 Intuitiveness
3 Orgasmic potential.

I see for 1, that giving head to a man is more involved and difficult, when physical factors are involved. 2 is far more personal, some people need more training and tricks than others, especially between person to person. 3 is what some commenters in the previous thread were bringing up, which is fairly unfair method of comparison with no other context. More difficult to *you* is not more difficult to all. Plenty of guys are more difficult to get off through oral as well!
48
I'm gonna have to go back and read these when I have a bit more time. Good thing you added that last parenthetical, Dan.

I have to say, the two are very different. In a woman there's a lot less area to cover with your tongue. As a woman, her equipment is very familiar, and I had a much better time of it figuring out how to get a woman off than I did the guy at first (kinda funny, but my first few times with a guy, I was too worried about how strong, how hard, teeth, OMG -- look, guys make such a big deal about how sensitive their crotches are, OK?).

But a guy's cock is a lot of fun once you get past that. Hm. I can't say which is more difficult. They are each a lot of fun. Girls can take a long time, though. I've had kinked necks, numb tongues, tangled arms, etc, with either.
49
@15: "the tongue is the only muscle that never gets tired."

whaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaat
50
I wonder what the quickest Slog post to a triple digit comment count was. This things at 39 as I write this, but then I also took a good deal of time to read through the comments and have taken a couple calls here at work. Fun times!
51
The difficulty in a blowjob rests largely on how big the cock in question is. If he's really thick, it's going to be a pain in the jaw. With eating pussy, it all comes down to how long it takes her to get off, which is a problem still present with men. Yeah, sure, guys might come faster from the ol' in-and-out than a woman, but they tend to be about the same when it comes to oral, IME. Or maybe I'm just really fucking good at eating pussy.

So as far as difficulty goes, I've got to say it's sucking cock. My jaw doesn't ache much after eating somebody out, but it's pretty much a guarantee cocksucking will do just that.
52
Huh. It's a little hard to see which answers are from the bi guys and which from the bi women...? Since my theory is the guys will find guys easier and girls the girls easier.
53
Not bi, but consider where your nose is when you eat pussy vs sucking cock. How the hell did the original letter miss that and mention "where do you put your arms"?
54
Being a straight woman who's never eaten pussy my opinion is based only on my cocksucking experience and having had plenty of experience having my pussy eaten. I have NEVER had a guy involuntarily gag and puke all over me or have trouble breathing, even first timers. Those however are frequently problems when sucking cock, especially when you are first learning, have a hair trigger gag reflex, or an overenthusiastic partner. That's the other thing that isn't a problem with eating pussy, if the woman starts thrusting her hips it's not likely to end badly.

I love sucking cock and could do it until my jaw fell off but it's not effortless.
55
I wonder what comment #69 will have to say about this issue.
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@44: to point #2 try this: Take your hand and lay it palm down on her pubic mound with your thumb over her clit. Move your thumb up and down or in little circles over the clit while you take a break. This leave the rest of the vulva exposed and available for stimulation, try running your tongue over the inner labia or between the inner and outer labia (which at least for me is an incredibly sensitive area).
57
Eating pussy is DEFINITELY harder than sucking cock, for all the reasons mentioned. I usually need to go to a chiropractor after a session in the vaj but sucking cock is quick and easy.
58
As an avid performer of oral sex, I'd have to say that it's really apples & oranges.
59
Eating pussy is harder...plus it's not quite as obvious what to do with your tongue ring for maximum pleasure at any given time.
61
lets not forget the third option
62
Finally, a topic on which I am personally qualified to pontificate!

I'm giving the nod to pussy-eating, but it's really a lot closer than either Dan or his reader seem to think. They both can get pretty uncomfortable after a while, but I think with a cock you have a lot more possible angles of approach, and when your tongue/throat starts getting tired you can bring your hands into play without having to break your rhythm very much. With cunnilingus, there's only really one viable angle if your partner doesn't feel like doing a 69, and as Dan's reader noted, you can give yourself some really epic neck pain if your partner requires more than a few minutes of attention. Also, even if you're well-practiced, the tongue just kinda gets tired after a while: with a cock you can let the other guy do a lot more of the work.

(This is all modulo the deepthroating issue, which is hard to learn but easy to do once you've learned it.)
63
As someone who has more experience with pussy than cock, I have to admit that I've never found eating pussy particularly taxing in any position, except maybe kneeling in front of her while she stands. And on a related note perhaps suggested by that last image, ball-gag related discomfort tells me that keeping your mouth open for 10-15 minutes is the deciding factor.
64
@58 - don't you mean it's really a tuna and bananas comparison?
65
How do you do it, Dan? How do you get so many comments on such a throwaway topic?
66
You know, if you find the position uncomfortable, we're always willing to move. I'm quite happy to move (several miles, if need be) to get eaten out.
67
Straight dude here and unqualified to answer, but that's not going to stop me. I'd say each CAN be as difficult as the other. However, it generally takes longer for a woman to orgasm than for a dude. The customary position for a blowjob (on knees, dick straight up and down) is more ergonomic than the most typical position for cunnilingus (woman on her back, flat on the bed, pussy perpendicular to the axis of the giver's torso). Both require the jaw to work pretty hard, but cunnilingus also requires you to move your tongue energetically well outside of its typical range of motion. With a blowjob, the tongue's pretty much where it always is: inside your mouth.

I would therefore say that cunnilingus is GENERALLY more taxing than a blowjob (specific results may vary, check local listings for more details). Scientifically speaking, I don't see how you could argue otherwise. Maybe Mythbusters could tackle this one? (Hahahahahaha - geeks everywhere would tune in on the off chance they used some sort of force gauge on some dude's jaw while he worked over Kari Byron.)

It does get substantially easier if the woman straddles your face, and might I just unscientifically add: there's nothing hotter than watching a woman writhe above you in pleasure from that vantage point. N-O-T-H-I-N-G.
68
@55 need to work on your timing, dude.
69
I can't make heads or tails of this issue.
70
I definitely agree that eating pussy often takes longer! It's also a more complicated process. But I wouldn't say sucking dick is always simple...
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@55 - I hope my @69 lived up to your expectations.
72
Thrusting my tongue out of my mouth gets tiring a lot faster than I get lockjaw. Gay dudes, think about rimming...which is easier to do for 20 minutes? Suck cock or rimjob? I think Sucking Cock is a lot easier...but YMMV.
73
This queer girl votes "sucking cock," hands down! Won't anyone consider the jaw pain? Oh, that ache in the back of the jaw? No one?
74
Nice one, CRTWT.
75
Eating pussy is extremely difficult if you are uncreative with positioning and suck at stimulating labia as much as the second LW.
76
@28 I am right there with you on the sublingual frenulum tearing. I had a dentist offer to snip mine. At the time it sounded too painful and I didn't see the benefit. Now I am wondering if he was thinking about my future pussy eating. Back to the topic, I've had considerable experience with both. For me and the men I've blown that experience has been seamless. All good. With women, more complex. I've enjoyed it, and there has been ambiguity. I voted for women being more taxing and physically trickier. I prefer giving to receiving in both cases.
77
My wife and I were discussing this and she went on about how hard it is to maintain suction while giving head. I actually had no clue she was literally sucking cock. She was completely surprised that suction wasn't needed.
78
Homoflexible woman here. While my lesser degree of experience with men might seem to be the reason why I'm arguing that blowjobs are more taxing, it's not - along with being surprised to discover the flexible part of "homoflexible" in my late twenties, I was also surprised to learn that I actually enjoy giving blowjobs, something that I always thought would be totally icky. And I never really liked going down on women (for reasons having nothing to do with ickiness). That being said, while there are certainly physically taxing elements to the latter, most of my lack of enthusiasm for that activity is that it's boooooooooooooring. And if she sits on a chair and you kneel, it's actually a much less strenuous angle than the analogous blowjob position. Giving blowjobs, in my opinion, is both more interesting and more taxing. At least, if the cock in question is at all sizable, it's definitely more taxing. And, while my starter cock belonged to a trans girl, who was a very gentle introduction to the task at hand, the first man that I blew was enough of an asshole about it (putting enough pressure on my head to make me gag more than once, even though he knew that I had a cold and should have been extra careful given that my nose was out of breathing circulation) that I probably wouldn't have done it again if I hadn't had such a positive experience with my girlfriend. Which is to say that, while I've never had a woman MAKE things be more physically taxing, it's certainly always a possibility with men.
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@28 - No, it's not just you. My sublingual frenulum gets little tears as well and is usually sore the next day or two after a good tongue lashing!

Having done both, I think giving girls head is a little more difficult. Although both are quite enjoyable!
80
My $0.02: fellatio is more exhausting/painful, cunnilingus takes a bit more focus, but takes a lot longer before i burn out. And a would like to add my objection to bi women being some tacked-on demographic. Dan needs to do better at being a gay dude who doesn't disregard women.
81
For me, I love giving head to guys and girls and am always enthusiastic to go for it, which makes a big difference in the responses you elicit, I'd imagine. If someone was reluctant to go down on me, or scared they'll do it wrong, or shy, it would be less likely to be good because their anxiety or self-consciousness would make me more uncomfortable, so I'd enjoy it less.
In general, I found that guys take less time but there's more movement in the neck and creating... I don't know, suction? My jaw has gotten tired a few times on the odd time that I couldn't get a guy off within half an hour of blowing him, at which point I'd usually "hand things off" to a less tired part of my body. Or to him.
With women, I find that because my head stays in mostly the same area, I can do it for much longer, which is good because I find I have to go for substantially longer to get a woman off than a man.
I guess I should also factor in that I'm a young woman and I'm sleeping with young women. The women I've slept with have been very sexually inexperienced and have rarely gotten to climax even by themselves, so they aren't really sure what they enjoy. I like direction, without it, it's all guess-work and going down on a woman there's a LOT to guess. The equipment is tricky and varied. It's usually simpler to figure out with guys, especially since the guys I've been with all had been masturbating frequently since they were young (unlike the women) so they had an idea of what they did like.
The men were also more vocal about what they did like. For all that is said about women being good at communication, I've found men to be better at communicating what they like in bed.
But I've had more neck and jaw soreness after going down on women than on men, for sure, even adjusting to comfortable positions. Mostly, due to time length.
Well worth it, though.
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@77 - I see actually a few guys on here saying suction isn't necessary. That's what I thought after my first boyfriend who didn't like suction. Then I had several encounters with requests for some suction. Then one request for EXTREMELY-HARD TO-PERFORM-ALMOST-CONSTANT suction. It depends on the guy. Some guys like suction, some don't.
I also think this question is very subjective. If you're with a girl who comes quickly, or you've been stimulating her manually before giving her head, sure it happens sooner and is less taxing. I'm interpreting the question as "What is more taxing when this is the only activity performed on the person - giving head to a guy or giving head to a girl - and nothing prior." (Excluding making out.)
83
If you are in an uncomfortable, awkward, position while eating pussy, you are doing it wrong. If it's taking forever for her to get off, you are doing it wrong. Maybe it's taking her so long because of your awkward position.
Sucking cock: lockjaw, drymouth, watch out for those teeth! Gag reflex, rythmn.

I enjoy both, prefer penis. But, I find BJ's to be more difficult.
84
On sucking cock:
You taste a guy the whole time when you're blowing him. You can gouge the insides of your lips from dutifully wrapping them around your teeth so you don't scrape his cock. And if you're a good cocksucker, you use your tongue.

On eating pussy:
Guys who complain that their tongues get sore 'flicking' the clitoris or who hurt their necks nodding or shaking their heads back and forth should just STOP. I've never met a woman who got off on having her clit 'flicked'. Suck, kiss, press your tongue flat or stick it inside as far as your sore frenulum will let you (we do appreciate your sacrifice). If you feel awkward lying on your stomach with your face between a woman's legs, try kneeling on the floor and having her at the edge of the bed; you won't have to crane your neck or support yourself with your arms.

But STILL, sucking cock is easier (and granted, usually more enjoyable) than eating ass, but I think eating ass would be way easier if the prostate were sitting at the top of the anus like the clitoris sits at the top of the vulva.
85
As a bi girl, I think we are the best barometer of this question because we know how the female equipment works first hand, and you'd think that would help, but the fact is that women are more individualized as to what gets them off, and men are all pretty much the same (suck and it will blow). I think it is actually a close call, depending somewhat on penis size (bigger is more difficult), but overall I've worn myself out more trying to get women off. I don't know that eating pussy is more difficult so much as more awkward and generally it takes longer. So, I'd conclude that as to which is more physically taxing, eating pussy wins, by a hair :)
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@83 Some women aren't orgasmic. Some women aren't orgasmic until later in life. Sometimes women are orgasmic, but don't come every time they have sex. I'm one of the latter. Doesn't mean I don't enjoy being eaten out. Of course, most partners do try to get me to come even if I'm not sure I'm going to, and I'm always up for trying. Most women I've been with have felt the same. It's not "wrong" if a woman doesn't climax. Sometimes that happens. I can't be the only person who finds sex fun even when I don't come, right? Just because I don't always climax, doesn't mean I didn't "get off" mentally.
It's not necessarily that the position is uncomfortable, it's that many positions become uncomfortable if you're in them for a long time. If a lady's legs are off the ledge of the bed and I'm kneeling on the ground face-in-her-twat, that's very comfortable for me. But after a really, really long time, it's not anymore. And yes, there is switching positions, but a stop in stimulation can lead to the ramping up of intensity to just... plummet.
87
As a heteroflexible female I have to say that getting a guy of with your mouth(and hands) is more taxing/tricky than getting a girl off with your mouth (and fingers). At least if you're doing it right ;)
88
I have never kissed a penis, so I wouldn't know how difficult it is.

(Though my wife makes it seem effortless.)

As for kissing a pussy, I usually have my wife lie with her legs over the edge of the bed (while on her back)(We have a high bed, with the top about the height of my upper thighs when I stand) so I can kneel between her legs, or a classic SOMF. The former gives me the best access and range of motion, the latter gives her the same. Both let me use head and hands together (and heart).

I love my wife, and I worship and adore her pussy. As it happens, I was a brass instrumentalist through high school, so I have a (very) well trained tongue and lips. I have been told that I am a very good kisser, but nowadays and for more than 20 years only my wife knows for sure (Personally, if you're doing it right, it IS sex with your clothes on. Nothing like ditching your kids for a little you-are-my-world in the shadows of the Empire State building observation deck.). If you know brass instruments, I can still double, and for a short while triple, tongue, though my embouchure isn't anywhere near what it once was. The double and triple tonguing means moving your tongue in a rippling wave like motion down the length of tongue with strength and speed. That means that since my wife and my tongue are just the right size I can lick her G-spot with the tip, while stimulating her urethra and her clit with progressively more towards the root at the same time (though it is exhausting). Since the kneeling position leaves both hands in play, I can gently massage and pinch her mons and clit from above, finger/knuckle her G-spot from below, and, lately, gently suck on the area around her urethra (or whatever else fits in feedback to her motions) at the same time. Why am I going into detail? Because that's what she's taught me over the course of being partners, and I want to praise my teacher.

Insofar as difficulty is concerned, the enemy of the O is the chowder of our hectic lives. I know for certain that a gushing orgasm will never compete with scheduling conflicts and a bad week at work. It is delightfully shocking how quickly that can change with the kids out of the house for an afternoon romp. I've read that the route to good sex can often lie through the clothes washer, and I need to be better about testing that. My point is cunnilingus is difficult not only from the technique side, but especially from the relaxing the brain side (and that nowadays is very, very hard to do).

Peace.
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I can't believe the poll is pointing toward cunnilingus as the more difficult task. I have extensive experience doing both, and I have always felt that blowjobs are more difficult.

It's true that on average I have to spend longer going down on women than I do on men. Everything else is pretty equal on average - stiff neck, sore jaw/tongue/other facial muscles, need for concentration - except for the penetrative aspect, and that makes all the difference. For me, the gag reflex is the biggest challenge, much bigger than considerations of time and mental effort. With women, I can go down for hours without feeling overly taxed just because of the absence of gagging. I don't have an unusually sensitive gag reflex, but it is there, and aside from the discomfort, it makes my eyes water even if I don't deep-throat. The watery eyes lead to a runny nose ... it's a problem sometimes.

Anybody else have that problem?

All of this being said, I find oral sex very erotic and enjoyable regardless of my partner's equipment. Blowjobs just take a lot more out of me.
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jesus, i wasn't serious. i just heard it somewhere as an encouragement for guys to eat pussy. back when it wasn't de rigeur.

the tongue could get tired, sure. at least it's more likely than the heart, a muscle which doesn't stop until it stops.
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@89 - yes, after an enthusiastic blowjob, my face is often covered in snot and tears. Guys seem to find it endearing :-)

(After going down on a woman, my face is covered in other kinds of juices :-)

For those of you with trouble coming from oral, my husband and I have both been using porn (visual for him, stories for me) during oral, to help with what Married in MA (@88) called "the relaxing the brain" issue.
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With a dick, it's obvious what to do. A pussy requires more nuance, which I'd equated with greater difficulty. I had mistakenly thought that was generally the default understanding.
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@76 I was born with a extra long frenulum. My nurse mother made sure it was snipped while I was a newborn. I can't recommend it enough. Go back to that dentist.

(For those curious for more details, the doctors told my mom that they should just wait and see, and if speech therapy didn't help me then they might go ahead and snip it. I think taking care of that for me and not subjecting me to speech difficulties might be one of the best things my mom ever did for me.)
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I feel bad for my boyfriend sometimes. He is down there for a long time (although he is amazing at eating my pussy <3) and I am down there for him for all of 5 minutes. Pussy is much harder. And I ate one once, my mouth hurt for at least a day after. That never happened after sucking cock.
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I've had my lip busted open from a girl thrusting up, but it doesn't compare to the pains of sucking a cock.

Neck pain, jaw pain, numb lips, gagging, watering eyes, aching knees, arms gettig tired or falling asleep, tired tongue, and just general discomfort after a while.

In my experiences, there are many more mouth tricks one can perform on a cock than a pussy, making it more challenging and difficult.

Cocks are just all around harder ... to give oral to.
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Personally I find pussy harder than cock, but it really depends on what your partner likes and/or how big the cock is. There is overlap, but I find the most difficult pussy maneuvers are harder than the most difficult cock maneuvers.
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Love this thread!!

@33: Clearly, you put a lot into your blow jobs. That's awesome.

@91: That is most definitely endearing.
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If you are putting proper effort into the cock sucking it is definitely harder. But totally worth it!!!
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Straight guys!!! You can get a sense of the cock sucking experience by going to your neighborhood grocer and picking out the zucchini or banana of your choice. Size matters. Go smaller for these important baby steps.

Having now been married to both a woman and a man, I'd say eating pussy was easier - the *one* time I did it - and the 2,000 times I've sucked cock, it just gets progressively easier as you get adjusted to it. 69 is the obvious position of choice because it's easier to get your tonsils whitewashed when your guy's Mr. Happy is aimed in the right direction and you have a far better chance of relaxing the gag reflex. Moderate to small - but STIFF - for me. I don't like the whoppers. More than a mouth full is a waste.

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Bi girl chiming in - cocks are physically more taxing, pussy is more technically taxing. I can eat pussy with both lying on the bed, eating cock is so much easier with him sitting in a chair. Simple.
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As far as this survey is concerned, the only way for it to be officially binding is to know the percentage of genders responding. Guys are totally more likely to respond that their cocks are so easy to suck and that pussy is a challenge whether or not they have sucked cock, or eaten pussy for that matter.

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